I think my step dad visiting p**n & dating sites!?

Question

i recently went to NY with my dad, and when i got back, there was a bunch of p**n & a dating site on my computer, and my step dads the only one who used my computer. What should i do?

Answer 1

My own stepfather has been on those dating sites & p**n too. I think it's just curiousity. Men are pigs. (haha sorry!) I don't think everyone actually goes out to  meet someone. He may only be chatting and having steamy conversations for the fun of it.

Just ask him why he's been on those dating sites since you can see it on your computer. He may get mad and deny it at first. He'll certainly be more careful when using your computer next time. Telling your mom would just upset her so I wouldn't bother with that unless you actually caught him talking with someone else on the phone or with another woman.

Answer 2

bust his *** and tell him that you checked the history and he was looking at p**n, and to make sure he closes all popups next time he uses the computer

Answer 3

Don't worry about it.  Visiting p**n sites is not such a bad thing.  I have visited a couple in my day & I consider myself to be Ok.

Answer 4

Snitch to your mom.

Answer 5

well honey, i think it's just normal for you guys to look at p**n once in a while.but i understand that you were worried about the dating sites tha he visited.you should tell your mom about it in a casual way cause she might be affected or not by it. goodluck!  

Answer 6

you just reminded me of the song, "get a new daddy." by The whitests kids U know.  

Sorry about that.. but seriously, I would def discuss it with your mom and have her confront him with the evidence but in a civilized way.  They should def talk it out or even seek counseling and professional help.  

Answer 7

Say in front of him and your Mom that whoever was looking at p**n and dating sites on your computer while you were gone that he or she should at least be nice enough to delete it from the computer when they're done.  You can pull up the dates and times from the cookies for proof of the guilty party.  Have fun.

Answer 8

my step dad dose the same thing he even asks me what p**n sites are the best to go to it dose not mean anything it may just mean that he is looknig at chicks my mum and stepdad dont have a s*x life no more i wouldnt be to sus on it untill u see him with another chick then do something other wise just try and stay out of it

Answer 9

i say nothing i mean a lot of men look at p**n even if ur married and happy they still do it, we are human and very curious people just keep ur eyes open and if u suspect any weird behavior bring it up. u didnt mention if he is single or not.

Answer 10

This is a bit of a difficult one, not least because we don't know what sort of relationship you have with your step-father. I also wonder if he added sites to the favourites list, if he just didn't realise they would be seen in history or if had deleted the obvious evidence and you had to go poking around checking out cookies and such in order to find out what he had been doing while you were away.

Are you concerned about the visits to dating sites because you and he get along great and the idea of him disappearing from your life would upset you, personally? Or is your main concern that your mother would be badly hurt if he was to leave her?

If you have a good relationship with him and the possibility of losing that most concerns you, maybe you could talk to him directly. If that conversation leaves you worried about his intentions, then I think it would be reasonable for you to talk to your mother.

However, if you and he don't get along all what wonderfully and you're worried he's thinking about messing around on your mother, I think you should mention your concerns to her.

In short, I think it largely comes down to you thinking about where your main loyalties lie.

Answer 11

Don't worry. Everyone has the right to go to some dating sites, if he doesn't plan to have a new relationship.