I think he is cheating. Is it even any of my business???

Question

My dad and I have a very open relationship. We get along very well and now that I am older, we talk more too. But lately I have noticed him checking out and talking to other women. I also noticed that he has a picture of his highschool sweetheart on his phone and has been talking to her a lot. Should I let my mom know or just stay out of it? Is it any of my business?

Answer 1

I totally concur with Happy-2.  If you have that close of a relationship with your Father, then talk to him.  Tell him what you've noticed, and question it.

Answer 2

Ask him.  

Your mom is probably already aware of the situation to some degree if he spends a lot of time talking to other women.

Answer 3

i would tell your dad what you suspect. but leave it up to him to tell your mom

Answer 4

It is your business, if your dad is doing something that would s***w up the family. Confront your dad about it, make sure you get a straight answer. If he doesn't want to talk about it, most likely something is up. If you find the answer suspicious then tell your mom, she has every right to know if he's fooling around. Also don't listen to these people who say its none of your business (they're probably cheaters), it's your immediate family, it's your business.  

Answer 5

tell her. coming from a family that my father cheated on my mother. she needs to know so she can move on if i would have know that my father was cheating i would have told my mother  

Answer 6

You start off saying you and your father have good communication, and then leap to the opposite end and ask if you should talk to your mother.  If you talk that well with your father, if your relationship with him is as open as you say, ask him about it.  Furthermore, ask him if he thinks whatever he is doing is appropriate for a married man, and what he thinks your mother would say if she knew.  Talk to the man, Raquel.

Answer 7

That's a tough one.  Maybe you should approach your dad about it and see what he says.  If he admits to cheating then talk to him about fessing up to your mom.  If you tell your mom then you might run the risk of destroying your relationship with your dad, but at the same time you don't want your mom to be betrayed like this.  If your dad refuses to come clean about his affair (if indeed he is having one.....sounds like inappropriate behavior even if there is no s*x involved) then let him know you have no choice but to tell your mother.

Answer 8

You could always ask him, but otherwise don't assume anything, and don't even go as far as making accusations without proof.

Answer 9

Yes, it is some of your business and Yes , I would tell my mother,. No matter who he is, he has no right to hurt her like that..What if it was the other way around and it was your mom doing the cheating, I think you should tell your dad, don't you?>

Answer 10

It's none of your business.

If you are really concerned and want to talk to your dad about it, then do so in a very secure way....like when you two are eating out at a restaurant. Be respectful and don't just accuse him of cheating.

Instead ask him why he spends so much time talking to his H.S. sweetheart, and tell him it makes you uncomfortable seeing him check out women who aren't his wife. Tell him it gives the impression that he might be the kind of man who would cheat on his wife...but you know your Dad would never actually do something like that!

Let him draw his own conclusions and decide his own course from there.

Answer 11

You have a open relationship with your father, thats great. Talk to him privately and tell him you have uneasy feelings about the direction you see him heading in. More than likely he will explain what is going on, and probably cool it.  

Answer 12

It's between him and your mother, stay out of it.

Answer 13

Of course it's your business too. it's not about choosing whom to side with, clearly your dad is the one at fault and you should do something about it, speak to your dad first and tell him you're going to tell your mom coz she deserves to know whether or not he end up things between that woman. Whatever is the outcome you'll just all have to accept, at least then you have done your part.

Answer 14

If it were me?

Wow, I'd tell my dad straight up, "Whats going on? Why have you been talking to her so much? Are you not happy with mom?"

But thats me... the last thing I would want is my mom to get hurt finding out my dad was cheating on her.

Everyone is saying stay out of it, but its not like its just friends, that your dad and your mom... he took to oath to love and cherish her all the days of his life and he doesn't sound like he's doing it, and its to you own mother...

That sucks... but I would talk to your dad.

Answer 15

Stay out of it...it isn't any of your business...

Answer 16

stay out of it none of your business