I think theres something wrong with me.?

Question

Okay. I think that i have serious problems. I'm 16, and nobody has ever really liked me. I'm never a loner, but i only have one good friend. Guys have NEVER taken interest in me, ever since kindergarten people have made fun of me terribly. I act like everything fine at school, but when I'm alone, i get really sad and i juss sit around all day.

Most people at my school dont like me, and i really hate it. I kno im not supposed to care, but i do. The guys i like always fall for super pretty chicks. I juss wanna be normal. I have this one really good chick friend, and when we're walkin around, its like all the guys look at her and talk to her, and ignore me. she doenst see it, but it hurts really bad.

Now im not lookin for dumbasses to be jerks.

Or ffor your pity.

I juss want someone to tell me is it okay to be this sad, and maybe my life has hadd something to do with it.

Answer 1

life is freaking hard.. really hard... your not alone.. NOT

i know many many people... i use to be very much a loner..

nobody.. im pretty popular now... and its just something that happens..

you have to be willing to do things your uncomfortable doing... and maybe that means looking in the mirror and facing truths, learning how to interact with yourself, then learning how to use that with others... its something that comes natural... ive been from suicidal.. to pretty much happy as can be... this may have nothing to do with your question.. but.. if it does im glad

Answer 2

First of all you're only 16 and in high school. It's not that unusual for  you to feel that way at your age. The problem isn't the way other people treat you it's because you have a negative self image. You give that off in what you're saying. You say that guys always fall for super pretty chicks and you just want to be normal. Well what is normal to you? You need to figure that out before you can take a serious look at your life. Keep in mind high school is about getting a good education not about making people like you.

I have a few tips for you, when dealing with people follow the four rules of engagement.

1. Everyone is always right

2. Everyone's greatest desire is to be right.

3. Nobody can change another person's mind.

4. You can change another person's perspective.

Your image of yourself is the only one that matters because everyone else creates their one sense of right. You need to realize your greatest desires are to be right. If this is true t hen  it doesn't matter what other people think. They nor I cannot change your mind on how you feel about yourself, but they can change your perspective.

It doesn't matter what other people think, don't feel sorry for yourself and be sad because of the way other people treat you. If you're sad because of how you perceive yourself you  are obviously not serving yourself in your perceptions. STOP THAT!!!

you are what you think you are. there is no reality only perception. forget what they all think high school ends in two years, get what you can out of it and prepare for a great life, a lot of wonderful things are coming in the next few years!!!

You'll be ok i promise, just read my advice and consider what i said. You'll be just fine!!!

Answer 3

You are lacking in self-confidence. Beauty starts from the inside. People pick up your vibes. If they feel that you don't like yourself, then they believe you. After all, who knows you better than you do? Once you start believing that you are likeable, honest, that you'd make a loyal friend etc. other people will start responding more positively to you. It's something that takes a lot of work but what have you got to lose? You're a young woman with a long life ahead of you. So, get started on that makeover and I guarantee you're life will be much happier!

Answer 4

I want to say that as an older woman, I would never want to a young woman today. Most young males have had their heads filled with so much shallow garbage from the media as it pertains to looks, that they wouldn't be able to spot a wonderful girl if she was covered in neon lights.  My advice to you: join a club at your school where you can meet boys with substance ( band, science club, chess club, future "somethings" of America) this way, you can also broaden your circle of friends. Good luck and remember to hold your head up high, look people in the eye and smile a little bit. A smile can sometimes open doors that were once closed to you.

Answer 5

You pretty much just described what high school was like for me.

I was the same way you are.

Now, as for your sadness and hopeless feelings, I would recommend that you see a therapist/counselor about that... you don't have to feel that way.  You shouldn't be embarrassed about going to a therapist, it doesn't mean that you're pitiful or broken.  It means you're helping yourself, and there's nothing wrong with that, ever.  

As someone who felt the same way in high school (I graduated 5 years ago), hopefully I can help you feel a little better for now though.

1. High school isn't forever.  It seems like it while you're there, but please know, high school is absolutely nothing like the real world.  Since you're 16, I'm assuming you only have two or three years left.  Trust me, they're gonna go by fast.  Study hard.  Focus on getting good grades.  Or at least trying to.  Find an extracurricular activity to join, whether it's school-sponsored or not.  You'll have fun, and the time will pass much faster.

2. Guys never took interest in me until the last few months of my senior year of high school.  I don't know why this happened, but it did.  Guys didn't become interested in my best friend until her freshman year of college.  It happens at different times for everyone.  I'll give you a tip, though: there's one things guys can't resist in a girl - confidence.  Convince yourself you're hot.  Wear something cute (not S****y!).  Get a new haircut.  Do something to make yourself feel like you look good.  When you feel hot, it's easier to be hot.  Guys love a girl who has confidence.  Get into the conversation when those guys are talking to your friend.  Show them you're interested.  Smile.  If you stand there looking jealous and unapproachable, they're not going to talk to you.

3. Don't bother with guys until after high school anyway.  They're immature.  They're going to find out really soon that those "super pretty chicks" are just that... super pretty, but nothing else.  You're smart and genuine, and they'll realize soon enough that your qualities are way better than big b***s and bleached hair.

4. Be you.  No one else.  

5. Your life is not always going to be like this.  You're not always going to be this sad.  You're not always going to feel rejected.  High school is hard socially.  It's not an accepting environment.  Girls are rotten to each other, and guys are totally immature and their views on girls are totally distorted by media, their friends, and their own ignorance.  There is nothing wrong with you.  Be patient.  You'll get your turn.

I know it's hard for you.  It was hard for me too.  Just keep remembering, this isn't all there is.  Try to be positive.  Keep yourself busy.  Before you know it, you'll be out of high school, and your life will be just beginning.   Please try to see a counselor.  They can help you sort out your sad feelings in the meantime.  

You're going to be alright.  Really.

Answer 6

You are only 16.  Trust me your life has not started yet.  Right now your life is a littel fishbowl...and will continue to be throughout high school when you are trapped with the same poeple you've known forever.  Once high school is over is when Life Begins!  You will meet so many new & differernt people.  Your eyes will be opened to the many great things the world has to offer.   Dont be sad that you dont have that many friends.  This will definitely change.  Many lifelong friendship are formed long after high school is over & done with!!  

Answer 7

My advice....Stop thinking about all the things that have gone wrong in the past 16 years and concentrate on the future. You need to change your attitude and start thinking about life as a "half filled glass"...Nobody wants to hang around all that negative energy...You have to start thinking that you are a worthwhile person and that you have something to offer. I will NOT tell you that it is ok to be this sad and I do not believe that you posted this question to get that kind of response. Do you want to change your life?Then stop blaming your unhappiness on everyone else and take control of your life ...You can make good things happen if you change your attitude and start believing in yourself. Good Luck!

Answer 8

I know exactly what you mean. I have that same thing.

A few things I figured out is that if you're a quiet person, people either get intimidated, or think you're stuck up or something. So I guess you could try chatting to others around you. And when those guys come around, don't wait for them to talk to you. "Speak only when you're spoken to" is a load of c**p. Just jump into the conversation, and make small remarks. Someone's bound to see you're just as awesome as your friend.

Another thing I figured is that the nicer you are, even to the people who give you a hard time, you get made fun of less. Usually when people make fun of others, it's so peers can see. But if the people around you, know you're a nice person, the offending person is ignored, or even told to shut up. At least that's how it is at my school.

But high school is hard for some people, and not for others. Just take a deep breath and remind your self, only a couple years left, and it doesn't seem as bad.

Hope I was helpful. =D