I tend to not hold grudges...I don't know why....

Question

Whenever someone betrays me or hurts me somehow, I tend not to hold a grudge. For example: One of my best friends of almost 10 years steals from me (my Nintendo DS) and lies about it. She eventually gave it back, and I forgave her. Our friendship isn't the same, but that's not the point. My parents keep saying that it probably isn't good that I still consider her a friend, but I just can't seem to hold a grudge.

So, my point is, I'm just wondering if not being able to hold a grudge, or really be angry at someone, makes me a strong person, being able to forgive easily, or does it make me a weak person, not being able to hold my dignity? What do you think?

Answer 1

i think you've come to realize that

its better to let things go and live in the present.

(good for you!, not many can do this)

thinking about a simple grudge

takes all the time away for thinking

about other things.

i believe it makes you stronger

and what is dignity? stubborness?

let by-gones be by-gones

Answer 2

Your a stronger person not to hold a grudge ! Say you and your mate fell out and did not speak for 10 years, and every time someone said her name or you passed her in the street you thought of that grudge, like a ball of hatred, all those thoughts going through you head. But your friend did not hold a grudge - she will be a more happier person, and not to be bitter over it, after all it would be you soaking up all the negative energy.

Only 1 thing to be care-full about make sure people do not take you kindness for granted - and use you knowing that you'll forgive them.  

Answer 3

It makes you neither weak nor strong hun, it merely makes you who you are.

You are the only person that has the right to decide whether you are weak or strong in that respect, I suppose it's a case of how you view yourself.

Good Luck. X :-)

Answer 4

I sometimes wish I could be like this.

I hold grudges over everything, never forget them and never let them go.

It makes my mind go into overtime sometimes.

Being able to forgive easily should never really be seen as a bad thing, because life is so short - too short for grudges and resentment. But it will cause people to walk over you and treat you like a mug - because they know you will forgive them and get over it almost instantly?

However if it's not in your nature it's simply not in your nature, don't try and change the person that you are, it never works.

Answer 5

I don't think it makes you strong or weak. That's just the way you are.

I didn't used to hold grudges until I got burned by the same person more than once. Now I am the queen of grudges and probably need therapy. LOL

Answer 6

I'm the same way, particularly when it comes to ex's. I've found it's a bad thing because people assume it's a sign of inferiority and walk all over you.