I shouted at my women employee (i like her) ? how to handle things.

Question

She had made habit of coming late....and my partner told her strongly to come on time...still after 2 days she came little late and i asked her what's the time ? and told her to come on time and my tone was concerned , serious and loud.

Now she did not turn up on saturday ..when called she gave excuse and asked if she can be absent as its late and i will get angry if she gets late...

and again i was surprised at her argument and said plz join work ....and she came late during the day.

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i run a small company.

>I like her and want to marry her.

>she has been good academically and has engineering degree.

>I am surprised at her apathy towards her work.

>How can i tell her that i like/love her and want to marry her and to be friendly and understanding .....and do her job seriously.

>I am not at all bossy ....i behave like a friend and they take liberty to joke with me.....its a friendly and safe environment ....(she sits in my room and i dont disturb her during working hours...no glances or flirting during work).

>she smiles and laugh (and 'notices' my smiling face and eyes with a smile) when i respond to her hi / bye /general chit chat .

Answer 1

if u like her and want to marry her, go to her home and aploligise to her and her parents.

but if this is the way u run your company,then may god bless you.

Answer 2

It is not good to shout at any body and be discourteous, especially at women, elderly and children even when they may be wrong. It is better to be tolerant, nonviolent, considerate, kind and forgiving even when the other person is wrong. Any advise if important should be given with humility, love, mutual respect, dignity, logical interaction and tolerance.

If you feel bad, be honest and let her know that you are sorry. Your words should come truthfully from your heart and inner feelings of remorse and not from the lips alone.  Many times it is better to loose then win and never get into an argument. At work and otherwise also it is better to be decent, honest and maintain honesty, decent values and good character.

If you like her and want to marry her then be honest, brave and truthful and let her know how you feel and respect her feelings and decisions, if she agrees talk to her how to approach the parents to give due respect and proper consideration to every one and maintain harmony, respect and love.

To put it more concisely and precisely I refer you to the quotation of Dr. Singh on 'Human Nature and Development' as below,

"The roots, shoots, stem, branches, leaves, buds, flowers, fragrance, fruit, beauty and aanundh (eternal happiness) of true love is in kindness, care, respect, forgiveness, honesty and truth in ones mind, heart, thoughts, speech and actions; short of that all is lust, temptations, infatuations, greed, ego, anger, crookedness, etc., etc.,  i.e., selfish misadventures and cravings of mind and senses."

Hope that helps and answers your question

Answer 3

  working with someone you are in a relationship with ,especially a fresh or new one is hard ,most people can't put there feelings a side at work, Being professional at work is hard to be serious when your feelings are involved  . Let her know in the business work place you are employee ,employer relationship only

Answer 4

you sound too young to be running a company to me though. i think you should just be her boss and fire her and then ask her out if thats what you want.

Answer 5

dont mix your official life with personal.............  otherwise you will end up in mess.