I think i may be pregnant but im only 17?

Question

im 17 years old and i think i may be pregnant my parents will kill me one for the fact they dont want me to mess up my dreams for school and they dont accept the fact that im in a inter-racial relationship and if i am pregnant they will disown me and wont help me or support me at all what should i do?

Answer 1

Look for help from the ones who care for you the most, if you realy love this guy and he realy loves you im sure that you will help eachother through it, it dosent sound like your family love you that much :( but i wouldent let them know yet, maby if you know someone in your family who is caring like your grandmother for example maby talking to her she might be able to make your mum and dad see a better side to things :) but dont be worried to talk to anyone :)

Answer 2

You should have thought about the problems before!  Now deal witht the consequences.

Answer 3

All parents are like that when their daughter gets pregnant and still is only a minor,if you tell your parents now it is good,they will not disown you ,you will get support and your help and advice you need from them,Tell them about your boyfriend and bring him to your home so your parents see him,and get to know him

Answer 4

you should get an abortion on your own. you cannot take care of this baby, and the baby does not deserve that. Also you might grow up telling the baby over and over how much you left behind for it. you need your parents at teh age of 17. h**l you need your parents throughout your whole life. you need to get the fathers help to get an abortion and you need to do it before anyone realizes your uhhhh....putting on a few pounds. if i was in your situation thats what i would do.

I am against abortion in general but i think this case calls for it.

Answer 5

get a test, then move away....then get a job to pay for college.

Answer 6

It is freedom of choice, but there are many options if you arent ready for a kid. Adoption, or find a couple that want your child from birth. Lots and lots of options for you. You would be surprised and what your mom would do for you, and that includes staying by your side through everything

Answer 7

well i was 17 when i had my son and i think i done an excellent job and im sure you will do too but first of all you need to find out whether you really are then you can think about what you are going to do. Good luckxxx

Answer 8

Firstly, I know its late, but you should ALWAYS protect yourself with condoms. At your age you don't need a pregnancy or worse an STD. Secondly, before you get too worried, take a pregnancy test. Thirdly, if you are pregnant consider adoption. Talk to your parents. They may be angry at first, but they love you and want the best for you.

Answer 9

im 16 and 10 weeks pregnant. I thought the same as you thought. I finally managed to tell my parents, at first they were angry with me, i left them on there own until they calmed down and then they said they were upset with me because i am young, but will do as much as they can to help me now and when the baby is born.

so you should tell your parents now before you get a big bump and they find out for themselves. Its hard to tell them and they may be angry but won't disown you  because you are there daughter and hopefully will support you all the way.

Good Luck!!

Answer 10

that's one big trouble you got into.. well, i think you should tell them.. your parents i mean.. coz' they're the only one who can help you.. don't be afraid.. they might get angry at first, but in the end you're still their daughter.. don't worry, they won't leave you all by yourself.. They're your parents after all.. and parents are programed to love their children no matter what kind of a mess he/she is.. trust me..

-"no matter how hard the situation is, everything will turn out fine.."

Answer 11

well the guy who you thought takin a chance was worth everything for, better stand by you and if he loves you he'll support u if your parents decide to kick you out.

Answer 12

Take a pregnancy test. If you are pregnant talk to your parents about it. Have a back up plan, a friend or relative who'll look after you if your parents do disown you. It's not the end of your life, just the start of a new one. Stay calm, if you're not ready for a child in your life the best decision could be adoption. Think it through and be sure about whatever decision you make. I really hope things turn out well for you.

Answer 13

My dear girl.

1st of all you should go to your local GP and find out if you are pregnant. If you are not then you are old enough to ask for the pill yourself without your parents permission. Condoms really should be used, pregnancy is only 1 of the many things that come from having unprotected s*x.

If you are pregnant then your GP will be able to give you advice. There are many options for you and many organisations to help you. I suggest that you go to your local community centre and talk to a youth worker, we are very experienced in helping young women who are in this situation. You will have many choices to make and you will need to know everyone before you make your choice.

In most cases of teenage pregnancy parents do come to accept the pregnancy. So if outside of this you have a good relationship with them, although they may be upset at first im sure that they will end up supporting you and if you decide to keep the baby they will love it just as much as they love you. All the girls i have workedwith in the same situation as you, thier parents have all ended up supporting them in whatever decision they made. So i feel that its important that before you make your decisions that you talk to your parents. Remember most parents only want the best for their child. You also need to talk to the father of the child, but please remember in the end whatever decision you make it is up to you to make the final decision as to what you want to do.

If i knew if you were in Australia or America i could give you some links to refer you to organisations that will counsel you. Are you still at school? If you have noone to talk to go to your favourite teacher or school counsellor. Believe it or not they will not judge you, and they will be able to help you tell your parents and give you advice and referral to further help.

What ever you do dont delay in at least talking to someone about this.

Dont be scared sweety..

much luck to you.

Answer 14

take a test.. or two.. if you are, then just be truthfull, and take it day by day. and if your not preggo..  then make sure you take the precautions so that you don't end up being scared like this again . ( good luck)

Answer 15

You could always kill the thing if it is there alive inside of you. I'm not sure at what exact moment it goes from being just a thing to a life but that must be one magical moment.

Guess you should find out for sure and get rid of it while it's still just a "thing" and not a life. For now, there are laws about how long you can wait. And for all you know, the d**n thing could end up having dreams of its own.

On the other hand, because you have a baby doesn't mean your dreams all have to end either. You might be surprised how well your parents react once the baby is born.

Answer 16

well i think that you are still young. If you are really pregnant, i advise you to do an abortion ( less than 3 months pregnant) & afterwards always use a contraceptive method.

Answer 17

get a pregnancy test, and buy some condoms while you are at the drugstore. Although you may not have a need for them anymore.

Answer 18

I'm sorry that your'e in this position. but my say is to keep the baby, My best friend got pregnant in highschool(3 weeks away from graduating)  and sadly she had a abortion....She was so depressed for so long afterwards. She always wonders what that child would be like today. Now my cousin got pregnant also that same year and kept her baby and finished highschool with valedictorion grades, worked got married, and drumroll please owns a succesful business!!!!! so it can be done. I have four beautiful children of my own and don't want to live a minute without any of them. They saved my life.

as a parent of 2 daughters I know for certain that if either of my girls came to me in the same situation as your'e in I would stand behind them 100%.

Good luck sweetheart.

Answer 19

in most cities there is a place that does abortions for underaged girls no questions asked BUT they only do a few a night

Answer 20

Go to the doctors, then decide what to do. The GP can't tell your parents without your consent and will give you guidance on your options

Answer 21

Well you shouldn't worry until you know for sure that you are pregnant, i'd go to the doctors and get checked out before you do anything