I think a girl sexually abused me?

Question

Well when I was in camp in about 1st grade this girl who was my friend one day said that she wanted to put her finger into my *private*. And at first I was like NO but then she threatened me and was like if you don't do it I'll tell your mom things and stuff. So since I was little and stupid I let her even though I felt so wrong and gross and I cried afterward. I never told anyone but I made sure my parents never sent me to that camp again. I'm in 8th grade this year and I'm in a new school and I saw this girl in my class and thought she was familiar and then I realized it was her! She started getting friendly with me (normal friend friendly) and then she was like you look familiar and then she realized we went to the same camp. I don't think she remembers what she did because she didnt act weird or anything and I don't think she'll try to do anything weird again because she seems pretty normal but I can't be sure. What should I do???

Answer 1

Kids are curiouse but if it would make you feel better, bring it up and ask her why she did it.  See if she remembers it and tell her how awkward it was for you.  Maybe she is a L*****n and is trying to get in your pants again...  just kidding.  

Answer 2

you could develop lots of issues from something like this but it was all in all just curiousity. it depends on the way you perceive it in your mind though. if its affecting you with your daily life then seek help from a councelor

Answer 3

She was just a child. If it really affected you then you should confront her and remind her of it. You could always tell your parents but it was a long time ago. You should just try to forget this and try to start fresh.

Answer 4

It does sound as if she was just very curious or perhaps an adult had touched her in that way. If two kids touch it's not really considered sexual abuse, but if it bothers you to this day, even if she wasn't in the same school, then you should talk to a counselor about this. But remember now you're older and you know how to say NO if she bothers you in any way. If the issue bothers you from 1st grade speak to your school counselor, you don't have to use names. And to make a point you were not stupid then or now. Kids just do things.

Answer 5

No, this is nothing. You were kids, its fine. When i was like 3, i saw a man's privates. I dont make a fuss about it, im sure nearly everyone has.. I mean he peed, i walked into the bathroom. Doesnt make me a pervert does it? Kids dont know what they are doing.

Answer 6

I take it she was in the same grade as you.

So young such a thing is not really construed as an abuse, it's experimenting.

But she must have been influenced by somebody in her family or family friends etc, even if it was by way of a L*****n p**n film, it is the adults which influenced her or allowed her to be influenced by adult media who are at fault.

Maybe it isn't worth bringing up for the purpose of challenging a misconception of her abusing you.

But if she is keeping a secret of herself being abused at a young age and you recall that time you referred to, she may open up to you and you could do her a big favour by helping her get that sorted out.

She may have heard her parents one evening and snuck downstairs and caught sight of an adult film they were watching whilst she was supposed  to be in bed, maybe there isn't anything at all, but there could be and you could help her bring it to authorities if something bad had been happening to her, it maybe still is.

I would not so much challenge it, but broach the subject subtly and give her an opportunity to maybe open up about something she's kept secret for years.

My opinion anyway, she got the idea to what she did from somewhere, she didn't formulate that from her own imagination at that age, i assure you.  Touching maybe, not insertion.

Answer 7

If she was under 10 at the time the Police won't charge her, but you will put a scare into her if you do report it to the police. It happened to me when a man molested me and I did not tell anyone. I wish I had now. See the school nurse or counsellor or your parents. I think it need to be dealt with. I have been plagued by hatred of men and in particular g**s since it happened to me. (about 1973)  You know what? It doesn't hurt them it only has an effect on me. Get the issue dealt with before it does that to you.

I guarantee you that the girl is not even worried about that incident, you are  the only one thinking about it now. You will continue to think about it for the rest of your life also. Deal with it now!!

Answer 8

You really shouldn't let it get to you.  Kids do stupid sexual c**p all the time (or maybe it was just me and the morons I hung out with?).  It's not like we knew what we were doing, we were just curious.  And you're like 6 in first grade?  Relax, she didn't do it to sexually abuse you, she was curious.  That's the kind of stupid sh*t you laugh about when you're older.

Answer 9

well, tell her the truth. she might've forgotten

She was in 1st grade, i don't think she knew what she was doing.

so, like yeah

EDIT:

did it effect you in a bad way?

cause if not i dunt really think it was worth bringing up again

Answer 10

It was just child curiosity.

Answer 11

I would say still keep your guard up and to not be alone with her. she probability was abuse as child. My father would get me drunk and sexually abuse me even though i was 3. and then when i was 6 i hurt some kids the same way. but i didn't remember until i went to counseling at age 21. your mind will make you forget until you can deal with it. God help me I know i am healed and whole I am 23 with a wonderful husband and a 1 year old baby girl who is a gift form God. God heals cause He loves us.

Answer 12

It's not s*x abuse. Just kids stuff. I think most kids "play doctor" at some point in time.

If it does bug you, talk to someone and get it off your chest.