I think a student stole $10 from me?

Question

I have been teaching kids classes now for 8 years! My students and I are all very close we are like family. Well when I was leaving the building and had to pay th $10 guest fee which I knew I carried in to the building I couldn't find my wallet. One of the girls saw me rifling through my bag and looking all around and I asked her if she saw my wallet on the ground then she kind of got squirmy and I asked her if she knew anything and she said she saw one of the girls going through my bag- and when she asked her why she said she was given permission- i never gave anyone permission.

The one girl who "was seen" in my bag I have known for 8 years has been complete angel always the most respectful no trouble. Trust her completely.

The other girl who told me I have known her for 3 years very quiet likes to learn very respectful and I trust her as well.

I don't want to acuse and be wrong, I just want my wallet back w/out the girls questioning my trust in them.

Answer 1

Teach the kids how stealing is wrong don't blame any of the kids since your not sure and tell them how your money got stolen and who ever did it will be suspended (don't go throw with that of course) and tell them you already  know who done it and if they confess they won't get in as much trouble!

Answer 2

thats a tough spot to be in. its hard when you have equal trust for both and dont want to take sides. i think what i would do is this (if it happen in class), write a message on blackboard saying i am missing my wallet, please return to me, with no questions asked. please leave it in my desk drawer. thank you for your honesty. try to make getting your wallet back, the issue, not WHO did it. fear of getting caught will prevent anyone from confessing. make it a non threatening, just want my wallet back, issue. good luck

Answer 3

Ask them both separately, and use the phrase "with all due respect".

Answer 4

You need to talk to the one you think did it. Tell her you'r enot upset but if she needed money she should let you know and maybe you could have helped her. Explain to her that it's wrong to take things that aren't yours. Tell her you want to trust her and I am sure she will confess and apologize. Just plan out what you're going to say.