I think that a mans place is in the home looking after the kids and doing the housework. Do you?

Question

Women are a lot smarter than men and can earn a lot more money so why should we raise the children and do all the work? I have told my man that unless he starts pulling his weight then I'm going to toss him out and get a nanny. I don't want him working and there's no need for him to. I give him the same pocket money that he used to give me so I am being fair aren't I?

Answer 1

Not really.  I think that parenting is a two person job, not one.  Both of you can work and get the nanny for the day and share equally.  You are just being controlling and overpowering and you are loving it to much.  I hope he ups and leaves you himself to show you a lesson.

Answer 2

i dont tink this job is either for a man or a woman but more for the person who will do a better job at it, also neither men and women are smarter than each other even though men can be stupid at times but so can women, your being unfair if you throw him out because hes not good at this,

even though i am a girl and should be on your side, i think that men and women should be treated equally

Answer 3

Not necessarily... I think it is degrading for a man to be forced to stay at home... My hubby works just during the winter months and he provides the pay check and yes i do work at our church nursery and get a weekly pay check but i dont think u are approaching this with reason... U are wanting to control your man and it is degrading to him... dont toss him out talk to him and see how he feels... in the bible it says the man is the head of the house and in our house we are equal partners... we share all the housework and we share all the bills and the money...

Answer 4

No i dont agree, i cannot wait until i have children and i would love for the man to go out and work all day while i care for the children and cook for them and do the housework, however if the children were school age i would work.

I want to be a nanny, however i agree that if you are the one working and the man isnt then he should be doing the housework looking after the children if he isnt doing anything all day

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Answer 5

Relationships should be 50/50. Would you like it if he told you that your place was in the kitchen and that he didn't want you working? A man needs to feel like he is providing for his family.. keep doing this and it won't be long until your husband replaces YOU.

Answer 6

I am with jazzy but what ever works in your house.  everyones house is different.

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Answer 7

No I think that the man should go out and make the money and the woman stay home with the kids ...And do house work but thats just my opinion

Answer 8

sorry, but i will disagree. a man is stronger mentally and physically, so he should be the breadwinner. a woman should be at home, tending to her family and making her husband happy. if she is able to do all of this and hold a job, more power to her. if i could have a child { and was married } my priorities would be husband , child / children , and then myself. p.s. a happy home starts with love and respect.  

Answer 9

I love staying home and let the wife slave away at work its excellent would not change it for the world. Have a Coffey when i want put the washing on put the dish washer on watch TV do some cleaning then do some sun bathing then get the kids dinner and so on its sheer heaven. I got the life of old Riley. Off down the pub tonight after i have done the tea with the lads as the better half will be knacked.

Answer 10

Absolutely!  If he complains just slap him on the bum and tell him to get the h**l back in that kitchen.  He shouldn't be worrying his pretty little head about finances anyway.......

Answer 11

Honey, with that attitude, you won't have to toss him out.  It won't be long before he leaves you willingly.

My husband and I have a mutual respect and love for each other and we make parenting decisions together and based on our individual preferences and beliefs.   Maybe you should try it.

Answer 12

No - sounds like your just trying to get even for something.

Answer 13

Well, I dont think a stay at home parent is a sexist thing.. It can either be the mommy or the daddy.  I think its a choice that a couple has to make.. In my case, my husband makes more money than I can possibly at this time so I am staying home.... but he would much rather be here with the kids than at work...  He does help around the house and with the kids as much as he can.

Answer 14

I think thats a little extreme, you should both do an equal amount of work around the house and taking care of the finances, or else one is going to feel less appreciated, in my opinion

Answer 15

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I don't believe that things should be like that. House work should be split and both husband and wife can work if they so choose. I don't think women are necessarily smarter either, and I'm a girl. Talk it over and if he wants to work and enjoys working, let him. It's his right.  

Answer 16

hmm.. no i don't agree at all. i think both parents should contribute to the finances and taking care of baby... but especially the mother. the mom has a different bond with her kids then the father does. she has instinct.. while i do believe women are smarter then men in most cases i believe the main parent in a childs life should be the mother... it would feel weird if it wasn't that way. but i mean if you like how thats working out then go you

Answer 17

In principle there is no reason why men cannot stay at home with the children all day to look after them, do shopping and keep the house in good order but it perhaps should be a joint decision.

I think some men would welcome the chance to bring up their kids and some women would equally enjoy going to work as the main or sole breadwinner. But isn't happiness the key? If your husband is forced to stay at home will he not resent both you and the kids for making him look after them?

I am all for women having equal rights and status in every department of our lives but never at the cost of revenge, forcing, or expecting men to do things as perhaps women once were. Women didn't like it then so why should me like it now? Love, peace and harmony is key, isn't it?

Answer 18

that is the way my family works, but my dad doesn't get pocket money (he substitute teaches a couple of days a week as his "pocket money"). The only problem is that most men suck at cleaning. It is like they don't even see that the dirt is there, or that there is a dishwasher with spaces for dishes, or that when you drop ice cream on the floor, you have to clean it up otherwise it sticks.

Answer 19

That's funny!  You've made a good point.  But be careful what you ask for.  He might take you up on it.

Answer 20

Wow, That is harsh. Why can't a man and a woman work together as equals in providing a nurturing environment for their children as well as work outside of the home. Sounds like you need marriage counseling if you can so easily "toss him out and get a nanny". I would be extremely hurt if my husband thought of me as being that disposable.  

Answer 21

lmao! pls come talk to my boyfriend that is wut i been telling him! i have a 6 month old and am in college n he says he doesnt know y i go to school i should jus stay home n take care of the BABIES- notice that is PLURAL! HA!

Answer 22

Yep i agree. Ever since my wife went back to work and i got laid off i see now how freakin EASY women have it. Sitting at home, watching tv and every now and then running the dishwasher and then take the kids out for lunch at McDonalds. How freakin hard is that women? You have it made.  

Answer 23

I agree totally agree thats why i have got mine out on the game,so she can earn a living and i can sit at home or go out with kids great arrangement,i can visit girlfriends all day the kids make new friends everybody is happy,i have three wives by the way aint that bigamy lol