I think my marriage is going to fail?

Question

So, I dont know what to do anymore...Im so confused. My husband and I arent fighting or anything like that, but Im just so bored with everything, and I dont feel the same way as I used to feel about him. I feel like such a bad wife because I dont do the things I should be doing. Like, I dont do dishes or laundry as much as I should. I used to make my husbands lunch for work and iron his uniform with no problems, but I just cant stand it anymore. Im not attracted to him anymore, and he just annoys me. I dont feel like he gives a c**p about me anymore etither. He is getting ready to be deployed soon, and Im going back to stay with my parents because I hate staying alone, and all he is worried about is getting an expensive ipod, and I need to save money to drive 2000 miles, and my parents want him to come and get me when he gets back because he has two weeks of free leave, and he said he cant leave out of the region, so he is not going to come get me. I just feel like he is my husband so he should be more worried about that type of thing? I dont know....I also get upset because he talks about going to school, and doing all this stuff, but he dosnt do it! I just dont know what to do anymore?

Answer 1

Romance dies down no matter who you are with . As for you mising out,,, you didnt. If you are with a man that treats you good I suggest you get use to the realities of life before you figure it out too late with the next guy. We all get bored with everthing in life.  Has nothing to do with the fact if we love or not.  You really need to think before you end it.

Answer 2

the key to this if you want to keep ur marring is to become confident again, its hard to pull yourself out if a depression ( which is whats happening) but u must go back to what u use to do, ur courage and self reliance will be noticed, things become to ritual in a marriage after a while u get comfortable and when things fall apart by then uv lost you own confidence, relationships are like work u cant afford to fall back for risk of loosing ur job in the same since u need a continuing character of reflection to keep the stroke u once had

Answer 3

say bye bye and start a new fun life where cleaning, cooking, and ironing for someone else are not expectations but appreciated. Starter marriage! just end it for both of you. Having a baby at 21 is too young. Don't let them folks fool ya.

Answer 4

Do you still love him maybe you both just need this time coming apart from one another. Who knows maybe the feelings and everything will come back and you will really miss him. I think many people feel like this in a marriage at some point or another, then later it passes or it does not.

Don't feel like and idiot you followed your heart and there isn't a thing wrong with that.  Just don't throw your marriage away yet. It might be the worst thing you ever did that you will regret later.

I don't see why he can't come home those two weeks that I don't understand. I don't have any real answers for you but you feel how you do. Now you need to find out if it's just because your flat out bored or is it really him.

Answer 5

Your marriage may not fail it's hard to tell. It seems like you and your husband are in that limbo state. Could you get involved in some activities maybe? That you and your husband could share in together? Would excersize help? Could you spice up your s*x life? What about school for you? Keep discussing it, and maybe you could bring some of these things up with your husband. Like I said, it's hard to tell right now, whether you are headed for failure. I don't think it is unreasonable for you to ask him for some courtesies that you feel you deserve, such as the ones you mentioned towards the end. That's a good issue to bring up with him. That's not unreasonable.

Answer 6

get to counseling and start working on it !

Answer 7

wow i've seen this so much in the past 5 yrs.. obviously you are both not ready for something as serious as marriage if he is going on deployment soon and all either of you can worry about is traveling arrangements to and from your parents and how expensive the ipod is.. military life is not an easy life,,but also throw a young married life in to the mix,,wow.... here's the reality,, he has something important to do with his job when he leaves, and he doesn't need to be over there fighting for his country and not have good support here at home,,if you are not sure about married life then do both you and him  a favor and get out before he leaves, because if you don't,, one of or both of you will do something stupid while he is gone,,and then it will be over when he gets back anyways....if you want to enjoy your youth,,then be young and do it,,,and stop trying to play pretend... this is real life,, marriage,,military, deployment...i'm not knocking you,,i sympathize,,but i am the wife of a military man myself and i can honestly say that marriage is not easy,,but it even harder when your man is military and goes to war.. good luck to you....