I think my fiance has a mental disorder?

Question

Me and my fiance have been together for almost 6 years. We have a 4 month old daughter together. I have debated marriage because I don't feel as emotionally secure with him as I think I should. For a past few years he has these episodes where he gets really nasty. He has a very short temper and often blows up smashing things around the house. A simple disagreement will send him up the wall. I believe he self medicates with marijuana because that is the only time I feel in love with him all over again. Bipolar runs in his family and sometimes e admits he things he has it but when he is having an episode he just blames his actions on me.

Does this sound like Bipolar?

Answer 1

Maybe he is Bipolar. Try and see if he will go to the doctor and have them do tests on him. or maybe he just has a short temper.  

Answer 2

Yes, it could be. Some people with Bipolar Disorder have very bad tempers.

My brother was diagnosed with Bipolar II and he acted like that a lot before he got medication for it.

He should see a doctor.

Answer 3

Smoking week might be a poor premise for falling in love. Have you ever thought of that? Being high may not be the best opportunity to express your feelings. It may be better to express deep emotions while sober. It might seem more genuine.

If you must smoke pot, don't be surprised if in fact, you burn out and don't want to do anything, much less the responsibilities of parenthood. Being a parent can be hard enough sober. A 4 month old cries a lot and needs a lot of attention and maintenance. It can be exhausting. Smoking pot because you're exhausted isn't going to make it any easier, especially when you sober up.

Yes, he sounds very bipolar, Yes, he sounds much too short tempered and impatient. Yes, it seems verbally abusive and it serves no purpose whatsoever to blame every one else for your problems. He may be depressed AND bipolar. If he smokes a lot and has panic attacks and anxiety attacks, like you have described, then he shows a poor reaction to stress. Yes, it seems emotionally insecure and maybe you should consider other living arrangements.

I am sorry, but I don't know that I would call what you have together, love. It is quickly turning to hate and resentment. There is no turning back to the good old days, of just sitting around and getting high. There is a child. You will have to move on and take care of the child. Getting high is just going to put more and more strain on your all ready strained relationship. The more he smokes, the more he wants to smoke, the more the problems are going to grown and get worse.

Think about that. Does he want to quit smoking? Can you see him doing that? If not, he will continue freaking out and blaming you. Making up afterward and having s*x, will probably only produce another child and more resentment.

I hope this helps you. If you are not ready for marriage, or if you really believe he isn't ready, don't do it. You've waited this long, it can wait a little bit longer. Think about the child. He could get worse.

Answer 4

It looks to be one.

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