I recently got engaged, my fiance doesnt like the ring he bought. Is it wrong to upgrade already?

Question

He says it's too small, and I'm worth more then a little diamond. I was the one that originally said I liked the ring, but he is not happy with it. We found one where he bought the ring, and it's about the same price, but a lot more ring. This new ring is so perfect, but I'm so confused! What should I do?

Answer 1

I made the mistake to settle for less 25 years ago....finally now I will get mine upgraded.......do it RIGHT now......cause it will bother you later

Answer 2

girl take the ring lol...duh!  and that steve who calls it  "blowing money on jewelry" obviously doesnt think his wife is worth much, if hes even married.  This is the one piece of "jewelry" that you will show people and wear a s symbol of your marriage forever.  (hopefully...) lol

Answer 3

If both of you are happy, then go for it! Its not like you are complaining about the ring and are going to do it in an underhanded way, it sounds like it was his idea in the first place! Get the new ring and get him to ask you to marry him with that one as well so it means as much as the old one :)  

Answer 4

TAKE THE BIGGER DIAMOND SINCE IT WAS HIS SUGGESTION BUT REITERATE THAT THE SMALLER ONE WOULD HAVE BEEN FINE

Answer 5

Choice one.

Save the money and put it towards the wedding or your first home together.

Choice two.

Blow the money on jewelry.

If you can afford it I guess letting hom show off by having you wear a heavier ring is ok.

I guess it depends on how much he needs to stroke his ego.

Answer 6

He may have somehow gotten the impression that YOU were disappointed with the ring.

Stick with the original ring, and get a lovely band to go with it.

Answer 7

If it is what both of you want, then exchange it. You may regret it later in life when looking back on the memory of him giving you the ring you already have. There are some things money can't buy, and that is one of them. So it really comes down to what you can live with.

Answer 8

Pick the ring you want. Your the one who will be wearing it. Your fiance wants u to be happy and if he is ok with upgrading then go for it.

Hey diamonds are a girl's bestfriend remember, lol  

Answer 9

It's Not Too Early To Upgrade. I Got Engaged Back In Early April & I Am Getting My 3rd Ring This Thursday Coming - Not (Totally) By Choice But.

The 1st Ring I Had Was Resized Then Snapped Within A Few Weeks, Got A Replacement Ring, Then That Broke.

So Yesterday My Fiance & I Took That One Back & Got Our Money Back & He Ordered Me The Ring I First Saw & Feel In Love With But He Couldn't Afford It Back In April.

So Within 4 Months I've Had 3 Rings.

If Your Fiance Is Willing To Upgrade & So Are You, Why Not?

=)

Congrats On The Engagement!!

Answer 10

If you want to upgrade it and HE wants to as well, then go right ahead. It's not bad at all. If you both choose to do so, then there's nothing wrong with it! Once my H2B put the ring on my finger he said it was too small and he wanted something bigger....um hun, it's a 1.25ct soliatre! It's quite big enough! I just laughed and said no b/c it would have been WAY too big otherwise. But if YOU both want to upgrade, then go right ahead and have a great time doing it! Congrats!

Answer 11

its all up to you and what you like, if you both agree and can aford then why not

personaly i made it clear there is no way he'll ever get me to wear a stoned ring, i like more plain simple rings better...i tend to be more practical and not much of a diamond girl

so its all in what you like and what the two of you feel comfy with *s*

the ring is suposed to be with you for life and be a symbol (not a proof in itself) of your love, no money can buy love, if you like the old ring then keep that and tell him you like it as a symbol of what he originaly used, if you like and prefer the new ring then upgrade. No one can tell you how to feel about this, you have to look inside of yourself...and there is nothing wrong with less ring, if anyone ever tried to tell me something like that for my personal choise of preference then they can go stuff themself

love is personal, and so are the symbols of these, so go with what feels rigth for you, dont let anyone guide you on this, your the one who are going to be comfortable with the ring as your the one who have to wear it. Some girls like stones, some dont, some like em big, some small...go with what you like, if not then you will regret later for geting a ring you didnt really want.

Answer 12

Um, who cares about some jewelry? You're getting the man, and that's the main prize dammmmit!

Answer 13

If you both want a new ring then upgrade!  

Answer 14

Of course you should upgrade.  Why not?  Why are you so confused..Just do It...

Answer 15

Congrats :)

Pick the ring you both want. This will be your ring for life so just pick what you two want and can afford.  

Answer 16

That's easy!  If he is not attached to the one he gave you for sentimental reasons (And you are not either), you sholud go for the one that YOU like!  But be sure to tell him that this is a hard decision to make because you love them both and you would just prefer to have em both if possible! (LOL) Stroke his ego so he knows he did do well in picking out the first one.  My fiance picked me out a small ring (certainly not the smallest i've seen).  He knows the I am over frugal with money cause we don't have much of it to go around, and that I would be mad if he soent too much (plus I HATE the whole price inflation thing with dimond engagement rings and the whole wedding industry prices - it's all a rip off for one freakin' day...)  ANyhew, I loved the one gave me but he was willing to allow me to find another one that I preferred.  I debated for 2 days and finally decided to keep the original, cause I know he put thought into it (I gave him a lot of himts too over the years we dated for...so he did great!!!!)  Its white gold mounted on yellow gold (I love two colored jewelry) and I love to see the marquise cut diamonds (round and square princess cuts are a dime a dozen i think - not unique enough! Well, best wishes to you, hun!

Answer 17

If you both agree on it, get it.  If it's perfect, then why not!  You'll be so much happier!!!