I suspect my son is spying on his mom, how should i deal with it?

Question

3 nights ago,i came home from work early,and i saw my son hurriedly coming from the backyard late at night.i was curious and went there which was very dark and a chair was suddenly placed under the window i stood up the chair and saw my wife through a gap in the blinds taking a shower.so what else might he be doing there at that moment? i felt bad knowing that he might be spying on his own mom and thinking of sexual thoughts,i felt mad and bothered at that time but i dont know how to confront him.is it normal for his age to have an oedipal complex?how could i tell him to stop it if he was doing it?does it have to do with my wife's big b***s?cause she's his mom and very wrong.my son is a 15 y.o.loving and shy boy,yet my suspicion may be wrong.what should i do?

Answer 1

he's about at that age when he and his friends talk about women there are 3 possiblities.

1. your son is curious and wants to see the female parts so maybe he knows what they look like and talks to his friends about it

2. your mistaking he may have been using it for something else earlier and your just thinking it all in ur mind

3. the kid has a fetish for your wife (his mom) and possibly wants to bang her if shes hot. better watch out its sick but if this is true and continues he and your wife may have a sexual encounter like 5 years from now down the road. i know it sounds freaky but ive heard many stories of it on the news and places.

u better talk to ur son

Answer 2

That is disturbing. Very. Watch your son closely. If you suspect something is up, tell your wife immediately. It will humiliate him, but only bring it up if you're sure he's spying!

Answer 3

Well it is in some cases that a boy likes his mother in more ways than he should. if you are going to confront him be cool and see if hes spying on a girl next door first like you know a next door girl or something and dont pressure him just be cool but it might be wise to make sure you cant see throught the window and closew it up somehow

Answer 4

ok when you talk to him say why was there a chair under the window maybe h**l open up

whe hes looking through again come out and see him and say hey what are you doing

maybe when she takes a shower walk in the room and look at ur son through the window and say something

tell ur wife about it and tell her to say something if she notices him there

those can help maybe im only 15 haha! :P im not so smawwttt but i twyyy!  

Answer 5

Um... are you horny or something

god this question is messed up  

Answer 6

listen it is possible he was spying...he's at the age where sexual hormones are raging wildly, he may be interested in the female form....get him some magazines...you know the type i mean, and don't worry too much about the spying its a faze, he's probably too shy to approach other females and his mother could be easiest person around to answer his thirst for knowledge of the female form.....i don't think he's thinking of his mum in a sexual way...he's just discovering what the differences are....maybe you should just pass him a couple of those mags and i think your worries will subside....its a scary and confusing world for a boy his age give him a break, maybe have a conversation with him about women and feeling and s*x...he sounds like he may need a bit of guidance man to man...

Answer 7

i very veyr much doubt he was spying on his mother but if your worried you will have to confront him

Answer 8

It is absolutely normal at that age to look at naked women because the hormones start kicking in. I think the fact your wife has big b***s may also influence that because most men, male teenagers are interested in that.

However the fact that it is his mum, you may have to confront him. Tell him you know what it is like being that age. The chances are he will probably be really embarassed. I know I would be. Tell him it is ok and it is normal to look at naked women but it must not be your own mum. To comfort him tell him that you will not tell his mum but if he continues then you will have too.  

Answer 9

Yeah..that's weird.

Answer 10

wow thats horrible....

i think that you need to talk to him...if he feels humiliated then he will stop..

explain how WRONG it is

Answer 11

First, fix the gap in the window.  Get some curtains to go over the blinds.  If your son can see in, so can others.  Talk to him and tell him you know what he was doing.  Tell him it is not right to do that to his mom, it is sick.  Tell him it is illegal to be a peeping tom and he could be arrested if it were someone else.  Do this as soon as possible.  Tell your wife he was peeping also.  

Answer 12

It seems like you may be correct, that you're son was spying on his mother. But you should definitely be sure before talking to him or making a big deal about this. I think it's probably normal, because brothers often spy on their sisters. You're son may just be confused and interested in naked bodies, and s*x. You should talk to him about all of that stuff, but I wouldn't get mad at him. He's just curious.  

Answer 13

At the beginning of this question I figured the boy was 7 or 8. He's 15. You shouldn't have to tell him, he should know how wrong and disgusting that is! I'd beat the living S**t out of him!

Answer 14

"Eliminate every bad deed by a very good deed."

-Prophet Mohammed ( PBUH ).

He has come under evil influence, you need to guide and educate him in a very good possible way.If he is doing such thing please tell him this is a very big sin.Mother is something special. Prophet Mohammed also told-" Heaven is under the feet of your mother".  

Answer 15

1st of all you need to make sure that your son really spying on his mom. Its normal for a guy on his age to get curious about bodies and s*x, but instead of scolding him, you need to give him proper s*x education. Like its inappropriate to spy, its better to read Playboy instead. Buy him a Playboy magazine, coz if he's a shy guy, most likely he spied on his mom in order to satisfy his curiosity and mostly because he doesn't have other means to do it.

Please remember that improper s*x education may lead to improper s*x behaviour and teens are fragile. Good luck.

Answer 16

thats distubring!!! sick son you raised a pervert

Answer 17

Why have you asked this 7 times ?

You need to confront the 15 year old perv ..if this is even true !

Answer 18

that is so wierd it made my son laugh and say "whoaaaaa, thats messed up!"