I think the moms blaming me for her childs behavior?

Question

i have been a nanny for this family and today out of the blue the mom said her kids are doing and acting badly ever since i came into the picture. i asked her what she ment and she said well they a 3 and 5 year old

like to talk naps and had no problem going to sleep and now that i watching them they hate taking naps and scream and fight it during nap time. she said they never did that before you came. they always loved naps. and the 3 year old wouldnt eat dinner with me last night and i had feed her to get her to eat and the mom was like wow shes never done that before you came

and the mom came home early one day while we were having dinner and the 3 year old was in the highchair and every time she saw mom she would throw a fit and say i want mama i want mama and wouldnt eat but as soon as her mom walked out of the room she would stop screaming and eat and then the mom would come back and she would scream again and the mom was like she never does this..

what should i do here???

Answer 1

Quit your job and enroll in grammar school.

Seriously, use more than 1 sentance in the whole thing.

Answer 2

Maybe this is coming from their own unrealized guilt of not being home with their kids.  This is the age that they typically start fighting naps, so that is definatly not your fault.  As far as the other stuff, it just comes with getting used to a new care giver and new routine.

The screaming for mama during dinner...  Thats because she wants her mama.  She doesnt scream when mama isnt in the room because of the out of sight out of mind thing.  If she sees mama, she wants mama.  If mama cant be seen, its easy to distract from that.  Also typical of the age.

You should get the parents some books on early child development so that she understands the psychology behind the behavior.  These things will happen no matter who the nanny is.

Answer 3

the kids are in a diffrent STAGE then before u came kids do that tell her u understand and that it will past she's most likley embarrases and not wanting the blame....there is no one to blame kids do this c**p from time to time if u handel it with grace it could bring u guys closer if not you 2 may end up parting ways keep that in mind

Answer 4

I'd quit. Don't stick around to be her scapegoat. Being a nanny is a hard enough job when you work for parents who appreciate you!

Oh and I just had to laugh...

"Quit your job and enroll in grammar school." says the guy who spelled "sentence" wrong lol. :D

Answer 5

they are truly in denial and not self aware, they are placing the blame outward.  dont take it on, just recognize your part and leave the rest behind.  the kids have to get used to other people so of course they havent acted like that before, they are acting like that to manipulate their parents to stay.  geez, no appreciation on their part.