I think my wife's hiding the fact that baby had fallen off the bed MANY times, and now he just stops growing?

Question

Between month 8.5 and month 10.5, the baby did not gain any weight.

Do you think it has something to do with falling off the bed like a dozen times?

Sometimes I find markings at the back of his head, as if he'd just fallen and hit something. But whenever I asked the mommy, she usually avoided giving a straight answer.

Of course doctor says that he's still in the normal range, but my son had started off at the top of the chart, and now he's barely above average.

I feel so horrible, but baby's mommy seems so nonchalant about it.

What do you think?

Answer 1

babies get a lot of bumps and bruises so that is completely normal. my son just got a black eye this morning from slipping on one of his books. it just happens so that's normal.

also, babies grow really fast the first 6 months or so of their lives and then they slow down. once they're mobile (crawling/walking) the weight gain slows down a lot too. my son has only gained about 4 lbs in the last 6 months and he's 14 months but he's grown quite a few inches taller. i really don't think that's anything to worry about at all.

but why are you concerned for your baby? if your instincts are telling you something is wrong then that may be the case, but what you've described here is quite normal.

Answer 2

I dont think you are on the same page as the rest of us.

Answer 3

if this was serious the baby's mum wouldn't hide it, it's a horrible thing for her to do.

i must say i'm not a mother just a teen but really i would feel horrible if my baby even came close to falling off the bed once

waht is your baby doing on your bed? put her in a crib.

Answer 4

This must be your first child  lol.  My 20 month old walks around looking like someone is abusing him and he has looked like that since he started crawling.  If I had a dollar for every time my son has fallen off something, tripped over something (including his own feet), rolled off something, I would be a millionaire.  Kids get bumps and bruises and it doesn't necessarily mean anything.  If you see your son and he has a red bump on the back of his head but he isn't screaming then he is fine.  Some children can barely hit themselves on something and it will knot up and look horrible and other children can almost knock themselves out and it doesn't leave a mark.

As far as the growing thing, babies go through growth spurts, one visit they may be at the top of the chart and the next they may be close to the bottom.  You probably just caught him right before his next growth spurt.  My son hit 24lbs around 13 months and he has been there since (like I said he is now 20 months).

A child being at the top of the chart in weight is not really a good thing unless he is at the top of the height chart as well.

Answer 5

Wow - he has fallen a dozen times? Seems after the first time or two, mommy would have learned her lesson!!! I'm just kind of surprised about that. My baby fell off the couch at 2 months old and I felt HORRIBLE. No more couch or bed for her unless I am holding her!

I would wait until the next checkup to see if he has grown then. This might just be a fluke, but if he still hasn't grown by his next checkup, I'd start getting concerned.

Answer 6

baby do have accidents my son climbed out of his cot other night &fell flat on his face but that not my fault same as it not your son mum fault

Answer 7

secretly install a nanny cam and find out.

your baby's well being is worth it.

Answer 8

You sound very hostile to your babies mum. Get over it and stop being paranoid.  

Answer 9

Well, at 10 months a baby is also learning how to eat and should not depend solely on the bottle.  The case might be that he's not eating as well, getting too much bottle or not enough food.  Also, another scenario is that he might just be getting taller, but not wider;  babies go though weird growth sprouts.  But, if none of these are the case, the best thing to do, is consult his pediatrician.  If his pediatrician is not concerned, and you still feel uncomfortable, look for another pediatrician.

Answer 10

that is really not good, your baby could die, if he has marks on the back of his head that is really not good. your baby can get brain damage. if one is on his soft spot ohno. you should really have a sit down with your wife and get to the point right away.

good luck.

Answer 11

ok, not to be rude, but why is the baby on the bed unsupervised? Which has to be the case if he keeps falling. I don't think the growing part has much to do with it, but is this your first child? Is your wife depressed? Is she leaving the baby unattended often? You should talk to her and see if there's more to it. Not suggesting anything, but you can never be too sure. Yes kids fall, but he needs to be on the floor at this point. Do this right away. You can't continue to have accidents, some falls are really dangerous.

Answer 12

I feel your wife needs some help here if she allows this to happen ( baby falling of a bed or whatever). She may have Post Natal depression and this is a way of asking for help. Please seek some medical advice here.

Maybe she is not feeding the baby properly either.  

Answer 13

If you are concerend about your babies well being while in your wifes care why don't you talk to her about it. I don't think falling off the bed will affect your babies weight but he could get a serious head injury. Has he actually fallen off the bed that much? Tell your wife not to leave him alone on the bed it's obviously dangerous. If you are so concerned, take the baby and move out until she can prove she is trustworthy.

Answer 14

I think this is a serious matter and asking people on Yahoo anwers is not the right place to go for help.

Answer 15

talk 2 her and explain yur concerns

Answer 16

Its normal for where they are in the chart to change, as long as the doctor is happy and he's eating OK I wouldn't be worried about that.

As for the falling off the bed thing its hard to say, how high is the bed and how does he end up 'falling off'. From less than 7 months my little boy could pull himself up to standing and walk along the furniture, by 8 months he could climb up on the sofa himself, he couldn't get on the bed because it was very high though, but the point I'm making is he was very boisterous little boy and always falling and banging his head and having bumps and bruises everywhere no matter how much we tried to watch him, you can't pad everything and wrap them up in cotton wool so you could be worrying too much, thing is not all babies are doing things at this age, how advanced is he, is he crawling or trying to walk or climb, doing things that he could be bumping his head if not or if you're concerned your wife is not supervising him properly you need to have a talk with her, you'll need to handle the matter very delicately because if there is a problem it could be due to post natal depression so you'll have to be very sensitive.

Answer 17

I don't know if the falling off the bed has something to do with the weight loss, but if you do suspect your son has fallen more than dozen times, then you should really take some actions, like talk to your wife openly to find out what she thinks/how she reacts, if you are still worried because her attitude isn't right, then 1 of the above answers is right---install a secret camera that allows you to record and check what she's doing with the baby when you are not around!

on the other hand, your baby's at the age that started crawling and possibly walking, that's a lot of exercises for young babies hence they generally lose weight since being mobile.

my little girl is nearly 12 months old, and we do notice there's some change in her weight, like some trousers are more loose than just about 2 weeks ago! Even my brother who only saw her on web cam thinks she loss some weight on her cheeks.

My girl used to be 98th on the baby scale, Im not sure how much she weighs today (I will weigh her again on her birthday), but I really think she's not as chubby as she was before she could crawl.

About the falling part, if you're very concerned, you should take the baby to the doctor to check if he got any head injury. falling on the back of the head could cause serious damage.

But guess what? as a mummy myself, i have to say, my little girl fell 3 times since birth due to I was NOT experienced enough (she's my first) hence didn't know well how to keep her safe every single second.

I felt very very guity, and I had to tell my husband about them. I couldn't keep things like that to myself, that is torture and guilt that eats you inside.

But I learnt from it, I now know much better how to keep her safe.

Yet, being with the baby who is sooooooooooooooo energetic and never stops 24/7 is NOT an easy work, I can only try my best!!

So, if your wife was not intentionally being careless with the baby, you shouldn't blame her. If her attitude has some sort of problems, i would definitely install a secret camera somewhere in the house!

Check with the doctor about your son's well being.

Good luck