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I think my baby sister's mom was going through my phone - how do I handle this?

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Ok, I have a baby half sister who lives in another town with her mom (my dad and she are not married, my dad is with a totally different woman now). Sometimes I go visit her and sleep over. So far, I've had no reason to complain of ill treatment there, unless you consider my sister's mom's family all crowding me and stuffing me with food ill treatment. The mom has always been very friendly towards me (sometimes to the point of my feeling suffocated by all the pampering), which is why I find this all the more shocking.

A few weeks ago, I went there and stayed over. We talked and in passing, I mentioned my dad's new girlfriend, which the mom had no idea about. My boyfriend had texted me saying he met the girlfriend's son at a party, so I told this to the mom. I didn't think it would bother her, because my sis is 3, and my dad and her mom broke up before my sis was born. Dad's had lots of girlfriends since.

Since my sis and her mom live in a very small apartment, we usually all sleep in one big bed, my sister in the middle. Anyway, I couldn't sleep that night and I looked over my sister's shoulder to the other side of the bed and noticed her mom wasn't there. It was a little past midnight. I got up and looked out onto the balcony, but it was empty. Standing still, though, I heard clicking noises coming from the kitchen, like someone texting. I looked for my phone (I admit, not very thoroughly), but couldn't find it. I had given it to the mom to put away before I went to bed. So I walked into the kitchen, which was in pitch darkness and saw the mom's silhouette - she was holding a mobile phone. I called to her, and she turned around and squatted and I heard something plastic clink on the tiles. I asked her if she'd seen my mobile, and she said she was going to get it and left the kitchen. She came back in, turned the light on, and told me my mobile was on the top shelf of a cupboard in the bedroom. I went and got it, but I wondered why she didn't bring it, when she said she was going to. Now, she says that she was up texting a colleague and that she left the light off so as not to wake me and my sister. She says that when I came in, she was startled and dropped a part from her cell phone, so she had to squat and look for it. She says she put my phone on the top shelf so my sister wouldn't get her hands on it. However, I have a slight problem with this story.

I can swallow the part about her texting a colleague after midnight, although I don't see why she would be doing that for as long as she was. I can also believe that she left the light off so as not to wake us, even though she could have simply closed the kitchen door, and I can understand her leaving my phone on the top shelf, even though my sister was asleep and isn't generally prone to nicking mobile phones unless someone is using them. Come to think of it, she's not even tall enough to reach the middle shelf. But the one thing that I can't get out of my head is that clinking noise when she squatted. See, she said she dropped a part from her mobile and went down to get it, but the clink came after she went down. There's a small plastic doll attached to my mobile, and I suspect that's what really made the noise, especially because to my eye, nothing was missing from her mobile, and when I asked to see her phone and offered to look for the missing part, she said no need. And besides, who drops something from their phone in pitch darkness and immediately drops to the floor to find it? You turn the light on first. And how convenient that this happened just as I came in. Could she have been looking at my messages to find something about the new woman?

I confronted her about it, I told her I wouldn't be mad if she did look through my phone, I just wanted to know why. She denied it, then went on a rant about having no reason to do it, and no objections to my dad's new relationship, and then she cried a little. I felt horrible and stupid, but I still can't shake the feeling that she was lying to me.

What do I do? I keep kicking myself for not having turned the light on as soon as I stepped into the kitchen - if I had, then I'd know what was really going on. Do I ignore this and take her word for it? Or do I not mention it, but be on my guard and keep my eyes peeled next time I go over there? Or am I just totally paranoid?

Help a girl out, will ya? :P

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  1. You're not paranoid. Though she was a bit defensive for someone that didn't have anything to do with your phone. Theres nothing really to do, just forget about it and try to not bring it up. Next time try to be more careful with your phone if you mind people looking through it. Don't worry about it, the last thing you want to do is get in a fight with sister's mom.

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