I think my mom is having an affair :(?

Question

My mom has been acting strangely lately. She is going through menopause and a midlife crisis! She's very beautiful. She's very thin, in shape, pretty hair, perfect face (she gets botox!). Lately she's been talking about other men that she thinks are really gorgeous, which is fine, but then she has been bringing up the subject about having affiars and how she doesn't blame some of her freinds for cheating. Also, she now wants to take a vacation by herself! She said she just wants to get away from everyone and lay on the beach alone. Could she possibly be bringing another guy with?

I'm just scared. I love my step dad sooo much and I can't imagine her cheating on him and hurting him. They've been together for 14 years now :( Do you think she could possibly be having an affiar or thinking about it?

Answer 1

Your mom is going through a very difficult emotional and physical process. She is having to redefine herself as a woman and her hormones are going wacko. She is just verbalizing things that are on her mind. As for her wanting to have a little get away, that doesn't mean she is going off to have an affair, it just means she needs a little time to herself to get her mind squared away. Give her a break and try to be understanding, this is just a phase which will pass.

Answer 2

its possible. just lightly bring up the subject, and maybe talk to your step dad about "reviving" the relationship.. i dont know if you want to get involved with something kinky, or anything, but try to see if they can light up the flame again

Answer 3

Mind your business and a get a life of your own.

Answer 4

While I can't rightfully say whether or not your mom is having an affair, however, I have to admit the evidence is somewhat overwhelming that she may indeed be planning on having one if she hasn't done so already. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Peace and God bless.

Answer 5

She is at the very least preparing herself to be open for a fling, wants to regain her independence or be seen for a day or two. I would suggest you talk with your Mom. Something might be going on in the marriage or in her that is not working. Share with her your concern . Doesn't mean you need to solve the issue or even try. Keep loving your step dad and your Mom no matter..

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Answer 6

Ava she may be just ask her and she may just tell you the truth.

Answer 7

What I think first of all is your mom should not be making such comments to you!!  I have no idea if she is having an affair but it sounds like she is maybe drifting away from your step dad and feeling like she wants the attention from other men to feel attractive.  Just tell her to not say things to you about having an affair since you are her daughter not her friend.  You should also say what you wrote in your post that you love your step dad and you don't want her to hurt him.

Answer 8

    90% of the time if you think someone is cheating they are I am not saying she is but that is the statistic.  

Answer 9

In my years, I think one enjoy life and try to maintain when the best years of their lives brought them so much joy. They hate to lose that period that meant so much to them. Evidence of that is plastered all over the screen. Bot ox, Cialis and other chemicals to keep the body and mind young. She, just as so many of us, do not want to get old.

I do not think that she want to risk everything on a fling. She might need some time for introspection. She has to look into her mind and come to  the fact that she is getting more matured.For some folk, it is difficult.Asure her that she is still OK. Life is what it is. We are born, mature get old and pass.

Answer 10

Who knows. Maybe she is bored. Tell her what you think and how much you value your family life.

In case she has been throwing that idea around in her head, knowing how much you love your family unit, maybe she will rethink it.

Wait until she rants again about vacation or other men.

Answer 11

i think you should talk to ur mom.

because.Your mom is going through a very difficult emotional and physical process. She is having to redefine herself as a woman and her hormones are going wacko.  

Answer 12

d**n, now we're going to have to change plans.