I scared some little kids just by appearing. Should I be concerned?

Question

I mean I was wearing all black and had black sunglasses on but, they literally thiought i was a devil worshipper, satan follower, and went screaming to their father, who looked at me like I was the biggest a***e in the world.

People judge me alot, and for whatever reason they think I come across like a dark spirit, bad person, or whatever, which is laughable because I am not, I just guess I have a strong appearance, or can appear like a bad guy.

But isn't it the slightest bit immature that I'm getting judged and ostracized from certain places because of my "appearance?"

And they have the attitude that they're right. In this case it's JUST a buncha children but I mean in general, people are just so screwed up, and judgemental and all sorts of things.

It happened in other cases, but kids I don't know.

Kids like the jonas brothers, they like other tihngs too. they have fans.

Yet with me, they just think I'm satan, and run from me lol.

At least when I wear black or am in a bad mood.

Are children just REALLY good at sensing a person's character, or aura, or react too strongly to a person's outsides?

Should I be concerned and try to come across differently or whatever?

Answer 1

i think they are judging from pure instinct because they really dont have experience.  their instincts, including fear, might be telling them you are capable of violence and as you are a whole lot bigger, their safest bet is to stay away and take no chances.

it maybe that is a good decision but it doesn't mean you are a bad person. You have seen more of this world. Things that kids dont understand or even know exist and you carry the scars.

That is what they see.

It seems to me you are already concerned. I can tell you

anyone who is wearing all black with black hair and black glasses will look a little scary. I might feel they have something to hide, something bad, and who knows what I will imagine after that.

Put more colors on, it will help with these unwanted reactions.

Answer 2

Kids probably freaked out cause their parents have taught them to be just as prejudiced as they are.

You could change, people might accept that better on face value, but when they get to know you and know that you weren't being yourself, then that would probably freak them out more.  Be a trail blazer!  Keep dressing the way you do, and if people don't like it, f* them.  People have to learn eventually that you can't judge a book by it's cover.  I knew a man once who had tattoo's, dressed a bit ratty, and was worth over $200 million.  It was very funny to see people's attitude change when they found that out.  Not funny, more pathetic, but you know what I mean.  You actually have an advantage cause you have an inbuilt device that screens out idiots.

Yes children are good at sensing auras, but that can get knocked out of them at a young age.  I think in your case, you sound like a decent person so I think it's more likely they've learned to be prejudiced.

But you still have to take the kids into account, and I think the post above from "and then I said" is right on the money.

Answer 3

We need to be very careful how we present ourselves as Christians...I love to wear makeup, and it can sometimes be misconstrued as something 'cheap' by some...although my heart is always with God and Jesus....you should have apologized to their father, and used the moment to witness for Christ. You might be surprised, how you can turn an embarrassing moment, into one of a witness for the Lord!

Answer 4

I think you should take concern when children are involved. Maybe smile right off the bat to let them know you are friendly, tell them you like their outfit, or ask if they are going to play outside today. Something along those lines. Children are automatically nervous around anything that is different from what they see on a daily basis - purely because they haven't had many opportunities to get out that much! Especially children younger than school age. I think maybe you are overly concerned about how you are coming across to people. If you are a nice, genuine person then it will show in your character, regardless of your clothing.  

Answer 5

You cannot help how you look.  If wearing pastels or lighter shades of neutral styles is not your thing then don't do it!  It might help though...

Anyways I was going to tell you that I was born with an eye disorder that makes both of my eyes shake side to side, very noticeably.  When I used to work at a grocery store children would stare at me all day long as though my eyes were shooting lasers.  Even some adults seemed vaguely squeamish.  I am a fairly pretty girl but kids can be scared of me sometimes and I was severely made fun of in high school.  Just realize that you don't have it that bad.  Maybe you appear dark to people because of the way you cut your hair or an excess of facial hair.  Take a look in the mirror and try to see a resemblance between you and something scary.  Take away any possible contributing elements but only if it's worth it to you.