I screwed up everything? HELP :"""""(

Question

Ok, so this past Sunday i decided to run away. I didn't know it would ever turn up like this though. I really screwed up and i totally regret it. My parents are divorced and I live with my mom. Well she has been acting really weird lately and it started making me mad. She tells me she trusts me but she won't let me go see my boyfriend because she doesn't want us to be alone!! Also she never listens and i try to tell her something and she just yells over me. So i ran away and she ended up finding me.... with my boyfriend. We weren't doing anything but she freaked out on me she pretty much called me a w***e and a piece of ****. Ouch right? She made me dad come pick me up that lives 2 1/2 hours away. And my boyfriend called and apologized for lying but she said she needed a break from me. I just need help what do i do??? And i need to be back before freshman orientation.... 10 days!!!

Answer 1

Awh. Tough situation, i know. But try to keep yourself occupied. And try to gain her trust again, that is if you even want it. Just keep in mind that it might take sometime. I hope things begin to look up. :]

Answer 2

ahh haha...parents suck.  It's ok though, giving your parents a hard time is a huge part of being a teenager--

my opinion on it all is that any parent that gives up on his or her kid fails at life (excluding parents with no money or who raise their kids in horrible communities).  Harsh maybe, but theres reason.

Anyways, she sucks.  put up with her until you're 18 or move in with your dad

Answer 3

You can take this for what it's worth and think about it rationally and logically if you are sincere in trying to find a workable solution ,,,  Your biggest problem here is your inexperience ,,,,  Young people especially such as you only being 13 confuse love with infatuation ,,,,  There are many sides to true love that infatuation doesn't involve ,,,, Whether you want to believe it or not the fact remains that you simply aren't old enough to know what true love is because you haven't had enough time in your life yet to experience the difference between the two ,,,,  There are strong feelings and emotions with infatuation too but that does not qualify as TRUE love ,,,,

It is very immature of you to just run away ,,,, You are just creating more problems not solving the ones you already have ,,,, If you don't think so then look at where you are now because of it ,,,, 13 is a hard time in your life to get through ,,,, As if you don't have enough to deal with already  you are also dealing with the effects of puberty too ,,,, There are two sides to every situation and you have to be smart enough to realize this and mature enough to look at both sides objectively ,,,,  Running to your boyfriend is certainly NOT the answer ,,,, He can't even help himself yet let alone help you if he's still living under his parents roof and dependant on them ,,,,

What you've done so far has only gotten you deeper in the rut you put yourself in ,,,, You definitely do need to have a talk with your mother as other's have suggested but your first priority is to get your head straight and start looking at the big picture here and understand that there are two or more sides to this situation that you have not up to now seen let alone considered ,,,,  You can make this as hard or easy on yourself as you want ,,,, It's up to you which you chose ,,,,  You are going to have to open your mind up and consider more than just your point of view in this matter ,,,, There are more things involved here that you just aren't mature enough yet to recognize ,,,, Closing your mind to any other point of view than your own closes allot of doors that other wise might be open to you ,,,, The choice is yours ,,,,, //  

Answer 4

you should defenilty talk to both of your parents

about the sittuation.

talking helps.

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Answer 5

im not sure theres much you can do. you cant force your mother or your bf to take you back.

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Answer 6

I don`t think you screwed up - you just panicked.

When people are scared or in a panic - all semblance of rational thought just evaporates.

Anyway - I think the best course would be to have a talk with your mother, explain your problems (you claim you trust me, yet your actions say you don`t). And that you feel she doesn't take you serious (shouting at you when you try to explain something).

As you don`t say how old you are i`m not sure if getting a place for yourself (ì`m not American so you may have given a hint which i missed)

Needing a break from your child??

Wow. I know that a divorce is difficult, but this is a sign your mother might need some extra (professional) help.

Most likely, she needs to learn how to deal with certain pressures (the yelling is an indication that she isn't dealing all that well.

Maybe your father can help out?

Answer 7

Okay take it from me as a rebel of my day. I used 2 runaway & everything. Your mom is in a tought sistuation right now , dealing with her daughter growing up isnt easy. You need to tell your mom whats going on in your life and how you feel, if you cant speak verbally write to her , leave her notes in the morning or places she can find. Dont start getting loud ,bc the louder you get the louder she will to , it will just turn in2 a screaming match bc one is trying for the other one to listen over the noise. She went a little carried away with calling you a w***e., but at 13 boys are getting hormones and girls are agreeing to doing whatever bc of emotions. She may trust you but its hard for her to trust him. Sit down and express your feelings, being your sentence with " I feel ......" instead of "you make me ..." It takes the conversation away from blaming eath other. Also dont run away, she can call juvie and have you be put in there for a while , and its no fun i know from experience.

Answer 8

You made your bed, you need to go with whatever they decide.  As much as it  sucks to be you at the moment, your parents are still your parents. They make the decisions for you. You need to learn that quick. When you get out of their house and are paying your own way, then you can have freedom of choice. You may think that you know more than your mother but you don't. She is trying to protect you from unwanted pregnancies and things you are not ready to experience. You might think that you will say no, but no one really knows until they are in the position. It is so easy to say yes when you really want to and there is only a tiny voice telling you it is a bad idea.

  You can try to apologize to your mom but I doubt that will work. Personally had this been my daughter who pulled that, she might be taking the school year at dad's house. You have no idea what parents sacrifice for their kids and to disrespect them by running away is just a smack in the face that is really hard to bear. You are just lucky she had a dad to send you to. Mine went to a state run facility ( I put her there) when she decided to turn me in for smacking her because she called me a b*tch and pathetic.

Tell your mom you are sorry and suck up whatever punishment you get. Think of it as a learning experience. I hope you have learned NEVER to do that again.

Answer 9

Yeah,My Mom is Like That too...

And Sitting Down And Talking To Her isn't As Easy as People Think it is...

So Next Time you See Her Just Tell Her if She Loves you She Would Let you Be With Your Boyfriend Alone And Trust you To Not Do Anything..

If She Trys to Yell Over you Tell Her to Just Listen for A Moment..

And tell her that your Sorry for Running Away But you Love your Boyfriend and you Really Want to See Him..

i'm 13 And My Mom Doesn't Trust Me to Have a Boyfriend.. So i've Never Told her That i Do.. And i just Tell Her i'm Walking to My Friends House but then i Really just Go to His..

Keep your Head up Girl Things Will Eventually Work Out!! :)

Answer 10

Jesus. Okay well never run away. EVER. Sit her down and explain to her your feelings about everything.

I mean how old are you, most parents wouldn't care as long as you're safe and you make good choices.

You have to be below 16 and if you're not, well wait till you're 18 and move out.

Answer 11

Okay I have been in this same situation before so here is what I did. I told my mom after she found me when I ran away how I felt. I told her that I was sorry but I hated feeling like a little kid. She told me until I was 18 I still am. So me and her kept talking about our feelings and how she needs to trust me. She now apolizes to me for not listening to me. Trust me parents don't like to beleive that their child is growing up but you need to tell her that if she can't trust you now then how can she trust you later. I know what you are going threw right now but when it comes down to it just talk to her and ask her why when you try to talk to her she doesn't want to hear what you have to say. Anyway just get everyone together sit down and talk with them and let them know how you feel. I hope everything works out and trust me they will respect you when you open up yourself it worked for me and I hope it does the same for you.

Answer 12

Talking with your parents will always help.

How long have you known your boyfriend?

is this just puppy love?

is he worth all of this?

that's what you have to decide

Answer 13

Act like an adult - let them act like children.

- Actually, most people, including adults "run away" from something [some people divorce - a form of "running away"], etc. But, how does that help anything?

- Apologise to your mother - for running off. Level with her and tell her your reason(s) for it.

- Decide how best you would handle the same situation if were you the mother and she was the child.

- Apologise to your dad, let him know your reasons also.

- Proper communication is about being RESPONSABLE with language.

- Responsible communication does not often include yelling [unless an emergency], calling of bad names, etc. - how exactly did that help the situation?

I think your mom needs to deeply apologise to you, for calling you nasty names, etc. and for not being there for you as she should have been [mentally and physically], but no one can make her do that.

- does your mother need an 'anger management' program?

- does she need a 'proper communications skills' program?

- does she need a parenting program?

Your dad should have some apologising to do also - for the difficult situation you are going through at this time.

- Can you get some help from any advisors/counselors that you can trust?

Just a thought:  Whatever your age, are you ready to "run away"? - anyway, check out your local educational resources and continue to develop your employment skills.

- Your on the internet, so, educate yourself responsibly.

- Develop your personal portfolio with important things that make you feel happy and good about yourself.

- Education.

- Real Estate.

- Quality friends.

- Help other kids that have less than you have and you will find happier days.