I received a wedding invitation and the menu response card does not include child option.

Question

If I am bringing my kid to the wedding how can I specify her option in the response card?

Answer 1

i wouldn't bring my child.

can you find a babysitter for a few hours?

Answer 2

Does the inside envelope list your child by name?  If not, then your child is not invited.

If your child's name DOES appear on the envelope, then I would just call the couple and ask.

Answer 3

sounds like kids are not invited

Answer 4

A lot of people do not invite kids to their wedding - mine will be in december, and the only kids that will be coming are my own and my niece. Talk to the people having the wedding and confirm if children are invited or not.

Answer 5

Was the child invited? Did your invitation say "and children"? You'd better check that first. Many, many people do NOT want children at their wedding, and after years of photographing weddings, I can understand why!

If it's a sitdown dinner, I'm betting there are no children invited. Kids can wreak havoc on a wedding, and I've seen it happen way too many times.

Find a sitter, go to the wedding, and have a great time. The kid will be fine.

Answer 6

did the invite say "and family" or specifically mention your kids name. if not then your kids are not invited. an invitation is only for the people listed. so you need to decide if you can bear to leave your little ones for the night and enjoy a night out with hubby or not go at all. personally i'd enjoy a date night with my husband.

Answer 7

How was the invitation addressed?

If it was addressed to you and your husband/partner then most of the time that means that it just the two of you that are invited. If your child's name or "and family" was included in the address then that usually means the children are invited. It could be possible that they are not doing a children's menu - or it is an appetizer reception.

Do they have a wedding website? Perhaps you can get some information from the website.

Or, maybe you could call a close friend of hers. If all else fails I would simply call the bride and ask.  

Answer 8

was the child invited? is her name on the invitation?  maybe you should not bring her.

If invited, just pick an adult option and let her have what she can eat of it.

Answer 9

You mean there were meal options and none of them were kid friendly?

You'll just have to get over this one. It's not the brides/grooms job to make sure your kid will like the meal. If you want to bring your child and they wont like the meal get them something they do like before or after the reception and deal with it.  

Answer 10

Well some people really don't want children at their weddings or receptions.  There are people drinking and carrying on and it's an adult enviornment.  There are couples kissing repeatedly.  That is their way of saying please no kids.

Answer 11

Unless your child was specifically invited (the child's name or "and family" will appear on either the inner our outer envelope) then the kid is not welcome and that is why there is no menu option.

Otherwise, they are simply feeding the kids the same meal as the adults, in which case you list you child as an adult.

Please don't bring your kid to someone's wedding unless it (as in the kid) was invited.

Answer 12

If the child was not named on the invitation then he/she is not invited.

Sorry, but this could be an adult only reception.  If you want to be sure then contact whomever is requiring the response.

Edit*** Seriously,  even if the kids are invited, why would you assume that a child menu needs to be offered.  My kids have been taught that they will try and eat different things and not whine about it...especially when dining in public.  You are only doing the child a disservice by not letting them expand their horizons and trying new food.

Answer 13

Your child has not been invited.

Why would you assume she has?

Are you really that sure that YOU are the most important person at the wedding? Has it not occurred to you that it might be the bride, and not your bundle of joy?

Answer 14

Does your invitation include the names of your children or state "and family"?  If not children may not be invited, per invitations etiquette only the people whose names are on the invitation are invited.

If your children are invited then you should call your friend.  Your friend may not know that she can request a child plate from the caterer.  Child plates are usually cheaper, and almost all caterers will offer one but you have to ask them.  (They won't offer it, hoping you will pay full price.)

Either way you should call your friend/family member and clarify with them.  Once you have you answer make sure to send the response card for their records.

Answer 15

I'd suggest getting a babysitter. In General, people don't like children at weddings.

Answer 16

Maybe your kid isn't invited?  Too many parents assume their kids are welcome where they aren't.  

If you're sure that your kid is invited, then it could just be that there is one option.  I am inviting kids to my wedding, and I am not including anything on the response card because the only kids meal offered by my venue is chicken fingers.

Answer 17

Typically, if they invited you and any others, the invitation would say your name & the child's name or guest.  If they did not include an additional person, this is because they did not intend for that person to attend.  Considering they are paying on a "Per Plate" basis, it is very expensive to have a reception, so they have alloted a budget to fit in only a certain number of people.  If you want to get more tips about the wedding invitation, try reading up on this article regarding wedding invitation etiquette:

http://weddinginvitations2248.blogspot.c...

Answer 18

IF your child is invited, she chooses from the choices on the menu card.  Don't assume your child was invited.

If your child is not invited, she does not choose a meal option b/c she isn't going.

Because of today's costs, it is very rare for a couple to invite children unless the children are very special to the couple (in the wedding etc).  

Do yourself a favor: hire a sitter and enjoy an evening with your husband/wife without the kid.

Answer 19

maybe thats their way of saying no kids, i would get in touch with her and find out if kids are welcome, or maybe she already has a kid section and no need to reserve for the child.

Answer 20

First of all, does the invitation include your child's name or the words "and family"? Etiquette states that only the person's/people's name(s) that are on the invitation are invited. If your child's name isn't on the invitation and there is no option for a child's menu, I'm afraid he/she isn't invited to the wedding. Don't take this personally as I'm sure the bride has nothing against your child. It's just that many people (myself included) believe weddings are adult events. Another reason could be that there will be alcohol at the wedding and the couple doesn't want children around drinking adults. Of course, on the other hand, this could simply be something that was overlooked. Knowing if the child's name is on the invitation would surely help! =D

ADDED: Whoever is thumbing down the answers similar to mine (which are all correct) obviously doesn't know much about wedding invitation etiquette.

Answer 21

Are you certain that children are invited?  

If the invitation listed your kid or said So and So and Family, then they are and you would just write PLUS one child.

If your invitation just says You and Significant Other, then don't assume your child is invited.Call and find out.  Many people are having adult only receptions these days.  I'm inviting children to mine as well, but they are also specifically named so not an issue. I know how many!

Answer 22

I'd call and ask if they are having children at the reception.

Answer 23

I agree with the others.  It sounds like your child wasn't invited.

Can you get a sitter and go out for a few hours of fun?

Answer 24

Was the child's name on the invitation? If not, then there is a good chance that the child isn't invited. If you're not sure, then call and ask.