I think my little brother has anger management problems?

Question

Max is 4 years old and he is wild. i have another brother Jack and he is very calm. Hes 2. Max can become very angry really easily. For example one time i built a tower out of blocks for max to knock down. he knocked it down but there was 1 block one top of another and Jack knocked that part down. Max became furious. He kept hitting things and me. I built 2 more towers. 1 for Max and 1 for Jack. Max thought Jacks was better then his even though they were exactly the same. He wouldn't talk to me the rest of the day and if i tried talking to him he would just yell. Another time would be when i dint want to play superheroes anymore. He kept yelling at me saying that the bad guys aren't defeated yet so when i said i would play he Screamed his lungs out saying NO!! then he ran to his room and started crying. He also can get very hyper and when he is like that he thinks is funny to do this really high-pitched scream that really does hurt your ears. also he likes to push Jack down while hes walking when hes like this since Jack isn't a very good walker yet. i really don't think this is normal behavior for a 4 year old and I'm worried.

sorry its so long

Answer 1

completely normal

i have a 6 year old bro. like that trust me its fine

find somethin he enjoys doin

Answer 2

You might want to have your parents pick up some of Dr. T. Berry Brazelton's books for you and them to learn from... he goes into a lot of this type of stuff. Max was in the "terrible twos" when his brother came into the world, and suddenly Max was not the center of attention.

Consider giving Max the first pick of which towel to wear for a cape, and which of the towers to knock down... just to make him feel important.

About all you can do is start withholding your attention when he acts up... "Since you are being nasty to me, I won't play with you any more.  I don't play with little boys who scream."

When you begin a play period with the boys, make it clear up front that you will only play with them as long as they behave correctly... if Max acts up again, you remind him that you will not bother to play with him if he acts out. If he does that again... "Okay, Max, I'm not playing with you any more because are acting bad to me.  Talk to me when you are ready to be civil."

What you are doing here is installing some social skills... teach him what people will or will not put up with. This is important.

Answer 3

Where are your parents?  They should be very alarmed about this behavior.  He wants positive attention.  Your parents need help with this and soon.

Answer 4

my little brother can also be like that. i've realized you cant let them have a lot of sugar or sweets. give them very little because a lot makes them very hyper.

i've tried preoccupying my brother when he gets very mad. luckily he doesn't get too mad. when he was younger i had to think quick on my feet and figure out things for him to do. he was a handful. now hes 11 and a little easier to deal with because you can talk to him.

Answer 5

hes just a brat, beat his ***

Answer 6

What Max needs is some old fashion spankings.   That is not right that he knocks his 2 year old brother down and hits you, screams very loud and gets away with it.  Your parents are doing him a great injustice to let him get away with this type of behavior.

If you don't punish him now and I mean every time he misbehaves, he will grow up to be a person no one likes not even you.

e will grow up not respecting his parents or any authority.  If his little back side gets spanked hard enough he will soon quit this bad behavior.

After he is punished, wait awhile then go to him and tell him you love him and that is why he got a spanking.  You want him to be a good little boy then give him a big hug.  Don't make it sound like your mad at him but you disapprove of his actions.  In two to three weeks you will see a different child.  But punishment has to be every time he misbehaves, if your not going to punish him every time, then don't punish him at all because it won't do any good.  

Answer 7

I am one of 8 siblings and evryone of them has had anger issues around the ages of 3,4,5, and maybe the beggining of 6. They've all grown out of it now so personelly im convinced its just a stage.

Answer 8

i do

Answer 9

tell your parents about it

Answer 10

he might not need them i know when i was little i had a lot of temper tantrums and stuff but if it gets really bad ask a psychiatrist or something

Answer 11

yea he might have anger management problems but there's also a spanking problem you have to let him no that it's not acceptable behavior! you need to fix this now because this could become a very serious problem when he gets older! good luck!

Answer 12

Unfortunately it is normal for most 4 year old boys to act out, which is what he is doing?  How is the discipline in the household.  Adults forget how it is to be that young and some kind of order, not meds, is required.  Try tough lough before any other options, because too much outside interference could suppress whatever needs to be resolved.  Hope this helps!

Answer 13

actually that is normal behavior for a spoiled 4 year old.  doesn't sound like his parents have been teaching him manners and how to behave.

he's learned that he can get his way by screaming and throwing a tantrum.  He's also jealous of his little brother.

Answer 14

I have a brother who behaves the same way. He is the youngest (6), although he beats up my two other brothers who are 11. Sometimes I think he doesn't really have anyone to play with so I'll go on the trampoline with him, but when I want to get off he'll behave exactly like Max. He gets extra help in school for reading and writing, and at an interview with my mum his teacher said she thinks he might have ADHD. I am 15 so I am not sure whether Max acts like he has ADHD, but I know my brother gets very hyper too, and can be very angry and violent.

Answer 15

I know you may not agree with this.. But you need to show him that you will not tolerate such behavior. If you need to spank him do so. Also Ignore him... Go to another room and stay completely quiet. If he tries to hit you back grab him and put him in a corner... take away his games. LET HIM KNOW THAT YOUR THE BOSS.

This is a stage and it's normal. But it doesn't go away in less you show him disciplines! This can totally affect his future. So you need to make it go away, if you want him to be calm.