I think I am overreacting but it's killing me. Please help!

Question

I am worrying myself to death over something that probably all men do. Almost a year ago, my fiance told me that he used p**n to m********e. I didn't like this, which he knew I wouldn't and that's why he came clean with me. He wanted to stop, and knowing that I disagreed with it, he did. I completely trust that he has stopped watching p**n. However, ever since, my self esteem and confidence has taken a real plunge. I mean, he never puts me down, and tells me quite often that I am beautiful. However, I find myself being so jealous and worried that he is looking at/ fantasizing about other women. I am not worried that he would ever cheat on me, but I don't even like the idea of him thinking other women are pretty. We do not live together, and I make myself sick wondering if he's at his house watching s**t on tv (ex: The Girls Next Door- he didn't understand why I would find this show inappropriate, but knowing that it upsets me, he promised not to watch it.) I know this makes me sound crazy and irrational, so please don't get on my case. I guess I just want to know if any other women feel this way, and what I can do to get over it. Thank you in advance for your serious answers.

Answer 1

If you love him, trust him. Be thankful that it just tv and that he isn't actually cheating on you. If you still have suspicions that he is still watching that stuff, move in with him. Make sure that you give him enough "booty" so that he feels satisfied and doesn't attempt to seek it else where. He'll know that you will fullfill all of his fantasies and you will have the confidence of knowing your man is a happy one.

Answer 2

Open your mind, and accept him for who he is. Looking at pictures of other women, doesn't mean he loves you any less. As long as he doesn't touch. But trying to make a man stop looking at women, is like asking a baby not to cry, eat and p**p. It only leads to issues in the long run. I wish you luck.

Answer 3

Maybe he is watching p**n because he isnt having fun,in bed with you. hah,jk. but just ask him why he watched it or does still watch it..maybe its because he likes certain positions or something that you dont do with him.  

Answer 4

It seems that you lack confidence in yourself.  You have a guy that cares so much for you, that he even changes his TV viewing!

WoW!  You are a lucky girl!!!!   Now, quit worrying!

No offense hon, but this is really petty. Get over it.   :-)

Answer 5

Wow, your relationship is going to go down the drain if you keep this up. If he has never cheated on you, never sleep with another women, stop worrying about it. Seriously, my man watches p**n, and I sit down beside him, when he does it, it just makes our relationship fun. I know that if I'm not there and he's watching it, he can't jump through the tv to that girl, and if he is thinking about other women, he's only thinking about them, not being with them. Good Luck.