I screwed up really bad. Please help me.?

Question

Alright..I run varsity cross country, and I have since freshman year and I'm in 10th now. it's really hot where we live so we have the option of running in the morning.

2 other girls and I, were running in the morning before school this morning and we ran 5 out of the 6 miles we were suppose to.

Coach was behind us..and the other two girls told me to tell coach that we didnt run the 6th mile...he was PISSED.

He couldn't even speak to us. Reason we didn't run the full: we were on a straight away, and we had about 10 mins to get ready for school AND take a shower so we didnt THINK we'd have enough time to run back.

It's weird..last year we ran 5 miles at most and now we are pushing 6+ daily :/

Anyways,

I really don't want coach mad at me so do you think writing him an apology would be alright?

And of course I'm going to try harder now..

but please give me tips.

Answer 1

Tell him YOU will run another mile when HE runs as many miles as you have ALTOGETHER. He shouldn't push you. That's shocking. Just tell him your reasons, and tell him that you find it slightly difficult but will try harder- you cant do much more to be honest coz you have no reason to write an apology;

Answer 2

   I would skip the note and go straight to him and say that what you said was not meant to be rude or show lack of respect and that you are only sorry if it may have come across that way. And also that you did not mean it as a lack of commitment to the sport on your part, but rather a commitment to your education and that as a coach and a role model he should endorse your education.

   You are a high school student and he should not put so much pressure on you like that--there is only so much growing bodies and minds can take. And more importantly---school comes first!!! Yes, his job is to make sure you do your best, get the best training, and keep you motivated; however, your sports and extracurricular activities must never put your education on the line!! He is in the wrong if he is encouraging you to do sports AND miss class to do it. Exercise and sports are important, but he is an awful role model for putting you down for valuing what should come first!!!

    Perhaps he may have just been frustrated with something in his personal, home life, work, or something and his reaction by (more or less) taking it out on you was inappropriate. So, don't take it personally!!! And you never need to apologize for putting one priority above another. [Those last two sentences should be taught in high school about learning to be an adult--would have made my life a lot easier!! :) ]

Answer 3

Yes, writing a letter for an apologize, shows politeness and at the same time respect. Tell him the reason you didn't run that extra mile and wait for his responce (usually dont takes long to responce) and try harder next time!

Answer 4

i think a quick and simple sorry should do it. you did have to get ready for school and yes that's more important. you can always make up mileage.

coaches should realize that high school students aren't robots. i know i had my bad days running back then.

Answer 5

Don't write him an apology. There's no need to. A verbal apology is better anyway. But really, you don't owe him anything. You wouldn't be the first person to cheat a little at practice. Tell him that you were running late and that it won't happen again; that's all you have to do.

Answer 6

Man, sounds like your coach is off kilter! This may be a s***w up, but not a big one and certainly not one for your coach to be extremely pissed about. H.S./college coaches need to understand the pressures that students experience and allow you to prioritize your activities where you need to do so. If he doesn't respect or trust you to make these decisions, he's got issues.

Of course, that said, you still have to deal with what I think is unreasonable anger. One way some folks work through this kind of thing is to ask the person who is unhappy with you to help you come up with ways to handle all of your responsibilities. Make them feel big by asking their advice. Explain that you didn't want to get in trouble by being late for school but you also really want to excel in X country, so what advice does he have to help you to do both things?

I don't personally think that you owe your coach an apology, but it could smooth things over with him. It would be best if it came from all three of you. Coaches can get really crazy sometimes. If you have one that is that obsessive, maybe you should think about changing sports. If you are really dedicated to this sport, though, that might not be an option. So you will have to decide how much you're willing to put up with.

You probably don't want to call in any trump cards, such as another teacher or your parents. Those can wait in the wings for if things get out of hand and the coach becomes truly unreasonable. Don't hesitate, though, to call in another adult if the coach starts demanding that you put xc before everything else and treats you unfairly if you don't.

Answer 7

no, dont write an apology. Its the coach's responsiblity to inspire you and also know why you dogged the workout

Answer 8

You are wrong Astec.......no 10th grader should be writing a personal letter to their teachers......tell her parents and let her parents confront the teacher.