I really want to know what married life is like?

Question

i FEEL married since my fiance and i have a kid together and live togehter.

i want to know how it feel to be married (w/ kids only, please)

i prefer people that have at least been married for 5 years or more (no honeymoon couples please)

is their bickering? how's the s*x? fun w/ family more than fun w/ only spouse? do you do a lot of stuff together? is it boring boring boring? what is it like.

please note how long you've been married

Answer 1

A marriage is so much more than anything that can be typed here - that's for sure.  It's fun-loving, exciting and comfortable a lot of the time.  However, it's also frustrating, maddening and confusing at times.  When I am upset with my DH, I tell him:  I may love you, but I REALLY don't like you right now.  Why?  Because there are times that you, truly, will not like your spouse.  I have been with my DH for almost 17 yrs - married for 14 years.  Considering the fact, that we are only 34 years-old, we're doing pretty good.  

Just try to remember that everything in this world takes work, period.  It doesn't matter if it's the job you do for financial reasons, or the relationship you have with your spouse/family.  It's all work.  If you aren't willing to put the effort into your relationship, you might not want to get married. However, living together isn't a whole lot different than being married.  

IMO, there is too much effort put into the perfect wedding, without any real thought being given to what kind of relationship there will be - AFTER the honeymoon.  Marriage will not be a fairy tale; it'll be more like a fractured tale, but worth it in the long run.  

Answer 2

i've been married 7 years. and believe me it is still hard work.  i love my husband to death but sometimes i feel like killing him and i think he feels the same. s*x is when ever we have time life keeps us both busy. we have four children that has us going 24/7. we try to do things together to help us be a strong family.  in my opinion marriage is just a word. people don't value it anymore. the only thing i will say is that it is a full time job

Answer 3

I have been married 23 years and have a 6 year old son, Married life is very hard, but as long as you keep the communication open, it can be very good, I know everybody talks about communicating, but it is the truth, and honesty, always be honest with her/him, and of course you will argue, but stick to the point, don't stray off into different areas. It has taken us alot of  years to work all of this out, but we never stopped trying to make it work and it has paid off, and s*x is better than ever.  We have alone time, thats why you get a sitter or in our case my mom keeps him over night. It's work, but if you love each other, it's worth it. Hope it works out for you.

Answer 4

it really depends on your state of mind and your intent:  is living together just something you did like picking a roommate? was/is your intention that it's "just for now"?

some people don't move in with someone who they think is marriage material, but they don't expect that.

when you're married though, you always have that "it's for life" thing hanging over you so the decision is a little more weighty.

being married is being a family - with or without kids.  you commit to each other and you work towards protecting the family.

personally, I think kids only enriches a strong relationship and ruins a weak one.

I love being married - but I don't think of it as being married - I think of my familly - husband and daughter. we've been together for 20 years and it's fabulous.

Answer 5

i have been married 4 and a bit years so i am nearly there. I say its great. s*x is good we have high s*x drives though all depends on the couple. I only stoped s*x for 2 and a half weeks after giving birth so i dont like being without it.

i dont think its boring no but i think tha depends on who you are marrying more than anything. I like spending time with my husband and family and just my husband. I dont have as much fun if my husband isnt there usually.

We dont argue about anything major just little usual arguments around the house really. I am glad i got married and if i went back i would have got married the year earlier.

Answer 6

The difference is that when you're married you share the bills.

Now some couples still have separate accounts, and share one account to pay community bills (rent, utilities, groceries, daycare).

And then have another account to pay off credit card debts, or other personal finances.

The marriage certificate makes it more of a binding contract.

The daily living, the chores, the fights, everything you're doing now will be exactly the same as when you're married.

Answer 7

Once we started to live together and had a child we shared everything. Our lives were mainly about our child, family outings all the time, once in a blue moon we would go out just the two of us and it's no more than an hour because we couldn't stand leaving our child alone. It made us feel better having our child with us at all times. In the beginning there was more bickering, but as the years passes it became less and less. s*x has been the same, even after 2 kids we are still active. If not once a day at least 4-5 times a week. We always do family stuff, family fun, hardly just us alone since we don't rely on anyone to care for our children. We were together for 7 years before we actually made it officially, I changed my last name, married at the courthouse, etc. The only thing I noticed that changed after we were married was that we plan better on certain things and I bicker less. Seems like I'm in the most comfortable stages right now where nothing can go wrong in our marriage. We are exactly where we want to be. After close to 9 years it is what we expected it to be, even better.  

Answer 8

Living w/ someone and being married are totally different experiences.

Answer 9

I have been married for 10 years. We have one child, he is 13, but I keep kids (family) in my home alot of the time so it feels like we have alot more than that.

We have gone through ups and downs, but life is really good. I think the s*x gets better (as long as you work at it) because you get to know each other more and are more comfortable. There are ALWAYS going to be little fights, but as long as you remember to not say things that are mean just for the sake of being mean, you can recover from them. And make up s*x is better than regular s*x any day!!

We do alot of stuff as a family but you need to remember that everyone needs time just together to make sure you both know you still love each other. It is hard but don't take each other for granted and you will be very happy. And we get bored but you just have to think of things to make it exciting again!

Sorry I wrote so much, but I am happy in my marriage and I think if people would just try a little harder there wouldn't be so many divorces. Marriage is something that you need to be committed to and work at, but it is worth every second.

Good luck!