I think my moms overprotective what can i do?

Question

Im 15, she wont let me wear make up, go to the movies with friends if an adult isnt with us/ go to mall. My bf lives in another state and wanted to come down and shes saying no, and she wont let me fly up to see him if i pay with MY own money( she has met him before hes a good kid) Im taking a college class, and she was freaking out over that how there is going to be older people in there. Im not even allowed to wear skirts! She says i cant even get a webcam to talk to my bf... i understand the worlds crazy now... so she has a right to be alittle protective! do you think she is to protective? what can i do?

Answer 1

No hon,your mom is using GOOD SENSE,believe it or not.

Many girls have sent nudie pictures to their guys on the web and those pictures have neded up being seen by a lot of people she did not want seeing them.

Maybe you wouldn't do that,but if you and your guy were talking all s**y and everything, theres the web cam or cell phone wouldn't it be tempting?

Your mom knows it would be due to hormones.

Also look at the girls on her 11-21 having babies and not married.

THIS is why your mom is so strict and if OTHER girls mothers were  like yours, there'd be a LOT less girls on here with pregnancy and self esteem issues due to being used as a s*x toy at the tender age of 15.

Your mom is not taking any chances like other parents do.It is to easy to give in in the right situation and all it takes is one time to lose your virginity and to get pregnant.

Just hang in there until you are 18, once you are out and on your own, you can do as you please then, HOWEVER, for the next 3 yrs.You WATCH the lifestyle of other girls from the ages of 11-18 who has allthe freedom you wish you had, and see where their choices and decisions gets them.

Answer 2

Sounds like your mom knows what kind of world we live in.

She loves you and wants to keep you safe.

She knows it's easy to make regrettable decisions when you're so young.  Just endure it, it can only last 3 more years.

Answer 3

  Your first answer from Char, I think that hit on something.  Talk to your mom and ask her about her teen years.  What happened to her that is making her so over protective?  Ask her.  I think it is very refreshing to see girls without make up.  If you want some blush, spend more time outdoors.  Most guys don't like make up, why is it such a big thing for girls?

Answer 4

Ok I have to agree with your mom on the webcam and flying to see your BF thing......but she cant stop your BF from flying here...so Make a little lie tell her your going to the store if shell let you or tell her your going to a friends house....then meet up with your BF....just plan something you'll figure it out...ya I think your mom is a little pretective but think is there smething in her pass life that happened to her that she dont want to happen to you?

Answer 5

the mall thing ...s a lil extreme. i mean if you were dropped off with a group of your friends to walk the mall without a parent...that seems reasonable. i remember being 15 and my mom would dropp us off at a mall...as long as i was with a group of friends and not alone. the make up thing is a lil to extreme. i see a lot of girls your age who wear some make up...lip gloss and mascara and some blush...i do not see a problem with that either. as far as flying by yurself to see a boyfriend....i would not let you do that at 15. 18 yes...you are legal age...but 15 no.the skirt thing...is questionable. is it a micro mini skirt?? u know the ones from hollister that are cute but show a lot of booty and leg. if that is the case, wear leggings...they sell them there.

if it is a skirt that is to the knee then that seems alright to me.

go over this with your mom and be reasonable...and see what she says

Answer 6

Wow,and I thought my mom was tough!

But you both have good points of view,I'm not taking sides,but I will say parents have their reasons to do what they need to do,to keep you safe.

I'm 14 and my mom doesn't encourage me to wear makeup because my skin is nice,and doesn't want it to be all messed up when I get older.

I can't even go the malls with my friends and their parents!

Sometimes older people will pressure you to do things you don't want to do,so maybe she's scared cause of that. Talk to her and ask her why she won't let you do the things you can't do. I think you have a right to know.

I don't however see the big deal is with the webcam? I mean you can have a private webcam session or something. There are some private sites that allow you to talk to one another over the internet.

I can't wear (small) skirts either,because of religious reasons,but maybe because some people look up skirts. Ask her why she won't let you wear a skirt,it doesn't have to be short it can be longer.

Ask her,because sooner or later she won't be able to make the decisions for you. You'll be 18 and then she can't (legally) tell you what to do.

Answer 7

Everything but the boyfriend part isn't right.

I mean, 15 is kinda young to go on a plane alone...maybe you two can meet half way? Ask her about tht :)