I think my mom hates me. She don't let me do anything fun. And she's always grounding me for no reason. help!?

Question

She grounds me cause of every single little thing and i think she hates me. the other day i was down in a ditch by the road and she thought that i was in the near lake or in the road so i had to go to my room and she locked me up for 5 hours! Everyone in the house has a king size bed, a huge room and nice things like a phone and video games and all i have is a small TV and two mattresses thrown on the ground. She lets my sister have friends come in and hang out but i can't. she let's my sister get a coke at the store and i don't. if i clean the kitchen when it's my sister's job. she tells my sister she doesn't have to do anything in return. I'm so sick of it i just wanna pull my hair out. but the thing is is that im only 11 turning 12. my dad doesn't pay child support so if i told him this then he would get to take me or my mom might keep me and ill be in trouble. so i don't know what to do try your hardest and make some suggestons please Thanks!

Answer 1

omgg that dosent sound fair at all...

how old are your other siblings?

do you help out around the house alot??

anyways she should be able to get a bed for you no matter what and if u wanted a coke one day to i think she needs to give it to you?

do you ever ask for anything??

well answer my ?'s and ill try to help you out.

Answer 2

Wow that sucks! Are you still with her or are you with your father? Well, my parents do the same thing to me all the time and I'm so sorry that happened to you. You might want to tell someone on you so-called mom and call the police, maybe they'll take you away to live with your father. I know it's hard, but tell anyway! You are worth the help, sweetie! Hang in there!

Answer 3

just  try  get  along

Answer 4

My mom is also a single parent (my dad doesn't pay child support either) and she has always gone much harder on me than on my little brother and sister since I was around your age. (I'm almost 18 now).

Back then, I hated her for being so harsh and playing favorites with my brother. But now I realize that she is just under so much stress from having to raise and support three kids all alone that she takes it out on me. She has to be both the good cop and the bad cop, and while she hasn't improved much since then (she's still pretty hard to live with) I've learned how to accept it and still be happy.

Your mom doesn't hate you. If she hated you she wouldn't care about what you did at all and would let you run around in the road and do whatever you wanted. Instead, because she loves you, she keeps you on a short leash and punishes you. Even though I know it doesn't FEEL like love, it is. She's probably just having a hard time raising you without a dad. It's not your fault that she's under so much stress but I know how much it hurts.

Pick a quiet time when your mom is alone, in a good mood, and not doing anything important. Tell her that you feel like she doesn't love you sometimes, and that it hurts your feelings when she is so harsh on you. Say "I know you are stressed out, but I feel like you don't care about me sometimes. What can I do to help us get along better?" If you two can agree on what chores to do every day and what responsibilities you have, she might agree to let you have a little more freedom.

Don't get your dad involved. If he was a responsible guy who really cared about his kids, he would pay child support. It will only make your mom mad and you will feel even worse.

I know how tough this is, and how lonely you feel. It really helped me to talk to the social worker at my school. They can help you sort out your feelings and give you ideas on dealing with your mom. You can also talk to an aunt or uncle, and they can talk to your mom for you if you are scared to.

But I just want you to know that someday you will be 18, going off to college or work and you won't ever have to deal with your mom again. That day might seem far away right now, but trust me, it will be here before you know it. Just hold on for now, and remember that nothing lasts forever. Keep your grades up and make it your mission to get out of there the minute you graduate high school.

Family stuff hurts, but lots of people have gone through this too and have come out of it even stronger.

Good luck!!! :-)

Answer 5

First off, parents are parents for a reason, it's not to be your friend that's for sure, second, your just a wee bit too young to be griping about such things, stop being a smart mouth and just learn to deal with it...

Answer 6

that's horrible i would count that as emotional abuse. You are 11 you should be having fun running around, playing with friends, not cleaning the house. You seem like a pretty nice kid so this is what i would do either tell a teacher about how you feel or go to the school counselor (i know your probably going like eww no way)  they can help you feel better and give you great advice. Maybe you could write a letter to your mom saying how you feel and if she grounds you for that i would defiantly tell a grown up that you know cares about you. (or again go to a counselor)