I think I may have a stalker, in college?

Question

Ok, I go to a small art school. (Less than 1000 students, I believe). Last year was my first, and during the first semester I made acquaintences with a kid there. I was friendly with him because he didn't talk to anyone, so I wanted to see if there was a reason. Well, at first he was ok, then all he talked about was anime, video games, and more video games. He also acts like a child and does no school work. I go to find out he was in Special Ed classes in high school (he wasn't even in a normal high school.) Anyway, I stopped talking to him. Then all of a sudden he starts following me around during school hours. All of a sudden he's in all my classes, he switched his major to mine. That was last year. Considering the fact that he literally failed both semesters last year, I assumed he wouldn't be back this year. I was wrong. And he's in ALL my classes again. Now, I know a LOT of second year students with my major, and none of them are in all my classes, not even close. Today I find out that he's in my ELECTIVE as well... one that has NOTHING to do with my major. What do I do? I have this sped video game anime freak following me around in every class. I sit there and roll my eyes every time he speaks or does some retarded action (he thinks he lives in an Anime, not even kidding about that).

I feel that if I go up to someone there and tell them that I think he's stalking me, they will laugh. He's a spineless 19 year old sped kid, so they probably think he can't do anything. I'm not threatened by him, but it's very annoying to have someone that literally switched all of his classes around to be in all my classes, and I can't stand him. He has no good reason to be in graphics (as a major), he knows nothing about it. He even said that the first time we spoke. He said he knows nothing about computers, doesn't even like them, and that's why he's in illustration.

Should I just man up and talk to someone about it? It's not that I'm afraid of him, and it's not that I'm being whiny either... It's like having a child around 24/7.

Answer 1

well i know im gonna sound like a total b*****d,but you gotta speak right to him...is he still speaking to you?,if so,then ask him why did he switched all of his classes,and check out his excuses (normally,a guy like that cant even know how to lie) if he does lie,then you tell him like "look,i dont want to be rude with you,i mean,youre a nice guy (¬¬ yeah,seriously?),but i feel kinda awkward that you follow me everywhere (what,did you thought i didnt notice) and i am sure that you will understand my situation..i mean,i still wanna be your friend (but at distance) but i think you need to find more friends too..." if he doesnt understand the total indirect-direct,then you ust go str8 to the point...i know those kind of people,they will depress themselves and play more video games or they can take pictures with frightening faces and using a hammer like attacking somebody (like the chinese one from virginia or wherever) and get to school with rifles for a sadistic revenge....

Answer 2

Well, he's not a stalker; at least not yet. A stalker is somebody who commits violence or threatens to commit violence against their victim. In that case, he would be committing a felony in most states. A lot of girls like to claim or think they're being stalked, and usually the guy who is "stalking" them is just being friendly. This guy, on the other hand... not all of his dogs are barking. He's an odd person, that's for sure. Usually I'm not one to judge people, but he has a personality disorder. I don't know what, exactly, but it's a personality disorder none-the-less, and that's not the kind of person you want taking a special interest in you.

If he really is taking all of your classes, then talk to a school administrator about it -- they will be able to see the pattern of odd behavior and perhaps they can do something to make sure you're safe.

Answer 3

If you seriously think that he may be stalking you, you need to let someone know at the school...your counselor or someone in the administration. They are obligated to check out the information. You do need to listen to your gut instinct and not worry about what others will think of you.

Go today and get it checked out. People with greater intelligence have done horrible things to others. He may be capable of the same.

Best wishes!

Answer 4

Ok well I'd question how he got into your classes in the first place. If he pretty much screwed up his first year then why is he back for the second? Is there someone in his family or something that is rigging the results to ensure he gets through uni?

I'd also try and talk to your friends about it. See if they have noticed the way he acts around you. If they have then you have extra evidence to present to the powers that be who can sort the matter out for you. If he keeps following you around and stuff then that's harassment and needs reporting

Good luck with it sounds complicated and I hope this helped :)

Answer 5

that sounds crazy. even if you don't think he is a threat, he might be. it really does sound like he is trying to be in all of your classes. i went to a liberal arts school with a little over 1000 and i never had all of the same classes as anyone. you coulld try talking to an advisor or someone about it, just in case it gets worse. it's better to speak up and say something about it before anything bad happens. it's your safety, so do whatever makes you feel comfortable. good luck. also, i know you are probably not mean to him, it sounds like you just ignore him, which is good. it might make him do something crazy if he thinks you are being mean to him. good luck with this.