I refuse to be a Doom and Gloom sort of person. What is your feelings on this matter?

Question

My friend is just off the phone he needs a triple by pass. I said good im glad hes been offered one.

Answer 1

Uh, your friends just told you he needs life-threatening surgery, from which he may not recover for months, if ever, and that's all you had to say?

It's one thing to not be a doom and gloom sort of person; entirely lacking humanity, sympathy, or affection for others is NOT the same thing.

Anyone with any human feeling at all would have expressed sympathy, if not offered practical assistance.

(BTW, my mother had a bi-pass. They break yoursternumm, and take veins from your leg to put in place of thedamagedd ones. It'sdangerouss, and seriously debilitating -- though, being a fast healer, shemendedd in a couple of months. It takes most people the better part of a year, and is emotionally traumatic (since they have to rip you to shreds to do it) for a long time.)

Answer 2

To Doomers I say:

Watch some Bill Hicks videos on Youtube, that'll cheer you up and give you the right outlook to have on life.  Life is to a large degree out of your control.  Chances are, the things that are getting you, and others (I know its what gets me down) are out of your control.  What can YOU do about Darfur?  Human traficking?  Drug dealers peddling to kids? and on and on...  Nothing!  Just be aware of whats going on around you so that when the opportunity for you to be active in being a positive force shows itself, you seize it.  That is all you can do, so might as well be happy.  Living well is a choice, make it.

Good luck.

And thats my 0.02$

Answer 3

I suffer doom and gloom because of your poor grammar - the question  is 'What ARE your feelings on this matter?'

Answer 4

Life is too short, and goes by too quickly to spend it being miserable, but some people thrive on being unhappy (see Ryan's response, for example).

Life is what you make it. If you chose to be unhappy you will be unhappy. Personally, I chose to be happy most of the time.

Unhappy, miserable, whiny people makes me vomit.

Answer 5

Well personally I hate life and cant really be bothered with it.   I see the bad in everything.  You have to work till you drop,  are ill many times in your life and its difficult to make real friends.  Im also fed up with nothing to do.  I only live for my parents/brothers sake.

Answer 6

Wonderful things, they are. Save lives, prolong lives & give quality of life where otherwise there would not be very much.

Stay positive, he will need that both before & after surgery.

Best wishes. UK..

Answer 7

its best to be positive if you can...no use saying OMG etc, that will scare ya friend.........wish him well hugzz

Answer 8

well if youre the type of person that needs to know the absolute truth, and recognizes the truth; feelings of any matter, looking at the good or looking at the bad things should be irrelevant.

if the truth of any matter is bad, then it is bad

if the truth of any matter is good, then it is, indeed, good

there are many who ignore the bad things (which could be the truth), and pick out only good things.These are people that are lying to themselves.

Answer 9

I think thats a good way to be,however i would find it hard to be like that all of the time. On the other hand, some things that some people would find negative i have put a positive edge on it.If you can be like that, then i think its good.

Answer 10

My glass is always half full, not half empty!

Answer 11

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Answer 12

It's usually fine. In most or many circumstances, it is very good and can lift people's mood. However, sometimes when people are down they want sympathy and "aww" noises, not to be bludgeoned round the head with positivity (which is what it can feel like - believe me). Furthermore, in a situation which truely *is* doom and gloom, there's nothing so irritating as someone being inappropriately sunshine and light.

So yes, it's a good and positive thing, just don't try to get everyone to share it. If someone looks for sympathy, give them sympathy not advice or cheerfulness. They want someone to share and empathise with their feelings not ignore or change them. I hope you understand the distinction.