I think i have a minor mental disorder. can anyone identify it please?

Question

okay. im 13 and ive been through a lot. my dad used to beat me up every other day, and my mom attacked me with hurtful words. i grew up being told i was never good enough, but i was happy, thanks to my friends at school. my parents got divorced, and my mom and i moved away from my dad. my new school was horrible, and i was bullied. i went through depression, i cut myself, and i attempted suicide. thats my life summary rite there, no bs, just straight to the point. and im going to be straightforward with why i think i have a disorder. im the clumsiest girl you will ever meet. i will trip over nothing, i will fall for no reason, and i have 0 balance.and sometimes i will just let go of something im holding unconciously. im very awkward, i dont know how to respond when someone compliments me, and i feel awkward when people i dont really know are nice to me. sometimes, when i talk about something, i cant stop. i get obsessed with things easily, but i get over it sooner or later. like in 6th grade, i was obsessed with harry potter. when someone teases me jokingly, i take it seriously (only sometimes). and i take figurative things literally. when there a quote or saying that i hear, i will write it down over and over. like the quote from tolstoys, war and peace, "life is fragile and absurd.." i have pages and pages of it written in neat, straight lines. everyone at school says im emo, so i do everything an emo would do, cause i feel like they sorta expect that from me. i would rehearse something to say to someone, then i would stutter( how embarassing!). i cant concentrate on school stuff or anything serious. i day dream, and i imagine that im living in a different world. im smart, but i act stupid. im quiet but other times, im loud. i feel confused, and i dont know what to do. im extremely forgetful. like i would get ready to write a report for school, but i suddenly forget what subject the report is for, even though i just saw what it was. i would remember stuff like how many pencils my seatmate at school had in her pencil case last week, but i cant remember what i ate last night. i panic over stupid things, and when im anxious, nervous, or panicy, i cant breathe properly. sometimes i would be in a good mood, and laughing with my friends, then suddenly i would feel out of place and i would just stare blankly ahead. i feel more mature than my other friends and classmates, and i know thing that they dont know. i get distracted by many small things, like a classmate swinging around a pen, or a leaf falling on the ground. i feel like im not right, and i need to know whats wrong with me. please help!

and i have one more question. is it possible to get a mental disorder without being born with it? like, is it possible to have it now, but u didnt have it before? p.s. when i was young, i bumped my head a lot, usually on the left side. maybe thats important

Answer 1

Your life sounds depressing, stuff has happend to me I wish to not speak of. You can get one without being born with it, but it sounds like it's just you, some people are different. I don't remember anything in pshycology class that has these symptons, sorry. But it sounds like a compulsive disorder and ADD, who knows. Possibly get a test?

Answer 2

the balance thing could be natural, lots of people are clumsy. (like me) and finding it hard to take compliments is natural too. but it could be from the physical abuse - you could have damaged bones, or the likes of that. you have symptons of Autism, but I think you have Asperger's syndrome, which is the similiar, only milder than Autism. if you do have autism/Asperger's syndrome its not because of the abuse. it is something you are born with, or caused (this is a theory) by not being vaccined for measels/mumps ECT.

when you get panicy, and can't breath properly, it sounds as if you are having the first steps of a panic attak. sit down, take deeps breaths and drink water. paranio is an after effect or child abuse, as is stuttering. all all of your symptons could be because of the abuse. its called Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

The good mood from staring blankly ahead can be hormones. hormones make moods change a lot. could be normal.

go to you GP and discuss with her/him. then you know if there's anything wrong.

if you autism/Asperger's syndrome then there are many treatments, which will help. I suggest you see a councellor/physcitrist about your past. Councellers are free. Also, they can't tell anyone what you've said, unless it included hurting yourself or others.

good luck, and SMILE,babe. Sounds like you need to.

annaxoxox

Answer 3

You had a very hard life that's for sure, but at the end of the tunnel there's always light, you must seek professional help immediately!

With the kind of life that you had, you have too many issues and traumas that only with therapy you will be able to be better and change your life, if you don't do this, all your life will be a mess, and everything will go wrong.  In any hospital they have psychiatric, that's what you need, if you have insurance, wonderful, if not, try calling 311 for help, or even google.com can give you number and places where you could go for help.  After you do that, you may consider going to a church, or any other religion you believe in, to be stronger, to get support and all the love you need, talk to the priest or the pastor!  

God is the provider, he is generous and will give you all you need, all you have to do is ask and don't forget to always pray!  God bless you!

Answer 4

Maybe you have something, check up with the other posts for that. Looks like you've already got some great answers to that part.

But anyways, I was/am a lot like you. I would advise you not to worry so much about it especially because you're only 13. It sort of sounds to me like you're not sure of who you are --like being emo because people expect it from you-- and that just comes with time. All the nervousness and awkwardness will fade with time as well.

It's also not uncommon to have multiple sides to your personality. I'm EXACTLY what you described: "i day dream, and i imagine that im living in a different world. im smart, but i act stupid. im quiet but other times, im loud." EXACTLY. It used to trip me out too, but now that I'm a bit older (going on 18) I understand WHY I'm like that. I think that's important, by the way. It might help you to just sit and think about why you do certain things -- not in a scolding way, but just reflectively. Like I bet you act stupid even though you're smart because you don't want to act superior to your peers. For instance, I'm quite around most people because I tend to not be open with people I don't trust strongly. Whereas my friends, who I trust with my life, and very loud around. I day dream / kind of role play to escape from every day life. So maybe if I'm having a crappy day, I can slip into that other reality and not worry so much about it... I find it helps me stay happier in general.

You might have ADD though if you can't focus and get distracted easily... but if it's not having a huge impact on your life (like extremely low grades, etc) I wouldn't run out and go get tested for it.

Anyways, I hope that helps you. Remember that everybody has their own personality defects :)

Answer 5

You describe all the symptoms of Asperger's Syndrome, a very mild form of autism. Almost perfectly. Monomania, poor motor and social skills, anxiety, hypersensitivity.

I wouldn't worry though, everyone nowadays seems to be diagnosed with it if they're asocial or even slightly asocial, really. It's a bs diagnosis, a label for us "freaks".

Try to work on your confidence and self-esteem. Don't worry about it.

Answer 6

I don't think you have a mental disorder...i think how you are is a result of everything that has happened in your life...if you had been born in a different time in a different place...with different parents...you would probably be 100 percent different...you still need someone to talk to...you can get over your issues...but you need to see someone...I go through the same thing...i think i have ever disorder under the sun...but its because of my life..things that happen to you can cause 100's of problems ..and they can all be linked to some disorder or another...you  just need someone to talk to...on a weekly basis...isn't there someone at school you could talk to??????

Answer 7

From what you describe, you've endured a lot of mental and emotional trauma in your life already - not good for you. It has had consequences in that you feel it sets you apart, and not always in a good way, but sometimes yes, in a good way, in that you feel you're more mature.

I think that your mind is looking for ways of distracting itself from this trauma and feelings of inadequacy, hence the daydreaming, the easy distraction, the way you have of getting 'lost' staring into space, and your slight OCD ... it suggests you have a strong mind, but that it's a little out of control. Any mind subjected to what you have endured would have some sort of reaction, it doesn't mean you're born with any disorder.

I think that you probably should see a therapist, and definitely phone social services to get you out of that house and someplace else. It would also be an idea to find something you can focus on ... like go walking every day for half an hour, or work on your fitness.

And don't worry, it takes a while for the mind to leave this particular mindset, but it can.  

Answer 8

Talk to your school counselor.  See if you can get a therapist.  They would be much more helpful to you than anything diagnosis you receive on Yahoo Answers...

Answer 9

You sound like a really cool, intelligent, interesting person who is determined and has life experiences well beyond her years of which others do not have.

Answer 10

ocd, depression, anxiety or aspergers...on the other hand it could b enone of them. You need to be asking a dr this, not people with no medical training

Answer 11

No. Even tho your parents treated you that way, you do not sound like you have a mental disorder. And everything else is normal and you might not realize it but alot of people are like that too.  

Answer 12

You and i are the same person! The Difference is that i am 20 years old and i've learned to be comfortable with my past and how i am.

Try to stop thinking there's something wrong with you or you'll get even more panicky and paranoid!

Go to the doctor and explain your forgetfulness, panic attacks and 'clumsiness' though, say it is really bothering you and making you paranoid. Ask about 'behavioral cognitive therapy'

Creative hobbies and yoga might help too!

Answer 13

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder may explain your obsession with things...the rest may just be the result of years of traumatic events in your life :(

Answer 14

Sounds like Asperger's to me.

Answer 15

You pretty much wrote my biography right there. You're not alone. What you may have is called Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). There are different ways of handleing it, such as talking about various things that could be bothering you, or sometimes medication is involved. Speak to a therapist and get his/her opinion on it.

Another factor may be that you're just growing up, which would explain the klutziness.

The bumped head may have something to do with it, but it is possible to develop a disorder, and not be born with it.

Answer 16

You're a teenager, you're clumsy as c**p. You're an analytical girl, you like to talk with much detail. You're gullible. You may be ADD or bipolar (or both). But most of all, you're a worrywart. Stop worrying what other people will think, they're just as clumsy and gullible as you. Especially don't let them mold you; be yourself. As for gaining a mental disability, yes you can.  

Answer 17

ok i don't have your background but i have the same feelings around my friends i get distracted easily fall into no mans land every so often panic if i lose something and rip my room apart but i find it in the end, panic if ive not done something or stupid things like that and no i cant remember what i ate last night, or what i wore for that matter. but i don't think ive a mental disorder and its the hormones that change your mood. I'm a teenager too believe me i no.

and to the last bit yes it is possible to get a mental disorder later in life. most people aren't born with schizophrenia but develop it.

hope i helped x