I think I'm having feelings for my cousin. Is something wrong with me?

Question

Ok so 1st of all she's really my 2nd cousin. I met her @ a fam reunion a while back and we really hit it off. At first I was like, "wow shes kinda cute and nice" and didn't think much of it beyond that, but as we started talking more and getting to know one another I started thinking about her...a lot, and couldn't wait to see her throughout the reunion. I mean she's beautiful, very intelligent and shares a lot of common interests. I have a feeling she likes me as well as I can kinda of sense these things but I didn't want to make it too obvious how I was beginning to feel (not dancing with her at the dance party, not touching her when we took photos together) b/c when I like someone it can be very obvious and let's face it, it would look kind of out of place at a fam reunion.

Anyways, to the point. I know in this society it's wrong to have any kind of intimate feelings for another family member and definitely wrong to act on them but I can't help how I feel. Is it common for something like this to happen? Should I say anything to her about it? I'm a fairly normal guy but this is (supposedly) not a normal situation at all.

Answer 1

umm honestly I am not gonna go around dating my cousins but people are g*y and people have three sums....so what is that wrong with dating someone that you are barely related to.

I think though that it is weird. but you can't live your life going by what ever other people think is right.

Answer 2

Thats right, you can't help feelings that you have for someone, and i don't think its wrong to have feelings for someone in your family. I think, things like this happen in many families, becuase if this person wasn't realted to you, you would make a move potentially. I dont really have advice, as how to go abou it though.  

Answer 3

to society it might be a bit weird but i thinku guys should give it a shot. we just can't help sometimes about who we care about right. if u think ur family isn't gonna be cool about just keep ur relationship on the downlow.  

Answer 4

Dude...are you a hillbilly...if not you are your way to be...

Answer 5

Actually, it's not a bad thing you like your 2nd cousin. You're not really related.

Answer 6

no, its not wrong at all, i think a cousin of mine is cute too.  Besides, what if u were to suddenly find out that she wasn't ur cousin, then all of a sudden it would be okay???  You can't help who u have feelings for, just because thier family doesn't mean that they automatically won't be attractive to you.  You could meet a girl, fall in love and start dating only to find that she is ur long lost sister.  see my point?

Answer 7

Although your not technically related, YOUR STILL RELATED!!! I don't think it would be a good idea at all... sucks in all but seriously stay away for a while...

Answer 8

Yeah, that's weird. Probably best for both of you if you guys distance yourselves from each other a bit so you don't fall into temptation.

Answer 9

De-De-Deee!!! You answered your own d**n question!! Yes that shizit is weird, very weird!!