I think having an abortion gave me a mental disorder?!?

Question

I was almost 4 months when i terminated. Long story short, I was prepared to keep my baby and but I needed support but the Father left me high and dry. Because of personal situations and finances, I made the best choice. Please dont lecture me. I am still dealing with the consequences. Anywho, sometimes when Im alone I hear a child talking to me or sometimes I mimic a child as if she was talking to me, the Mom. Is this weird. I admit this is abnormal and it happens daily to where its just expected and now normal. I feel okay but I dont know why I do this. Is there some hidden message here? Other than that, I am mentally fine and lead a normal life. Why is this happening to me. This child is about 4 years old and she is a little girl. I wanted a girl at the time and I would always imagine her a toddler when I was preggo..cause there so cute at that age... now what?

Answer 1

You're not okay and I would recommend making an appointment or getting referred to a psychiatrist for an evaluation.  

Answer 2

I won't lecture you but i will tell you that trauma can do a lot of things to your mental being.  I would make an appt to see a specialist (P doc or CBT).  

Answer 3

I am not going to lecture you.  I have lost two children, one at 19 weeks pregnant and the other at 23 weeks.  Although it wasn't my choice it is very traumatic, and I would have to assume that it is traumatic even if it is by choice.  When I lost my children they told me in the hospital that I may go through a period where I hear a baby crying or talking.  I think it is a normal part of grieving, and I think that you are grieving your child.  I would suggest going to talk with a counselor about your situation.  I think that this is too much of a situation for you to try to deal with on your own.

Answer 4

You should see a psychiatrist and talk to them. Of course there is a message. You regret this terribly and you acknowledge this abortion as getting rid of a baby, you didn't see her as a fetus. You seem to have an enormous amount of guilt but all you can do is move forward. God forgives. The question is, can you forgive yourself? I think you have to reach inside and see all the good that you have to offer. And please get some help. I understand it's probably hard even talking about it on here, but I'm sure you'll see that talking about it helps tremendously.

Answer 5

I don't think you are mental, I am sad that you did terminate and I am normally harsh when I hear people who have abortions. I always wonder if I could adopt someones baby who is pregnant and just doesn't want the responsibility. I am not lecturing you. I am just sad for you cause you are probably living a very hard life. I don't know if your saved, but I think that the devil is trying to hurt you and make you feel this way about yourself. But, don't let yourself hurt you just ask for the forgiveness or even for God to come into your life. I would love to talk to you more so feel free to email me. I have a 5 1/2 month old girl. I am so sorry

Answer 6

Wow, how sad. I'm sorry you made the decision you did. These experiences you may be having may be due to an overwhelming feeling of guilt which is common for women who have gone through with abortions. This may be something you could be faced with for the rest of your life. I would definately get some help and try and make peace with God.

Please in the future, don't ever resort to abortion again. It is NEVER the best choice. If you aren't ready for a child, adoption is the best choice, every child deserves a chance at life.

Answer 7

You need to get some professional help to help you deal with this. Also at pregnancy help clinics/centers across the country there are classes that you can take to help you with the emotional responses from a past abortion.  It is possible to be healed.  I am so sorry that you are experiencing this, and yes, it could very well be your struggling more with your abortion than you think, so you are psychologically hearing that child's voice.  If you want to talk with me, please email me,  I may be able to help you a bit.  

Answer 8

I'm sorry to hear your story.  Ignore these people on here who gave you a lecture after you specifically asked them not to.  I'm sure you did not make your decision to have an abortion lightly, though it sounds like you weren't councelled properly before you did it and that resulted in you regretting your decision.  I would think you definitely need some counceling or other form of help.  Seek it so you can get your life back and have a fresh start.

Answer 9

Its all in your head. Pray and go to a doctor.

Answer 10

Hmmm mayb this little girl is trying to give you a message? Not sure, maybe you should go talk to a psychologist probly would make you feel better in this situation. good luck.