I think i turned out to be a failure, can you give your honest opinion of me?

Question

I'm 22 years old, still live with my parents, don't have a job or never had a real one. I didn't go to college, but i did graduate high school.

Reading that you probably though i was some loser thats just really lazy. But that's not the case. I think of have social anxiety disorder but im not sure since i never went to a doctor to have that diagnosed. You would think that my parents would have noticed and made me go, but they never did. I think its because they're dissapointed in me and have just given up on me.

So thats basically my life i have no friends either. So im kinda lonely and wish i had a real person to talk with. The only conversations i have are with people online.

Well that's why i think im a failure. I cant imagine you think much differently but please give your honest opinion about me.

Answer 1

The very fact that you are asking these questions testify that you are not a failure and not willing to be one.

You may have committed some mistakes but this is not failure.

After all you are only 22.

Search the web, get some feee motivation literaure, some positive thinking stuff. It really do help.

Set up a plan. Set objectives to you life.

Open up with people.

Good luck.

Answer 2

You are only the failure you think you are. If you think that you're a failure try going out sometimes to a mall, to get a job, or just to get away from it all and have a good time, the more you go out the more friends you can make. At 22 it's normal for some people to still live with their parents, and in this day and age its hard to get a job, try going to get a small job, doing dishes at a restaurant, fast food place, working in an animal shelter, ect. just small jobs you can do, then you can work your way up. If you are really worried about college, go to a community college, get all your needed classes done, and then you can go to a real college. Nobody is a real failure unless they think so, I have no friends where I live either, so its not uncommon for people not to have friends.

Answer 3

Life is about the journey along the way, you can't tell if you're a "failure" yet because you have a long way to go till it's over. I think you should find out what you like to do and take some classes. You can always take online classes that should help with your social anxiety.

You can't blame your parents, you're an adult and they can't force you to do anything.

Answer 4

Yes, you are a loser and a failure.  

Answer 5

your anxiety disorder is probably magnified 10 fold due to your parents.  i bet you would turn out just find if you move out.  unless you plan to go back to college or go to college soon, you will end up getting worse and worse as long as you continue to live with your parents.

do you have any pics?  post those, that will help.

Answer 6

Stop your whining. If you are a loser, it's your own fault. You know what your strengths and weaknesses are. You're not stupid, but you are lazy. Step one is getting a job. Go to a temp agency and start working today and don't stop. Next, get out of your parents house, nobody likes a bum. It's impossible to survive on your own on minimum wage or anything close to it. I recommend sharing a house with some people your age. It will be cheaper and you will have more money left over to do fun stuff. Cut your hair. Get some nice clothes. Fix your teeth if you can afford it. Get a girlfriend and get laid. Go for a walk. Stop Whining

Answer 7

You need to seek professional help. You can't have a real relationship with people on Y/A. If you have a disorder, you need to get it treated.

You're not a loser. Loads of people have psychological problems and learn to deal with them. You can too.

Get some help. Please don't waste your time here.  

Answer 8

Did your parents really have to notice? can't you just tell them?

then if you tell them i'm sure there is some sort of med. you could take and then you could find some sort of job and make some friends, then later in your life (or if you have the money now) you can go to college.

Answer 9

Get help if you know something is wrong, don't waste your life away, your still young. Snap out of it. Act as though everyday is your last.