I still need help with my mom and tampons!!!!!!?

Question

This is probably my third time asking this...but i still don't know...

I'm pretty sure(still don't know) I'm going to be using tampons at the middle of the school year....but i don't know if i should go behind my moms back and do this..

i got in really big trouble about saying stuff behind my moms back and my dad said if i don't do what she says then i will be in really big trouble...and i don't know if this is worth getting in trouble for.

so its between my comfort and getting in trouble...

i told my older cousin and my granny but all my granny said was that my to young now...(I'm 14 my birthday is january 1, i think I'm old enough to make decisions like this on my own own!!)

I really need some help and i know after this time i will know what to do...all i need now is good advice and good courage..

THANKS AGAIN.. = )

Answer 1

I queefed when I had a tampon in (a q***f is a v****a f**t) and that made it sound extra loud so my whole third period(heh) english class could hear me! i was so embarrased.

What ever you do DO NOT q***f when a tampon is in!!

Answer 2

ok i dont get what ur saying totally but i use tampons,i dont like pads,just remember change them every couple hours and sleep with a pad til ur older.

Answer 3

Have you talked to your mom about tampons? there may be a reason she doesn't want you to use them. talk to her and maybe she will be supportive. one thing about parents is that they always find out, about everything. if you are worried about getting in trouble don't do it, they will find out.  

Answer 4

yeah that's a personal decision you need to make for yourself and she's your mother of course she's going to be against her little girl sticking anything in her v****a she doesn't want you to grow up!

Answer 5

You should never go behind your parents' back to do something.  A lot of times parents tell you things and have you do things to keep you safe and healthy.  While you may not agree with the decision, until you have all the information and knowledge to make decisions on your own, you really do best to stick with what they say.  All that aside, your mom may have what she thinks are valid reasons for not wanting you to use tampons just yet.  It's also possible you are still a bit young and on the small side physically for it to be possible to use them, as well.  Using a tampon isn't just a matter of what you want to do.  There is the matter of size, and if your hymen- you may call it a cherry, is intact.  Tampons are available in junior sizes, but those may still be uncomfortable for you.  So you might go through all the secrecy and hassle, and still find you can't wear one just yet.  And then there is the little matter of the secret you will have to keep.  How good do you think you are going to feel doing that?  Can you live with the consequences when your mom finds out?  How do you feel about deception yourself?  Would you appreciate your mom and dad deceiving you?  All relationships have to be built on trust and respect, and it's most critical to have both between a parent and child.  I think you would do best to open this subject with your mom, and get this all in the clear air.  Don't be disrespectful and cop an attitude, be a mature young lady about it.  Explain the reasons why you wish to try wearing them, and ask her to help you make the right decisions.  While you are certainly old enough to make some decisions and choices, the fact is there is still a lot of information you don't know and things your mom has left to teach you.  She isn't the enemy, you know?  This is the lady that has seen you through diapers, teething, your first crushing heartbreak, zits and the start of puberty.  I'm sure it hasn't all been easy and joyous for either of you- and yet she's stuck with it all these years.  So give her some credit, huh?  If you want to be treated with respect, and as a maturing young lady, then it's time to act like one.  That means being open and honest with your parents- about everything.  They can't help you unless you are, and won't appreciate being caught out by surprise, or having to fix something after you are in a mess.  Some things you can fix, some things you can't.  Sometimes it's best to avoid the trouble to start with, than to try to live with a fix and the scars afterwards.  Speaking as a mom, I would much rather speak with my daughters beforehand- which I did.  Then when the time was right, they tried them with all the prep I could give them.  That's what you need to do as well.  Talk with your mom.  Don't go behind your parents back, for anything, ever.  If you can't discuss it with them, then that's probably your first clue it may not be a good thing to do.

Answer 6

Why would you get in trouble for tampons?  Tampons own.

Answer 7

Hey Hun,

Why aren't you allowed to use tampons? Did you ask your mom about this?

Does your mom use tampons?

If not she may not want you using them because she's never used them and doesn't like them?

and if she does maybe she thinks your to young to use them right now?

I think maybe you should talk to her about this and maybe find out why she doesn't want you using them.

You could go behind her and use them just hide them in your room and wrap them in loads of toilet paper but then again you should really talk to her she may have reasons for why she says no.

You say she doesn't care??

Just sit her down when she's nice and calm and explain to her that you want to use them and you believe you are old enough and responsible enough to use them, she says they may hurt but they may not hurt you. Explain these to her and maybe even show her the stuff you found on the internet and explain that you want to use tampons and why you think you should be allowed to.

It may take some work but in the end it may be worth it!

Good Luck Sweetie

Jess

Hun i just thought maybe make a doctors appointment and ask you doctor to talk to you and your mum about tampons and maybe that will make your mom feel more comfortable.

Answer 8

use tampons

your mom can get over it

you are old enough to use whatever you want down there!

Answer 9

im 13 and i use tampons, they are a lifesaver!  I understand your moms concern so i would sit her down and talk about the pros and cons of tampons

Answer 10

if she does not want to listen or tells you "i dont care!"  at least you tried.   you will have to manage getting them on your own and just do what you have to do.  I started using tampons around 16 or 17 and did not confide in my mother or even tell her.  I had a part time job so I just got them myself and she really never checked for me like that. But I don't think she would have forbid me without good reason so try one more time to have a serious talk with her and if she tunes you out, do what is comfortable for you but just be careful and make sure you use them correctly.