I think my friend's parents are... well, crazy?

Question

-My friend is 13

-Her parents have the weirdest rules ever

ex- Ill give you just ten

1. No talking to your friends parents in great detail

2. Only can wear long sleeves (?!?!)

3. Only can go out of the house one day a week

4. Has to clean a ridiculous amount of things a day

5. No makeup

6. Cannot be friends with boys

7. No phone/computer use

8. TV- one hour a day

9. Cannot watch the news (?!?!)

10. They must meet her friends first

she is often sad whenever I see her (not often)

and doesnt really talk in school

she is also really skinny, and one day when she was at my house she spilt soda all over her shirt, so she rolled her sleeves up and I saw the start of a pretty big bruise

I tried asking her if something bad was going on at her home

and she always looked at me funny and said no

but there was something in her eyes, you know?

Her father has always creeped me out a bit

he smokes, watched TV all day, and always was a little bit touchy feely if you know what I mean

her mom is rarely present, but when she is, my friend tells me she yells a ton

Do you think something bad is going on at her home?

I feel scared for her

whats up with her parents?

help?

Answer 1

umm, it kinda sounds like shes being "hurt" by her parents. And, maybe they want to hide it with a long sleeve shirt. You should probably tell somebody, as much as it hurts. I mean, you dont have to call the whole SWAT team, but just tell your mother and father. Someone who will understand. Try talking to your friend and ask her if someone is hurting her. If she does say her parents are hurting her, call the police right away.

just read what happened to other cases similar to this:

http://breakingnewskenya.wordpress.com/2...

And maybe she not getting hit or slapped. Maybe her parents just have strict rules. But to me, it kind of sounds serious. And maybe they dont want her talking to her friend's parents because they might find out. But, you know your friend more than I do. My advice, try talking to her. Tell her your there for you.=]]]

Answer 2

Wow. This sounds really sad! Have you talked to your school counselor about it? If you don't have a school counselor keep it to yourself and talk to a trusted adult. Don't tell any of your friends! I would try talking to your friend again if you could. Have you talked with your parents about it? Remember if you do talk with your parents they might not let you go back over there to her house again. But your family might try and help get her out of a bad situation. I would try talking to her and then the school counselor and then your family. But I really wouldn't talk to any friends from school. This could embarrass your friend and make gossip start and make her more quiet and seclusive.  

Answer 3

Talk to a trusted adult, your friend seems like she is headed for a lot of danger.  Her parents aren't treating her the right way and they are going to force her into a more depressive state of mind, and that is unhealthy.  Also it seems like they are abusing her, so yeah, tell someone that you trust and that might be able to help because it is the best way that you can help your friend without getting yourself too.

Hope I helped ^^

Answer 4

if you truly are worried for her talk to your parents and go to the authorities  

Answer 5

seeing how u asked her if ne thing was going on and she denyed it, the next step that i can tell to do if i was in ur situation with a friend of mine. would to be calling child protective services u dont have to give ur name when u call. u can stay anonoymous.

but have some one do a home check to find out what is really going on!

i wish u and ur friend lots of luck

Answer 6

Wow...I cannot believe they are like that? The main reason Im sure they have half of those rules is to keep her from:

1. Giving too much detail about her family (which are weird)

2. Thats one is too crazy for me

3. Doesnt want her to run around town getting into trouble

4. Chores are normal but seems to treat her more of a free maid

5. understandable at 13 yrs old, most dont how to put it on right

6. Doesnt want her to get tempted and pregnant at a young age

7. Dont want phone lines tied up, rots her brain, wants her interactive instead of infront of the PC or in her room on the phone all night

8. Lot of bad stuff on tv pragrams these days

9. News is very depressing these days, nothing but murders

10. understandable, lots of unresponcible parents out there

But the bruises Im sure she will hide from you, but if you continue to see them then you should go to your parents and maybe the school nurse or guidence couselor for help, then they can bring her in and maybe fess up to something wrong. Stay away from her dad, he could be a pervert and I have had my encounters with some and its not a very pleasent place or situation to be in. Once she turns 18 see if she can move in with you. Her mom could be depressed or just a *****, but we will never know. Just be her best friend and tell her that you will always be there for her and that she can tell you anything. Im sure she needs a good friend right now. Poor Thing.

Answer 7

It definitely sounds like something is wrong. Most likely abuse.

Call social Services or the police and report her parents.

Do this as soon as possible.

You may be scared, but it's for your friend. If you don't do anything she'll keep suffering.

Tell someone.

Answer 8

I think she may be being abused. The rule about not talking to friends parents in great detail is what gives me that idea. Maybe they think if she talks to much, they will find out about some abuse? Also, not being able to wear anything but long sleeves could be to hide bruises. The bruise being on her arm, having to wear only long sleeves, and then her attitude when you asked about it, all sound like abuse to me. It sounds like you should talk to a school couselor. I would tell them about the day that she spilled the soda, because that is the part of this story that makes me think it could be abuse.  

Answer 9

now THOSE are weird rules, speak to an trusting adult.

Answer 10

Sounds like she is getting abused by her folks

Answer 11

I would be suspicious too. She probably is being abused if she had a big bruise and is only allowed to wear long sleeves.

I've never really had experience with this but I think in situations like this your suposed to call CPS or something.

Answer 12

its a simple scenario.

the parents messes up their lives, so they are being over protective to their child, thus messing the child's life.

Answer 13

theres a possibility she could be getting abused or something by them.

maybe that's why they made up those rules.

try to help her as much as you can, and try to get her to tell you the truth.

i hope everythings okay, and you find out soon. and maybe if something bad is goin' on you can report it and she can find a better house.

but maybe talk to your parents about it.

Answer 14

get a trusting adult in on this . let them know what you have told us . that girl is being abuse and needs help .  

Answer 15

I think you should talk to your parents and see if they can talk to hers. Good luck and god bless you and her!

Answer 16

her dad could be well..being a dad. if there were not mothers most fathers would try to protect their baby girls from boys-that would be some of the rules, the long sleves could be "protecting" her body so boys don't look. Of couse she could be being abused, if she i i would talk to your mother or father, thats the best thing you can do.

her parents may very well be strict, we know a family whoose kids aren't aloud to date until they graduate college.

but anyway, if you really are concerned about abuse i would talk to either of your parents.

Answer 17

this is serious..if she can only wear long sleeved shirts, sumthin is goin on..u need 2 probly tell ur parents about this and if they dont help u will have 2 take action 4 her. u are gunna have 2 report 2 the police that u THINK she is gettin abused so that they can watch.

Answer 18

Don't call them crazy to your friend, that will make her feel bad. They have some really strict rules. Unless they are hurting her, do not be scared for her. It sounds like they are extremely strict. Personally, even though she is your friend...don't get too involved. Just let her know that you are there to talk if she needs it. If something is very wrong, chances are she will eventually come to you and tell you what's up.

Answer 19

Her parents must be some kind of psychos. That's not a life, she sounds like a prisoner.