Ok so a little about us. We are both in our mid twenties, have been together 3yrs and living together 1.5 yrs. We've had a nice share of problems but we have always came out the fire together stronger than before. I've learned so many things about him since I've moved in. We love each other very much. Problem: a couple days ago we went pre-b day browsing for me(9/18) at a jewelry store for some watches. We ended up looking at wedding rings instead. No problem..til we got home that is. He started saying how he was ready to marry and i replied" I'm not ready for marriage, i think we need more time". i was just being honest. I'm terrified of marriage thanks to my mothers marriage. I've seen a nice "christian" man completely change into a possessive man. (ie. i was 12 when my step dad put a shotgun to my mothers head while she begged for mercy right in front of all 8 of her daughters......16 when he beat her blue and black, stripped her and send her outside in the snow with my 6 month sister and the fact that I've been raped helps none) How can i make him understand that i love him but is terrified. i just wanna little more time b4 that happens. he thinks i don't love or want him anymore. never meant to hurt his feelings and yes he knows of the previous events i mentioned. any advice?
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