I really want to have a baby am i to young?

Question

i am 18 years old and have a stedy boyfriend. i babysitt my younger cousins daily and take care of them well. i also have a job. i work everday after school and most weekends. i live in a hug house with my parents. am i to young raise and support a child?

Answer 1

If you have to ask yes. If you don't live on your own yes.  Wait until you get a college educations so you can support your child.

Answer 2

yes, your too young. wait a couple more years. who knows your boyfriend might leave you when your pregnant!

Answer 3

As a young mother I would say wait. Wait til your married, have a college degree, a great job, and your own home. Mainly wait til you have all the party life out of your way. Its alot different babysitting and having your own. I would also talk to your bf see how he feels about it.  

Answer 4

I am 22, my son is 2 and my daughter is 9weeks today. Being a mom is a full time job. There are middle of the night feedings, diaper changes, outfit changes because they threw up in their bed. I love being a mom, but I really am glad that I waited till I was out of school and had some money saved up. Kids cost a lot of money between the big items like a crib and car seat and the little things such as clothes and diapers. It adds up. And formula alone is enough to break the bank. Please wait till you are out of school, I am not saying young moms can't care for their children because that's not the case. I just think if you have the option to have kids make sure you know what you are getting in to.

Answer 5

If you still live in a house with your parents, the reality here is that you're not even supporting yourself yet.  And an after school job won't even begin to cover the costs of raising a child (nevermind that you probably won't want to, or possibly won't be physically able, to work in the late stages of your pregnancy, and I doubt you have access to maternity leave, so you'll probably be looking for a new job after the kid is born).

And if you continue to work everyday after school and on weekends after it's born, when exactly are you going to actually raise the kid?  Your parents or a daycare (which is NOT cheap) will be doing most of the parenting during the day... not you.  You'll just be there for the 2am feedings (you do know that newborns need to be fed every couple of hours, regardless of how tired you are, right?).

Also, what does your boyfriend think of the idea?  He's got as much say in this as you do.  He may not be ready to be a teenage father either emotionally or financially.  If he gets you pregnant and things don't work out between you, he'll still be obligated to pay child support until the kid is 18.

For that matter, how much help are your parents willing to provide?  Usually, by the time a kid is 18, the parents are anxious for him or her to leave the house and start her own life, so they can sit back and enjoy being empty-nesters.  Raising a grandchild is probably something they neither expected nor wanted this close to retirement.

Answer 6

i am a young mother and though i love both of my little angels i would say wait. and not really until marriage or until your in your 30's but just not now. i know those aren't words you want to hear but trust me i would have! but i don't regret my babies i just wished i would have experienced more

Answer 7

I would definitely say wait. I had my daughter when I was 18 years old, and even with a steady boyfriend & job, it is HARD. You should be self-sufficient when preparing for a child. You really need your own home, a degree, and a career to prepare for such a big thing.

Answer 8

If you truly want your child to have a good life you will wait until you can't properly provide for them. Your parents income and house have nothing to do with you having a child...do you think your parents would like that? If they wanted to pay for another child they would have one. When you are financially stable by YOUR SELF! have a baby...not before.

Answer 9

You are too uneducated to have a child.

Answer 10

Its not so much your age that is a problem.  The issue is you are still in school, don't support yourself, and still live with your parents.  Once you are living and supporting yourself independantly, then you're ready for a baby.