I really really wanna cut myself but i heard its not worth it,and im so close to doing it.how do i stop myself

Question

i feel so neglected by family and no one cares, everytime i try talking to my mom she either yells or gets an attitude and thnt make it even more tempting,im so ready to cut but i dont want to plz help!!!

Answer 1

There are times in life we are neglected by others, family, friends, etc... but the thing is you have to try to love yourself the way you are, No matter what others tell you ( they may say you're not good enough or they may simply not love you! ) remember that we are born alone and we are supposed to live our life only by ourselves. We must be strong enough to take responsibility for who we are, otherwise we will be hurt along our life. try to focus on yourself and what you like. whatever others tell you is just not always right, they don't know you the way you do. I sometimes felt the same and I know what you mean. no one ever cares. everyone cares about himself, it's not their responsibility to care about you. You must take care of yourself on your own.

so you can try to see your life as a movie or a story, and try to make your role the best you can in that part. you don't need to be anything better than what you are or anything they expect. it's your life, you can do whatever you like and simply be unique. You are unique! have you ever thought about this? that if you're gone there is some place in the universe empty that nobody else can fill it? it misses you. so the world needs you. You are UNIQUE.

always remember that good things and bad things, Everything always passes in life, I used to write something on my room's wall ( This Too Will Pass! ) so whatever! you better watch everything as a happening that will DEFINITELY pass. Suicide is just a way of giving up before the game is complete, you are not a loser, no one is, it doesn't matter how you live your life, most of the time you win your life, so forget losing. You will definitely win. :)

I hope it'll help you because I had the same problem years ago & I think it's normal. everyone has this moments, try not to lose control of your life and remember that there is a god somewhere watching us. i know you can be yourself :)

Answer 2

Make an appointment to see a GP immediately, they will do an assessment of your situation and will most likely refer you to a psychologist who will teach you techniques to employ when you feel like cutting. If the doctor thinks it is a good idea, they may also prescribe you an antidepressant medication. Often the best treatment is the combination of medication and techniques from the psychologist Please take this advice!  

Answer 3

you need to talk, Ya is a start, yet someone real would be better. most city's have help regarding such issues, some even do free call center's. but really cuts hurt, so here's a poem i remember from such thought back in my youth.

           Resume D Parker.

Razors pain you.

river's are dam,

acids stain you.

and drugs cause cramp.

Gun's aren't lawful,

nooses give,

gas smells awful'

might as well live...........

Answer 4

Cutting yourself is never the answer.  If you feel that you are at a point where that is the only option, please seek help.

Help can be found in many different places.  There is a great website for called teencentral.net which allows you to connect with both other teens going through the same thing and professional adults who are there to help.

When the new school year begins, you might find that talking with your school counselor can help.

Whatever you do, remember that you are the only you.  If you damage or destroy your body you won't get another one.  Everyone deals with stressful situations, but you will overcome this and it will make you a better, more compassionate person because of it.

Good luck and remember... There are people everywhere that care about you and your well being.

Answer 5

Don't. Watch a comedy movie or do something you enjoy. Talk to someone about it. Your mother probably doesn't understand the seriousness of your problem. Open with telling her straight out to get it over and done with.

Try distracting yourself. Trust me, if a person feels that emotionally drained and they can only feel something by causing themselves pain, they should really cosider anti-depresent drugs. My aunt actually had 2 suicide attempts and chronic depression runs in my family. I suffer from it to, but I've never considered self harm.

If you are, play a game, read a book. Do some yoga or something.

Answer 6

what will cutting yourself prove hun? Why scar yourself, no one is suffering but you if you cut yourself. Its just not worth it, your better than that!

Write your mum a letter..see a school councillor..talk to a teacher..there are other paths to take, ones that wont leave u bleeding.

Answer 7

don't cut yourself fool! What will it solve?more pain. punch pillows or something like that.

Answer 8

i do this azwel sometimes..but it doesn't particularly help. it does come across as attention seeking and if you hadn't heard about others doing it would you be doing itself? i hate people who do it because they they think its "in"..if talking doesn't help then..try screaming? that should get your mums attention.

xx

Answer 9

You're quite right that it won't help you It will get attention from people but not the kind you need. You should talk to the school counsellor or even your own family doctor. Depending on your age they don't have to notify your parents that you asked for help but they will if you ask them to.

You sound so terribly alone and all I can offer you is a word of care. I am so sorry that you find yourself surrounded by people who can't give what you need. But hurting yourself will not change that. People do care and many of them are closer than I am and can offer you the help you need.

i cried when I read your post. People DO care. You tell the school counsellor first thing at school. Someone will help you. It was very smart to come here instead of hurting yourself.

Peace love and Joy to you

Answer 10

Ok so I have never had the urge so maybe this is a stupid question and will drive you crazy.  But irrelevant of all the stuff you have said....what will cutting yourself do to help?

I am sure people care about you and I don't want you to cut yourself and I am a total stranger, so look even a total stranger cares! Sometimes family is hard and you can think they don't care when they do.  If you are having these feelings, for starters you need to hide the razor blades! Then you need to find someone to chat to, not sure who you are close to but someone, or even a help line.  You are struggling and lots of people go through the same thing, so as you want to stop yourself, I see that as the first step.  Get on the phone to a helpline as soon as you feel the urge.  Good luck.

Answer 11

Sometimes it helps, but it is not the best way to handle the abandonment and the stress. You can risk infection, scaring your tissue and skin, nerve damage, or even severing an artery, which is followed by death.

By the way, in a legal stance, you are being abused. Ignoring your feelings and denying emotional support falls under emotional neglect/abuse. Your mother may yell hen you try to discuss things with her because she fears being a failure, the cause of your pain, unable to had helped you, and therefor you are an adversary challenging her parenting, authority, and her, as a person.

I suggest talking with a school counselor for dealign with your problems, and address your parents on how family therapy could be a good thing, without offending or making your parents feel threatened.

Coping with emotional abuse:

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Coping with suicidal thoughts:

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Coping with thoughts of suicide:

I know you haven't cut yet, but: http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/pro...

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1. Play Music

Play music that creates an emotion that is the opposite of the one you are struggling with. For example, if you are feeling very sad, play happy, upbeat music. If you are feeling anxious, play slow, relaxing music.

2. Do Something

Engage in a highly engaging activity. Television or computer activities do not count here -- these are too passive. Instead, take a walk, dance, clean your house, or do some other activity that gets you engaged and distracts you from your current emotions.

3. Call Someone

Reaching out to others can really help when you are struggling with strong emotions. Call a supportive friend or family member. If you don’t have someone in mind that is supportive, call a helpline (for example, in the U.S. you can call the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-TALK).

4. Pray

Are you a religious or spiritual person? If you are (or even if you’re not but have considered trying), praying can be tremendously helpful in times of extreme stress.

5. Ride It Out

The peak of most strong emotional reactions (and the urges to engage in harmful activities, like self-harming or drinking, that can go along with these reactions) last for a few minutes and then begin to subside. Grab an egg timer from the kitchen, and set it for 10 minutes. Wait the 10 minutes, and practice riding out the emotion.

6. Be Mindful

Practice mindfulness of your emotion. Notice the emotion you are having, and let yourself experience it as a wave, without trying to block it, suppress it, or hold on to it. Try to accept the emotion for what it is.

7. Breathe Deeply

Sit or lie somewhere quiet and bring your attention to your breathing. Breathe evenly, slowly, and deeply. Watch your stomach rise and fall with each breath.

8. Take a Warm Bath or Shower

Try to lose yourself in the sensations of the warm water, the smell of the soap, etc. Allow the sensations to distract you from the situation you are upset about.

9. Ground Yourself

When emotions seem to be taking you out of the current moment (e.g., you are starting to feel “zoned out” or can’t see anything else going on at the moment), do something to ground yourself. Grab an ice cube and hold it in your hand for a few moments, snap a rubber band against your wrist, “snap yourself back” into the moment.

10. Help Someone Else

Do something nice for someone else. It doesn't have to be something big; you can walk to the nearest store, buy a pack of gum, and give the cashier a smile and say "have a great day." It may sound silly, but small gestures like this can really reduce emotional pain.

Answer 12

Um... Hm. Firstly do not cut yourself. It would be a bad decisicion and could probably cause you to feel worse about yourself. So generally, find other means of facing your problems, counciler perhaps, i have been to one, it isnt scary, it isnt humiliating, they are just there to help. And it does help.

Answer 13

Please dont do it! Ive had troubles to and feel so lonely you feel like the world will end. I cut myself when i was 15 till about 20 and now evertime I look down at my arms it reminds me of that bad place I was in. It may feel like a release and the thing you really want to do but it really doesnt help you, just make things 100 times worse. You can talk to a doctor, counsellor, teacher, or there is many forums on family troubles on the internet. I would urge you to talk to a professional. Deppression is an illness and it needs treating just like any other illness. I personally couldn't talk to strangers so i used a very close friend who I knew wouldn't judge me. Eventually I managed to stem down to the problem that was making me feel this way and my depression stopped. I now concentrate on increasing my self esteem and self belief. Don't keep this to yourself, the more you think of your troubles the more you start to believe its true and blame yourself. Life will throw so many things at you and its up to you how to deal with this. Either let it defeat you or make you stronger. Its not easy and will not happen over night but when you beat all the demons inside you, you feel like a refreshed, new person who will be able to tackle anything! Please take care and when you feel the urge to cut yourself take a deep breath and think about what you are really doing, your just making a reminder of the bad feelings you have and thats not going to help you.  

Answer 14

beleive me you dont want to cut yourself.. i did when i was younger and all it done was got me hospitalised on medication and now i have ugly scares on my arms..so honestly you dont want to do that.