I think my mom is Bipolar...How can I get her to acknowledged this?

Question

So my mom is unbelievable strict on me and basically, if we weren't related, I'd hate her guts. She is so rude to me, she treats me horribly, and has hit me several times (Not enough to leave bruises, but enough to hurt my feelings) when I do simple things. I live in constant anxiety that she is going to yell at me again. She recently had a baby (I am the oldest of 4) and I raise him. She helps out sometimes, but she is always at a place called "The Wild Horse" here in Nashville on the weekends. She is always on her computer (Not playing games, editing wedding videos. She has a wedding videography/photography company and it is our main income). I am living in constant fear that she will go off and yell at me for no apparent reason.

Her mother suffers from anxiety as does her grandmother and her father suffers from Bipolar disorder. They are all 3 on medications for their given disorder. More than that, I am terrified I will end up like her.

How can I get her to see that she is NOT treating me right? She is the same towards my 3 siblings (Aged 12, 9, and 11 mnths), but not as bad and hardly at all rude to the infant. How can I convince her to be tested for Bipolar? I KNOW if I mention it she will yell at me and probably hit me. My dad used to be the one to calm her down when she got angry, but lately he's been letting it go and even starting to show tenancies like her. I am 15 and I would be out of this house by now, but I honestly fear for my brothers and sisters because I know my leaving will cause her to have a total meltdown and she would be a horrible person to live with. I could not notify police or anything, because I don't want to do that to my infant brother. He needs a family, his family. I am absolutely in love with him and I could never EVER part ways with him. He is the only reason I have been considering to stay in my state when I go to college.

How can I show her that she is treating me horribly?!

Answer 1

speak to your school theropist in confidance and ask her to find a way may be by tricking your mom into a parent student theropy and than into optional family theropy during where the subject could be opened up by accident .

yeah i like this idea try it infact if you trust your dad he may be in on it too.

Answer 2

That's a tough situation that you are in, and as bad as it might sound at the moment sometimes the only thing you can do is speak to someone that has the ability to force her to get the heklp she needs. I would say speak to a school counselor or another adult that you trust and let them know what is going on. It might be tough times but if she gets the help she needs then things will work work out for all of you in the end. If things are unsafe now with the way things are do you really have a much choice? I don't really know what else to tell you to do, things were the same for me growing up but I was alone and really had no one else to worry about. Good luck!

I just wanted to add that I am bipolar myself and a mom and it took me a very long time to seek out help, so sometimes you can't count that she will get help on her own when she needs to(I know I didn't) good episode or not. And I know my husband denied that there was anything wrong.

Answer 3

BEAT THE s**t OUT OF HER and ask her if she likes it

Answer 4

No one else seems to be giving you serious answers, so i will! I'm 15 years old as well, and my mom is bipolar, she has been diganosed with it. So i really do know how you feel, I know it's a tough life to live, and i can even relate with you saying your dad isn't really there because mine is in China. Maybe one day, when she's in a GOOD mood, sit her down at the kitchen table, so mom i think me and you should to see a therapist for our relationship, because i don't like how it's fallen, and then maybe something will go over there ? i feel for you though, i can speak from experince because i'm going through the same exact thing right now. Good luck sweetheart.  

Answer 5

Oh shoot. I forget the official name, but my psych prof used to work as a social services type person who went to houses and kept track of a certain amount of people with psychological disorders. She could commit people to mental facilities. Look into child protective services or someone from the health department. I wish I could remember the name : \ But you can't be mom forever. My husband's oldest sister is figuring this out at 23 that she can't fix everything and that she missed out on her life because she was worrying about her family and the finances.  

Answer 6

leave home and never chat to her ever again

Answer 7

Consult a psychiatrist.

I'm very serious.  Check to see if there is a psychiatrist at your school.  If you can't talk to a psychiatrist, talk to an adult you trust such as a teacher, relative, preist.  They can help you and your mother get psychiatric help.  Bi-Polar disorder is VERY serious and needs to be diagnosed/treated by a psychiatrist. DO NOT take this into your own hands.  Psychiatrists are here to help.  

(Sorry about "Glory Marcabia!", its an inside joke)

Answer 8

First and foremost, stay strong. If you can't do it for yourself, then do it for your siblings. Talk to your father, your best friends parent, your doctor, your school counselor. Someone. Have you told your mother that you're hurt by what she does and says? You can and should not let this continue. You all deserve a loving childhood and a loving mother. You can do it, good luck.

Answer 9

Don't listen to these other idiots.  Its gonna be hard for you to do, but you need to be there and be strong for your siblings.  That is alot to ask of you at such a young age, but your brothers and sisters need you.  Try to sit your father down and tell him your concerns the same way that you have them listed here.  Your mother seems to be pretty strung out so I would suggest that you keep your talks with her to a minimal to avoid any type of explosion.  I know that it may sound to far in the distance, but when you get older it will get easier.  And you will have brothers and sister that will be forever greatful to you for saving them from your mother.

Answer 10

wow. She sounds like my ex boyfriend. He was the same way.