I really want to be an actress or singer but i'm shy! please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Question

I really want to be an actress or singer or dance on stage or in films. but i'm shy! i can't help being shy nd can't get out of the habit but i really want to be in films or on stage...also i don't think i'm very good at singing even though having lessons...what if i'm really bad and people hate me!! =[

HELP PLEASE! and i'm not posting my singing on!

Answer 1

Well, you are just going to have to get over being shy. You do that by performing in front of people as much as you can at school, church and in the community. If all else fails, you could try hypnosis therapy.

Answer 2

Firstly...there isn't any point aiming for singing if you don't think your very good. You NEED to have confidence in yourself. Im not a singer, so i will focus on the acting side of things as i am more likely to help in that.

As a little girl i was SO shy...so i know what your going through.I'm not sure of your age but im guessing your in highschool?

The thoughts your having go through almost everybodys mind at some stage in their life, whether they are performers or not.

You should know your own abilities.

To start facing your 'fear' if u like, you have to put yourself out there and get up on stage, doing things you know you are good at, this shoudl help you gain a bit more self confidence, as you KNOW you CAN do what you're doing. If you KNOW & FEEL you are doign it right, and well, then stuff everyone else :-)  

I know you have performed dance on stage...so do MORE. You could try and mix the dancing and acting(and singing) together, try amature dramatics groups and be a part of the chorus, you still have to act, and react like you would have to if you were the only person on stage, but you are surrounded by other people doing the same thing, you should also be a bit more comfortable about performing in the chorus of a musical etc as you are also dancing and you KNOW you can do that, you will also gain more confidence in your singing, as you wont be on your own, and can really go for it!

If after that, you want to keep heading towards bigger parts, go for it. You will have already got experience on stage so getting up and doing it shouldn't be such a big deal. You KNOW you can dance, you will have more confidence in your singing, and you will have had a bit more experience in acting.

Something you have to remember, which is what i used to struggle with, is when your acting, you aren't you anymore, you become your character. Even though YOU know you still have to say your lines and sing and dance, the AUDIENCE aren't seeing YOU, they're seeing your CHARACTER.Therefore, if your character trips over, YOU shouldn't get embaressed, because, YOU did it on purpose, because your ACTING and thats how your been directed to do it. Your CHARACTER might get embaressed, depending on their personality. But the point im trying to make is you are your character on stage, not you.

If, it so happened that YOU accidentally tripped on stage, when you weren't directed to. It shouldn't matter, because you are your character, and even though your character wasn't supposed to trip...Cr&p Happens! When you are acting, you are the character, you become your character, and you should know how you character will react to situations like that before you go on stage.

I hope this makes some sense to you...and i hope i've helped you a bit.

Go and put yourself out there!

Good Luck!

Danielle (17)

Perth WA

Answer 3

Easy.  Dont do it!!

Answer 4

   As alluded to, "getting over" being shy relates to exposing yourself to more situations, even in pacing yourself.

   In your case, as well as most others, "shyness" is born of insecurity. You openly state you have had singing lessons, yet don't think you're very good. That might transfer to others judgements, simply because you feel that way, before you begin.

   So, shy= insecurity=fear, and how you conquer it is an individual issue, not a blanket one, suitable to all.

   Hate is a pretty strong word, in how others might assess your abilities, but so much of the entire package of Real Life, is learning or gaining certain levels of tolerance, acceptance, even modest, non degrading compromise, allowing yourself to conduct a well adjusted life.

   I'll assume you are young, but perhaps you should analyze those "things" that cause your shyness/insecurity, and work on them in stages, to get beyond any. "What if I'm really bad" is like a self fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you lack singing skills/talent, then surely you will.

Answer 5

i was really shy about standing in front of a room and giving a speech... after doing a lot.. i got used to it....   put yourself in situations to practice... if you really want to be an actress/singer.. find ways to overcome your shyness...