I think this guy played my friend, what do you think?

Question

first off i know its not any of my business, but this woman is my friend,and when she suffers i suffer, shes been seeing this guy for over three years but its a long distance relationship, shes in love but i think hes a user, he came down when she got her income tax and played her for every dime she got, then i heard him scream at her why didn,t you buy the stuff to fix your house up, that's why i came down, what a laugh she told me she could,t because he spent all her money on himself, he goes back home then tells her hes got a job lined up here but he needs money for a ticket, and he,ll come on the weekend, start the job on monday and pay her on friday, well he dosen,t show then he says hes leaving the next week, well after 3 weeks she tells him she really needs her money that her bills are so over due, that shes getting cut off notices, then he admits he spent her money but want even say on what and that she,ll get her money when he gets it. he also calls her every nite just to make sure shes not dating or seeing another man, which is exactly what i think she should be doing, this guys a loser, any advice for my friend?

Answer 1

It sounds like your friend might have some self-esteem issues to let herself get treated like that. It's tough to get in the middle of, and try to resolve, someone else's problems. I'd be a good friend and encourage her to budget her spending, and to look at where she wants to go in life and write down the steps she needs to get there. If she is self-conscious because of her weight, encourage her to go for walks or exercise with you. All this will boost her self-esteem and make it easier to send this guy packing without you "making" her do it.

Answer 2

no. your friends cot in a classic loop. she sees how great he is for a day or two, then he dumps on her but she remembers how great he was, then he's nice again and he's improved so much... drop a hint hear or there but in her mind he is great and when he's not she know he will be again.

Answer 3

Your friend is clearly dating a guy who is using her as an ATM machine and for s*x. Honestly, the question your friend should be asking herself are 1) what has he contributed to the relationship? 2) Is he constructive? 3) Is he a financial and emotional burden?

Your friend should just reassess for herself if she wants to live like this. Long term relationship is a open relationship with at least a double life. If nothing goes really wrong the relationship will last forever, unfortunate this shouldn't be it if she is looking for a long term and meaningful relationship.

Answer 4

ur friend is dumb to even spend money on a long distance relationship. tell her to stop and move on cuz thats stupid. tell her to get someone that can TAKE CARE of her instead of her taking care of him. and why wud she wanna stay wit a guy that has no money for the rest of her life? and probably he has someone over there tooo so yea. tell her to be smarter