I think he dumped me, what do i do now? ?

Question

ok. i used to live in california where i had a boyfriend named Adam. I'm not gonna lie, it was not a super long relationship, but i had liked him for a very long time, and when we finally started dating i had never been so happy :) then i moved. all the way to new england. we were always the kind of couple that didn't need to talk out problems because we didn't see the need and we both hate conflict. point is, he very rarely called or messaged me when i moved here two months ago. he dwindled to him not calling me at all. i would say he dumped me, i don't blame him, and i accept it. but i wanted to talk to him about it. i sorta knew it was coming, but every time i even hinted at talking about our relationship he would change the subject and say something cute so i would be distracted.if we had just talked i would have told him that i would understand if he couldn't do the "long distance thing" and that i would be cool if we were just friends. now i feel like it's too late and I'm pretty hurt. no closure sucks, I'm afraid to call him because he hasn't called me in forever and he will most likely just do the same thing he used to: change the subject.

I'm sorry that was so long, but I'm really confused and i need to get past this. please help. thanks :)

Answer 1

Hun, even if you have doubts, call him, and confirm all this.

talk it out, and when he changes the subject, straight up tell him, that its important !

Answer 2

You 'THINK' he dumped you? You need to find out or know for sure that he did, before you can do anything.

Answer 3

just call him and if he changes the subject try getting him focused  

Answer 4

justs say "were still goin out right"

Answer 5

call him and blurt out ARE WE TOGETHER OR NOT!!!

and if he distracts you again you know what the answer is and I am super sorry =(

and if he says no then once gain sorry =(

but if he says yeah then YAY XD

Answer 6

Try to email him. Write down everything that's going on from your point of view, and tell him that you need to know. Don't be afraid about calling him. If he were a good friend he'd tell you if you guys were over or not, and if he trys to change the subject, tell him that hes not being a good friend by doing this. Tell him that you just want answers, it's a simple yes or no question. And if he doesn't answer, It probably means your over. Don't worry about Adam. You can still act nice, but girl, there will be another guy in your future that was especially made for you. Don't worry, just wait until you find him ^_^

Answer 7

i feel so bad for you! i never had that but my friend her bf was in the same school and he asked his friend to tell her that he broke up with her! i hated him for that.anyways call him and ask him wats up and you dont mind if you break up and it wont hurt you.srry if this a suckish answer im kinda just trying to get points

Answer 8

Just give up. Long distance relationships don't work that well, and that's a REALLY long distancce realtionship. Stay in  contact though and be friends.

Answer 9

It looks like you are going to have to move on.  If you want closure, write him a letter or e-mail and don't send it right away.  Look at it a few days later and if what you have expressed feels the same as when you wrote it, send it.  Sorry, love hurts.

In peace,

Catstu

Answer 10

I agree about Long Distance relationships rarely working out. But if you had a friendship before the relationship, you might want to keep that just in case your paths cross later in life. And just a bit of advice about not talking about your problems..not good. You don't have to argue or fight if u disagree with something but you should always communicate with your mate about how u feel on something. Call, write, do something if you truly value your friendship. Don't be afraid to hear the answer even if its not what you want to hear.

Answer 11

Go and find another cute,fine,s**y man that is

cuter him.astad of crying all night.that's would

I do!!

Answer 12

its very nice that you wanted to handle the situation maturely by means of wanting to talk to him about the relationship. i think you should let him know that he hurted you by not letting you know he didn't want to continue and you can decide if you want to be with him or not. sometimes people are scared of long distant relationships because of many different reasons. if he's not the one for you that let god and faith handle things. talking about the situation with him can release some of the pain that you are feeling.