I think i'm adopted?

Question

ohkay i was thinking about this..

today i thought wow i dont look like any of my parents my eyes look sorta chiense but i know im not

and i dont have any pictures of me in the hospitol or videos my parents acsuse is oh your dad taped over them and i never heard any stories of when i was born ?

please help what should i do?

Answer 1

I wish I would know your age. I then could give you at least some answer.

Answer 2

Ask and keep asking.

Tell them you need to kow and then ask other family members you know if you are they know. Other family will let it outl  are you close to cousins older than you?

Answer 3

Ask about how you were born. Look at your birth certificate, are there signatures on it? does it have all of your vital details? Go to the hospital and try and get your medical records from your birth under the name you currently have.

Thats a good start.  

Answer 4

One thing you can do is get a copy of your birth certificate.  Take a look at the filing date.  If it was filed a while after your birth (say, 4 months or more,) there's a decent chance you were adopted.  Most people file them pretty soon after the birth.  However, an amended birth certificate, which is produced following an adoption, cannot be filed until after the finalization of the adoption.  That normally takes several months or more.

Ask your parents, though, too.  Even if you feel a little embarrassed, you won't be the first person to ask this of her parents.  

Answer 5

If you are, do you really, want to know?

Think long and hard about it.

If so,

Sit them down, and tell them you're serious so they know you're not fooling around. Explain to them why you think it, without them interrupting and tell them it means a lot to you, this is no playful joke &you have a right to know the truth.

Hope it helps.x

Answer 6

never hurts to ask because my best friend was on myspace and some strange lady sent her a friend request and she answered it and the lady sent her  a message saying Hi i'm your mom. Turned the girl adoptive mother was gonna wait to tell her she was adopted once she had her first child. so it never hurts to question  

Answer 7

You should not jump in head first and ask if you are adopted. It is a very sensitive subject. Not all children look like their parents. Some look like aunties, grannies and some people are just a mixture. You should ask them who you look most like in your family. Also, ask what you were like as a baby, like how much you weighted, how long your mum was in labour and stuff like that. Don't just ask your mum and dad, ask other relatives. And remember, if you are adopted, it was mum and dad who brought you up. It is natural for you to want to know your biological parents, but keep their feeling into account.

Good Luck and all the best!

Answer 8

That does sound very suspicious. Ask them. If you feel they are not telling you the truth, try to obtain your birth certificate. It will be at your local courthouse, and you can also buy them on-line sometimes.

Let me tell you the truth. I know a person that is adopted, but she does not know and she is 30 years old. Her parents refuse to tell her the truth. They even went as far as to fake a pregnancy and took pictures where her mother "looks" pregnant. They dont have any of when she was in the hospital, but they have some of when she was at home. They have no intentions of ever telling her, and it is not my business. The had no other children, and even some of her family members think she is their real child because of all of the lies. It is very sad.  

Answer 9

Hi xOkaybaby,

So far you have great advice but here is a different angle as a science geek....



ask your parents their blood types.  If they don't know, talk them into donating blood at the red cross with you.  You will get a donor card mailed to you, with your blood types on them.  Now it might be no help at all or it could give you a definite answer.  Like if both your parents are "o" blood types and you are "ab", then they cannot be your parents.  Then again, if you are all "a" blood type it doesn't help much cause you could still be adopted.  Good luck.

http://anthro.palomar.edu/blood/ABO_syst...

Answer 10

I think you should have a respectful talk with them about the differences you've noted, and ask if you have a different genetic heritage. Make it clear that you'll still love them just as much no matter what, but you appreciate their honesty.

Not looking like your parents does not necessarily mean you're adopted, though. What you're saying reminds me of me, and I'm not adopted.

I don't look like either of my parents either. At all. Nor do I act like them. People who see me with them generally assume I'd adopted. I get asked about it on a regular basis, and I have one friend I went to college with who insists that I really can't be their biological child because I'm too different. (I also don't understand how, from a genetic standpoint, it's possible for me to have blue eyes-- but I think the problem is that my knowledge of genetics is too basic.)

But the thing is... I am their biological child. I haven't actually seen any of the hospital pictures of myself either (except one in which there are no adults,) and I think I'm too old for my parents to have gotten in on the birth video fad, but I've seen pictures of my mother pregnant, and I have no siblings. If I'm not their biological child, it would all be a pretty elaborate charade. I just don't think they would do that. I have several relatives adopted from foster care, so my parents talked very frankly to me about adoption starting at age two or three. It was never a taboo subject for us, so there's no reason they would lie to me about it if it concerned me. Even if they did want to lie, some other family member or friend would have let it slip by now. So... I'm their biological child.

So even though there may be some circumstantial evidence, you can't be sure until you have an open and frank talk with your parents.

ETA: Even though I seem like a matched set with the answerer above me, I'm presumably not the person she's talking about. Unless that answerer is the mentioned college friend... Wacky! ;-)

Answer 11

Well, if you're a teenager and don't know if you've been adopted or not then DEFINITELY bring this up with your parents. Sometimes for a million different reasons, parents keep things from kids -- maybe there were some circumstances surrounding your birth that they didn't know how to explain, so they just never told you.... or wanted to wait until you were older... but by the time you're a teen, you should have heard the stories surrounding your birth a million times, so if you haven't -- then  feel free to address this with your parents. And, if you are adopted, you will have many questions, but know that your parents raised you and love you and you're their daughter :-)  

Answer 12

Ask your parents about it, just talk to them, they should open up and tell you if you ask.  Tell them you are writing a paper for school and need to know where you were born and need a copy of your earliest picture to go with it.  Maybe even ask if you can look at your birth certificate, tell them all your friends have seen theirs and you really want to look at yours.  If your an only child, tell them how cool it would be if they adopted a baby brother or sister for you, but make it like a random though, maybe they will tell you.  Come straight out and ask them, tell them that you don't think you look like them, tell them their stories sound kind of sketchy, and tell them that you know how much it means to have someone that loves you so much that takes u in as their own and adopts you, tell them you would be really hurt if they lied to you and told you when you are older, tell them you are ready to hear the stories about when you were a baby.  Keep asking, if they don't want to tell, it will drive them nuts and they will tell.  Good luck.  I have a few friends that were adopted, some didn't find out until like 15 or older.