I recently gave birth but im really torn?

Question

before the child was born i was 100% sure that i was making the right decision about giving my baby up for adoption but now that my boy has been born im having doubts i didnt relise how much i would love my baby when he was born and its making this decision even harder. im 20yrs old and in my 1st yr at university i dont have any qualifications to go out and get a good job to help provide for baby. one of the main reasons i was going to give my child up for adoption was because i was raped by the childs father but none of my family know about this and i dont know if i could cope with having to ever tell my son about this. i only found out that i was pregnant after i attempted to commit suicide and ended up in hospital i was already 30weeks pregnant and had no idea thankfully my baby was not harmed in any way. im just really torn about the all situation and dont know whether i would be able to provivde the life for my child that he deserves

Answer 1

I  was given up for adoption when I was an infant. It was the most loving and unselfish thing my mother could have ever done for me. I was given such a gift and my life was forever changed. I was able to get a college education and be very successful. My family who adopted me were able to provide me with everything my mother wasn't able to because she was young. The most important thing in adoption is finding a couple who has a strong family, financially secure to offer your child and education and everything else they will ever need, and a house that has love beyond words to give!!!


I always knew I was adopted and every day I am so thankful and feel so blessed for the life she allowed me to have. I can only say that it is a hard thing to do, but I am proof that pure love of a birthmother can open doors for the future for their child.


My husband and I are now in the process of wanting to adopt. We have an amazing life and I want to give back, what was given to me. If I can help you in any way please let me know. I wish you the very best and if you ever want to talk you can contact me [e-mail]

Sincerely,

Kristin