I think I settled too young...?

Question

My hubby and I bought our first house at 22, got married, and "settled down," into comfortable government jobs that pay the bills.

But now, as we are in our mid-twenties, we both find ourselves wanting to try new opportunities and live in a different city and state before we have kids. Really try to get jobs with dream companies and such.

But we're both scared to leave - as our jobs are in government - they don't pay extremely well but it's not bad - it's the kind of jobs that if we stuck with we could retire very early. And it has EXCELLENT benefits.

We also don't want potential employers to see us a "job hopping."

We just want to experience life while we are young, you know?

Help!

Answer 1

There is NO shame in having goals. If the two of you have agreed that this is what you want...GO FOR IT. Plan things accordingly..for example, don't leave your current jobs UNTIL you have something secure. It's absolutely fine to search for other jobs when you are still employed by someone else...people do it ALL the time. And like you say, do these things while you are still young...otherwise, you may later regret it. Good luck to the both of you.

Answer 2

Spice up your Marrige

Answer 3

save your money

plan some exciting exotic  vacations every year !!

this is a bad time for a job change - stay where you are !! you will need the benefits and most companies now are cutting back on benefits.. they also have another rule  last one hired is first one fired

if you really want to move    Then move ... you cant have it all

good luck

Answer 4

Your young.... just go for it, you'll regret it if you dont. wish you all the best

Answer 5

Take a vacation.

Answer 6

I think you should take ur time and visit this potenital city a few times before u decided to move there... apply for jobs while u are still in your current postion... nothing worng with change.. just do it smartly! Good luck!

Answer 7

It seems that your right.   Your entire article sounds so boring and lifeless.  

Yu're behaving robotish.   Your allowing materialistic things to get in your way of true happiness.   You've become comfortably numb.  I will tell you the truth.

Go for it.  Honey, enjoy your youth before you are old and have regrets.   You answered your question within your article.   U really are just afraid to make a change because of the job security.   Look at it like this.  If you died tomorrow would you of wanted to do something new beforehand?  Life is way too short.    Who cares about retiring early??  You'll be 65 and slower.  Heck you may be dead first??

GO FOR IT!  Enjoy the change and live it up before you have children.  You'll be glad you did this.  You can always come back home and visit.  Forget what potential employees think.  That is a waste of negative energy.  People hire who they want to hire anyway.

Get on the first d**n plane and follow your dreams.  Money,insurance and house are material items.  Make yourselves happy spiritually.  Don't follow the robots in here are telling you to remain stagnant.

GET UNSTUCK SPIRITUALLY! DONT ALLOW MATERIAL ITEMS DESTROY YOUR DREAMS.    

Answer 8

it's not really considered job hopping anymore at that age... most 20 somethings stick with the first "real" job position they take for a year or two to gain experience to help attract more of a selection of employers because everyone seems to be looking for experience

can one of you keep the government job and the other one try a dream company?  benefit wise it might be your best bet at least for the time being

Answer 9

I think its great to have the dreams, however, it doesn't mean the grass is greener on the other side.  Those type of jobs and benefits don't come along often.

You could do those things because your young, but I promise you'll be kicking yourself in the a** when you are 50!!!

Answer 10

nothing wrong with settling at a young age. as long as the two of you are genuinely happy with one another, there should be no problem making it. trying new things can't always be bad. do a little more research  and talk it over. everything will work out.

Answer 11

My advice would be to have a meeting with each other and decide on what state you would like to live in. Then do research on what will it cost for yall to live there and make sure you have a job before you decide to go there. For instance you could see if you could do a job transfer within the government jobs that yall are doing or you could just pack up your bags, hope to win the lottery, and just see what happens when you get there. Being married or anybody should always have a Plan A, Plan B and Plan C and if you are really unlucky a Plan D.

Answer 12

With all the down sizing in the work place I would think staying with a good job is the way to go...however being bored is a horrible way to live....I have no real answers for you....I can tell you I work in a state office geared to finding people jobs and really there are no "good" long term jobs out there right now....