I think I messed up with my two closest friends.?

Question

A few weeks ago while in the presence of two of my closest friends, I don't remember what, but something brought me upon the topic of cutters, and people who hurt themselves. I realize the way I was speaking about self-harmers was harsh, but I have totally negative feelings for them, and I feel nobody should be driven to the point to hurt themselves for comfort.

Yesterday, while I was at one of their houses, he was on myspace and I watching him answer messages, but he wouldn't answer a message from the other guy who was with us that day. His mother called him to go do something, I got on and read the message and found out that the other guy was a serious cutter, and the guy whose house I was at was a former cutter.

This is something that's stuck with me since I read it.

"I'm not even a cutter anymore and that was triggering"

This really bothered me, and I honestly don't know how to approach my other friend about being a cutter after speaking so harshly in front of him about his nasty habit.

What should I do? Say?

Answer 1

u can't help that you have a strong opinion on something but i dont think you should bring up the fact that you snooped and read the message. that is going to bring up more problems.

but, if you feel u need to smooth over what you said do it in private. u confess to seeing the message,  explain that you realize what you said was really harsh and you can apologize in case you offended your friend. let them know you are there for them no matter what.

Answer 2

maybe you could like randomly talk about how cutting isnt really that bad and it doesnt bother you as much as before.

or you could try confronting your friend and say your sorry or something

Answer 3

I have a friend who's a cutter, and she actually cut herself last night while I was talking to her online after a two-month sober. I understand how you could have such negative feelings for people who cut. I've actually been known to cut before, and while it was a one or two time thing for me, it helped me understand how people who do it can continue to do it. I guess the best advice I can give you is just to talk to this guy, and try and help him understand why you said the things that you did. If it helps, try and get him to explain his point of view. There's no way you can take back what you said, but explaining your feelings on the matter and why you said it might help.

Answer 4

well the worst thing to do would be to tell him u read his message taht will just make it worse... just ask him y hes being so strange and if he doesn't answer u ask him casually if him or someone colse to him is a cutter and no matter what he says just apoligize

if he doesn't answer say well either way im sorry for my remarks i really shouldn't speak about something like taht with out knowing if its going to hurt anyone

and if he does just apoligize from ur heart

if ur uncomfortable having this talk with him face to face email im text or call him

Answer 5

this is a serious thing and it NEEDS to be fixed and i don't know if i have the answer but i think that you should talk to his parents this is something i know you don't want to do but he needs to stop this before it gets to a point to where he does something worst to his self i don't think only one person could say something it needs to be a meeting with people who love him and it needs to happen you can not do this on your own