I think I am falling for someone I work with. I am a legal secretary and recently... ?

Question

we had a room shuffle which meant I am now sharing with a young trainee solicitors who is 23 ( I am 28) and an older guy. The trainee is the one I seem to be lusting after. The thing is I have a partner of 9 years who I am really happy with but I just can't stop thinking of this other guy. We have such a laugh when its just the two of us in the room and have a silly sense of humour. I catch myself gazing at him as his desk is just a little in front of mine and keep wondering what he would look like naked. He reminds me a lot of Mark Ronson.. He goes jogging and eats healthily, like me and I think there is something there between us although we are both very shy and I keep telling myself I'm being ridiculous and that I am 5 yrs older then him. I just wish I didn't get so jealous when I see him talking to the young junior girls in the office as he is a very friendly, nice guy. I was so miserable this morning when I heard him chatting to one of them as she was helping with his filing I gave myself stomach aches !! Can someone please tell me how to get over this riducious crush.

Answer 1

You are spoken for. That and not the age difference is the problem. Focus on your partner and plan something special such as a vacation. Accept that there will always be men that you will be attracted to, and men you could have been with if you hadn't found your partner. However, many people your age have drifted between dates and would be thrilled to be in a stable relationship.  

Answer 2

Find a new job so you won't see him again

Answer 3

I understand that you really like this guy but you still have to remember you have a partner and for 9 years at that. If you and your partner have been together for 9 years you obviously have something going for you guys and you shouldn't mess that up with a younger man because sweety i have tried younger men and right when they see something younger and hotter they are going to leave you. Just think of the crush as a friend and when you see him just try to picture your partner for 9 years.:-)