I really want a promise ring or anything!?

Question

I was reading some people's questions about promise rings, because recently I have been really interested in them. I'm 18, and have seen high school girls with promise rings (only one of them who had a ring are still together). I never truly knew what it was meant for though, until now. It makes me kind of want one. People say that it is meant for high schoolers, but I feel like if I had one, it would be a great way to show people that I am taken, and plan to spend my life with my boyfriend. Which is what I intend to do (no one tell me that I'm only 18, I don't know what love is - I hear that all the time but how does anyone truly know how I feel. I had long relationships before, they just weren't right for me. I know my boyfriend now is). I'm not going to ask him for one or anything, because I would appreciate it more if he got it on his own. I just wanted to know what everyones opinions were about them, or anything representing a commitment to a significant other.

Answer 1

Promise rings are very kiddie.  Cute in a way...but some other piece of jewelry would work as well.  At your age, people would just assume you had a really really really cheap or broke fiance.

Answer 2

First, I will never tell you that you are too young. I had heard that my whole lie and it drives me crazy.

I just got married (one month before I turned 18) to the love of my life. We were together for over 3 years in a healthy relationship. So anyways, I got my promise ring on my 16th birthday.

For us it represents a lot. It represents our promise to be faithful to each other and always work at out relationship. But the biggest deal was that we were both virgins and it was a promise to stay pure till our wedding night.

And we kept every promise:) We are so happy, now I am pregnant and I couldn't be happier! I wish we would have gotten married even sooner. I just love being married:)

Anyways, needless to say.... I still wear my promise ring:) on the ring finger of my right hand.

Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 3

last I've heard of promise rings, I was in grade school. If you really want a promise ring... put the pic of the ring u want as his background on his computer. haha just kidding...

but seriously, he may not want u to get excited when you see it and think he is proposing :)

Answer 4

don't ask, wait til he gets you one... IF he gets you one

Answer 5

your so right.you know what you want and if your truly in love being 18 does not matter. it is between you and your boyfriend and nobody else don't let anybody tell you different.(also promise rings are very mature and say you are serious about this)

Answer 6

i think its great.

i want one too.

ive picked one out

at kay's lOl

Answer 7

I'm not fond of promise rings, and it has nothing to go with young love or couples. I just think that your ring finger should be saved for your actual engagement ring.

I think that necklaces and bracelets, or something along those lines, is a more appropriate way  to signify your relationship with your boyfriend. But even then, why is it necessary, you know?

You guys both know you love each other, why not just wait for the perfect ring for your wedding? When I was single, sure, I'd like to tell everyone I saw that I have a great boyfriend that I wanted to marry someday, but I didn't. You don't need to prove it to anyone, your bond is what is more important.

Some people don't even get engagement or wedding rings ... I'm not one of those people, but for couples who are not yet married, I don't see the need for anything signifying that you're taken. Save it for when you're engaged so it's more special and meaningful.

Answer 8

My fiance and I met in grade 5... yes you read that right, GRADE 5! and in Grade 5 we started "dating", or whatever you wanna call recess love. He gave me a promise ring then, and we dated for some time but then he moved away. We met again in grade 9 n high school and dated again, but he moved away again and we couldn't keep in touch.

8 years later we met again, and have been inseparable ever since.

I kept that promise ring from grade 5 for some reason throughout the years and oddly enough it still fits! I've been wearing it ever since we got back together and this past weekend he replaced it with an engagement ring, so, promise rings mean a lot to me clearly!

And I sure have one h**l of a story to tell our children one day! :)

Answer 9

I dont think they are kiddie. My boyfriend got me a very nice diamond 1,000 dollar one (found the receipt) when I was 22. It was a promise to be true to one another until we are ready financially as well as emotionally to commit to one another. I love him and I know he loves me too, and when the time is right, we will take the next step

Answer 10

I'm 19 and have been with my bf for 2 years, and i wear the promise ring he got me everyday . Just throw hints out. like leave a webpage up of a ring you want, or circle ones in a newspaper.  

Answer 11

I dont get it

If (in your words) a Promise Ring "Is a great way to show people that I am taken, and I plan to spend my life with my boyfriend" then how is that different from an Engagement Ring?  Isnt that the same message that an engagement ring sends?

I won't attempt to tell you how you feel. I'm sure you really DO love him.  I will say this, however - you do not yet know who YOU are.  10 years as a child, 8 years as a teenager.  Do you have ANY idea who you are going to be at 30?  

The person you are at 30 may not still like the man your boyfriend turned out to be.

Stop racing through your life. Have boyfriends, have lovers, have little affairs.  Don't tie yourself down at 18 - you have a whole lot of changes up ahead.

Answer 12

If your boyfriend is truly in love with you and feels the same way you do, he'll get you one on his own.  Why would you wanna ask for one?  Thats like the girl asking the guy to marry him, which is okay for some people, but not me.  So quit worrying about it for now because I think you only want one because you've seen other people with them.

Answer 13

im sorry but i really think they are a waste. im not going to lie my ex gave me one and i thought it was the best but now i see it was an empty promise. a promise ring is basically saying "im not really ready for the real deal i.e. marriage" if he is ready to make that commitment to you then he will do the right thing and propose to you with an actual engagement ring..  

Answer 14

If you really want one hint around it with your boyfriend... but I wouldn't call it a promise ring... you can call it a commitment ring, that sounds more adult.  It means you are both committed to each other and don't want anyone else, and also a way to show that you are taken.  

I personally don't like promise rings.  I've had one in high school and one out of high school and I'm not with either of them.  It shows you are taken and that is it... most guys aren't really serious about them.  If your boyfriend wants you to have one go for it, but don't push it on him, that might make it an eve emptier promise.

Answer 15

You're 18... you really DO have no idea what love is.

Also you obviously only want a ring because you see other people have them, which is not a valid reason to have one. Wearing a promise ring is basically like being engaged, and being engaged is saying that you are ready to marry someone, and I know for a fact that no 18 year old on this planet is mature enough at 18 to get married and have the marriage last. Thats the key point... the marriage needs to last.

Answer 16

Well.  When I was 18 my boyfriend went away to school and that's when he gave  me a promise ring.  People can say all that they want that its for "high schoolers" BUT, my ring is beautiful and almost a thousand dollars, I am pretty sure that's not something a "high schooler" buys :).  Anyway, with that said.  I thought it was the sweetest thing, because after 4 years of being together that was going to be the first time we were away from each other.  At 18 years old, you're not ready to get married but, you are ready to tell your significant other that you are committed to them and that when the time is right, you want to marry them.  I think its a beautiful thing :)

Answer 17

I think it's a great thing, if it's what you both want.  Of course, putting pressure on your boyfriend to give you some outward sign of his commitment can end up being a bad idea.  If it's important to you, then I would just bring it up with him so he knows how you feel.  But don't be discouraged if he doesn't act on your discussion.

Bottom line, the best way to show your commitment to someone is by your action - especially when your partner is not around.

Answer 18

Why a promise ring??  If you are going to be together forever, why not just an engagement ring?  I've never understood the point of promise rings ever.

Answer 19

It is silly to get a PRE-engagement ring, which is what a promise ring is supposed to signify.  

I think it is an immature thing (like you said, highschoolers had that, and then they broke up)  They're not ready for engagement, but they want to show a commitment.  Isn't that what dating should be?  You don't need a ring to be loyal and in love.  Let him take his time, and someday, maybe you'll get a real rock.

Answer 20

whats the question?