I think my husband cheated, what should I do?

Question

I found a number in his phone and today a week later asked. It was in his work phone. He said he told me about her. He is a truck driver and when he broke down she helped him and he said put her number in his phone. I am going to call her today and just ask what happened and see if they have the same answers. I haven't even been married for a year. I love him but I wont be done this way. Should I just get divorced now or try and work threw it?

Answer 1

Firstly, relax your self about this situation don't freak out try putting honey down your bra it helps. Then sit your husband down and talk to him (gently rubbing his thigh/back/finger. Don't blast all your emotions out at him at once he has to give his side of it too. If he rubs his eye divorce him at once but if he tickles his ear lobe, give him another chance.  

Answer 2

Find out before you start the paper work. Slow down a little it may be nothing.

Answer 3

Holy Moses!  Don't call her!  If you pick up that phone, then you might as well leave because you don't trust him at all.  It isn't like he was in an intense relationship with this girl for 10 years prior to you.  She helped him with his truck.  

I think you are looking for a reason out.  You don't need one, if you aren't happy then leave.  Don't look for things to point on him.  It makes you a crazy chick !

Answer 4

you sure he cheated you might want to be sure before you get you get rid of him  

Answer 5

Sounds like you have trust issues already in your marriage. Without trust you won't have much of a marriage. Get help !  

Answer 6

What are you doing with his work phone? You sound extremely insecure to be going snooping around in his work stuff. Maybe you should get a divorce to save him from having to deal with your insecurity issues growing throughout time, which they are bound to. Married less than a year and this is the type of thing you do? I'm surprised he didn't see this coming before the marriage.

Answer 7

Just get divorced, if he is a cheater then it's hard to change that fact.  

Answer 8

Does your husband have a hard time saying no, even when he should?  I don't mean "no, I shouldn't have s*x with you."  I mean "No, I don't want your number in my cell phone."  It's possible she flirted with him and asked him to put her number in her cell phone and he didn't want to say no to hurt her feelings and then forgot to remove it and he really doesn't think it's that big of a deal.

I think you need a little more concrete evidence that he really is cheating on you.

Answer 9

I would say if he cheated, divorce him! (once a cheater, always a cheater) But find out first.

Answer 10

Do you really suspect him of cheating on you??  Because of one phone number??  

How can you think of divorce when you don't even know what happened??!!!!!

Boy, you're not giving this marriage a chance!!!!

Answer 11

You don't really have substantial evidence that he cheated.  It's a phone number.  Don't call that woman.  

Answer 12

Your reacting like he or someone else has done this to you before. You need to think long and hard about accusing him of this if he has never done this before. Just be patient and pay attention to what goes on, if he's cheating you will get more information, it may be good or bad. Good Luck!

Answer 13

Why are you so insecure?

Why where you snooping through his personal work phone to begin with? Has he given you any other REAL reason to suspect him of cheating?  If not, then why are you actively looking for reasons to be distrustful of your husband?

So you found a phone number. Big whoop.

That's not evidence of anything other than he's got some chick's phone number in his phone. He was probably just being nice, and forgot to get rid of the phone number.

I've had that happen to me before. Got hit on by some guy who insisted I put his number in my phone. I did and forgot about it and it was in there for about 3 months. I never called him.

Don't call this woman. You have no business to.

Trust your husband until he gives you a real reason not to.

Or better yet, figure out why your so keen on sabotaging your marriage. If there are other issues here, then figure them out and work on them.

Answer 14

first you need to find out for sure that he cheated than divorce him he will just do it again  

Answer 15

you know what, lol!

I will answer this after you find out what she tells you =)

straight up ask her if they had s*x...or plan to...  don't be mad at her, be mad at him...she probably has NO clue he's married!

call her...  get the details, be nice to her, and be a royal ****** to him, then, if they did have s*x or plan to, divorce him!!!

good luck!

email me @ [e-mail] if you want =)

Mary

Answer 16

Try and see what's going on first and then go form there.  And if he his then get your divorced but get some more on him. and keep every thing that you find on him do not throw anything away.

Answer 17

Done WHAT way? Someone with trust issues like you have sure doesn't need to be married to a trucker!!!  Just because he put a number in his phone doesn't mean he's s******g her.  Give that hard-working man a break!

Answer 18

Start target shooting at a pistol range to relieve anxiety. I wouldn't make too much out of this...yet. Keep your eyes open..

Answer 19

confront your husband first and if your not sure you belive him..yes ring the lady up...but keep calm when saying it !! and also tell your husband you love him and you want it to work..

hope that helps x

Answer 20

Try to understand. Ask straight in a polite manner. Judge yourselves. Till then h**l with your imaginations.

Answer 21

omg how old are you?  You shouldn't snoop.  if i was your hubby i'd be mad.  either you trust him or not.  has he given you reason not to trust him?  don't turn into a crazy jealous wife and search for something that isn't there.

Answer 22

What you are essentially asking is whether you should divorce your husband for having a number in his phone that you don't recognize.  Talk about an overreaction!  Now if you find out that he actually definitely cheated on you, then and only then are you allowed to consider divorce.

Answer 23

find out wat happend and if he cheated divorce!

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Answer 24

Don't make assumptions because they always can be false. Try calling the girl and asking her what's up like you said, if she has a  different story then your husband be straight forward and ask if he's cheating on you. If he says no and you still don't believe him, maybe a lie ditector(sp)  test or try to catch him in the act. If you REALLY love him, try and work it through but more then likely you'll never fully trust him again...=/

Answer 25

Sounds to me like you have trust issues. What were you doing snooping on his phone, Don't you think he has a right to some privacy? Every person, in my opinion, has a right to expect some privacy from the ones they love. I think you are at fault here.  

Answer 26

Whether he cheated or not, the fact that you think he did means you have some trust issues in the marriage.  Either way, there are problems and you should think about seeking counseling.  

Answer 27

I cant belive these people that shoot from the hip and say DIVORCE so easily my God! Yes you should work through it!!!! You dont have proof of ANYTHING! GEEZ

Answer 28

What the h**l?? U have Insecurity issues!! Id dump u if i was ur husband!! U gonna call her?? Embarresed urself and him! What the h**l? U wanna just get divorced coz u 'THINK' He cheated!!! Ur A Crazy Woman, U want HAlf!

Answer 29

Even if he is telling the truth and just helped her, why does he have the need for her phone number? Come on... You cant be that clueless. She will not tell you the truth. Dont waste your time.  

Answer 30

I went threw this with the ex husband and from experience go with your instincts.  From the first month I was married he was still talking to an ex and since he got off of work way earlier than me he was having her come over and leave before I got home.  She even was nice enough to admit to this.  I had no hard feelings for her because it was his fault he was pursuing her.  And she wasn't the only one.  So I would say go with your gut honey.  Go luck and I hope he wasn't because I know how it feels to get your heart crushed.

Answer 31

i don't know..................yes, the number is fishy, but you obvioulsy don't trust him, otherwise you wouldn't be spying on him.  There are more issues then you're saying, so I'd say you need to focus on those.  However, if it turns out he's cheating............lots and lots bullets