I think I Hurt or Offended My Mother

Question

My 3 year old started preschool on Monday, before Monday we came to visit the school 3 times. The fist time I told my mother to come in with me for 10 minutes and she did. She also came with us on the tour of the school

So on the first day we went together with my daughter to drop her off. My original plan was to set up her breakfast and then go but my mother said that we should sit down with her, so the both of us sat down at the little kid table with my daughter, and we waited there until she ate!

Now today we dropped her off later so she had breakfast at home and I dropped her off while my mother waited in the car. My daughter was very clingly today. She didn't do so good, she was crying for me the whole day and I told my mother so she suggested staying there together with my daughter each morning until she ate.

Well, today I picked her up early and while we were driving to the preschool my mother said I am coming in too, I have to see her face when we get there. I said okay, if you want to, I then said you are not going to say anything to the teachers are you?

So my mother got offended by this because she wanted me just to say yes, sure. When we got to the school I said, come on let's go in and she smirked and said I'll stay here.

I hate that, the way she lokes with that smirk. She reads too much into things she said she didn't like the hesistation when she told me she was going to come in too. I think that she really cares for her grandmother but I just did not want to make a big spectacle, you know it doesn't take 2 people to pick up 1 kid and I disturbed the kids because they were taking their nap, can you imagine if there were two people that came in?

I guess I want my mother to kind of cool off and let me do it. I don't know, I didn't mean to offend her.

Answer 1

Just relax, I'm a Nana and of course a mother.

She over reacted and just leave it alone unless she brings it up. Then tell her that she is welcome but that her granddaughter needs to learn to do things on her own slowly with mommy only .

Bringing it up before the school thing and getting her all excited about it then would have helped and taking pictures in the classroom the first day only and picking her up thing , but that is for her memory book .

Tell your mom if she does ask that she is a very special person in both your lives, she just needs to not take things so harshly.