I saw this boy and am disturbed , pls help?

Question

Few weeks back I saw my neighbor who was secretly masturbating himself for more than an hour. He is too younger than me and he is not at all handsome, but his thoughts are coming always to me. Is it okay if I have a date with him? Am I in love with him?? because if he is too young and not handsome how can I get his thoughts in my mind always? I can't say if this is a crush or love pls help.

Answer 1

It is neither love nor crush. It sounds more like pity because of you seeing him m********e and in the back of your mind you want to intervene and help him move to a more healthy social life. Normal behavior but not good.

If you use Google and search for the key word masturbation you will find many articles on the subject which explain some of the reasons humans do it -- yes male and females. It will make you understand the practice. As for wondering if you have feelings for this person, well, that's a whole different thing.

Are your thoughts just wonder "what if ...." then that is pity pure and simple. But if you yearn to be with him to carry on a conversation or to just be close as a friend would then that is normal and you should approach him. Walk over and say something like "Hey, wanna talk? I have a question and I need someone's input." Make it real simple like "I need to read 3 chapters and do a paper by Thursday but I don't want to do it all this evening. What do you think? Is that alright?". I mean how simpler can that get. It gets him talking. Other topics will come about but that will break the ice.

Answer 2

I think you were stragely disturbed by what you saw. If he's too young, stay away!

Answer 3

sweety its his personality you like maybe he not that hunk you perfer for a date but atleast your different from people that only date cute guys but they have any personality

good luckk

Answer 4

its erotic infatuation. maybe he's the only person that you've seen masturbating so far or the only person of the opposite s*x expessing himself sexually. and by that, you became sexually attracted to him.